starting fresh with husband's family

[Anonymous]

I posted on another thread and got some harsh but needed feedback. I've behaved pretty poorly with my inlaws. Yes, they started it but we aren't 12. If you had a bad relationship with your inlaws, how would you go about repairing it. I know changes behavior and an apology. What are some other ways to reach out and let bygones be bygones?

[Anonymous]

Raise above the bickering with your SIL. You weren't wrong to take care of your child. Just don't involve. Not all inlaw relationships need to be warm and cuddly. Sometimes cordial is enough.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Raise above the bickering with your SIL. You weren't wrong to take care of your child. Just don't involve. Not all inlaw relationships need to be warm and cuddly. Sometimes cordial is enough.

We're going to be in each other's lives permanently, so I would like a relationship.

[Anonymous]

Sometimes we don't get what we want. Forcing yourself on a crazy lady like your SIL will just result in more craziness. Try keeping her at arms length for a while and see if you can take baby steps toward a relationship later.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Sometimes we don't get what we want. Forcing yourself on a crazy lady like your SIL will just result in more craziness. Try keeping her at arms length for a while and see if you can take baby steps toward a relationship later.

I thought about inviting SIL and MIL to lunch.

[Anonymous]

You're to easily engaged. Sill will bait you and you'll fall for it.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Sometimes we don't get what we want. Forcing yourself on a crazy lady like your SIL will just result in more craziness. Try keeping her at arms length for a while and see if you can take baby steps toward a relationship later.

I thought about inviting SIL and MIL to lunch.

No. I'll write in more detail later but you're asking for trouble with this.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:You're to easily engaged. Sill will bait you and you'll fall for it.

I haven't for the past 4 months.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:You're to easily engaged. Sill will bait you and you'll fall for it.

I haven't for the past 4 months.

That's bc your approach has been all or nothing.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:You're to easily engaged. Sill will bait you and you'll fall for it.

I haven't for the past 4 months.

That's bc your approach has been all or nothing.

No, I've seen her. I've talked with her. I've just left everything that SHOULD be addressed by DH be addressed by DH. It's really made a difference.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:You're to easily engaged. Sill will bait you and you'll fall for it.

I haven't for the past 4 months.

That's bc your approach has been all or nothing.

No, I've seen her. I've talked with her. I've just left everything that SHOULD be addressed by DH be addressed by DH. It's really made a difference.

Ok that's good

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:You're to easily engaged. Sill will bait you and you'll fall for it.

I haven't for the past 4 months.

That's bc your approach has been all or nothing.

No, I've seen her. I've talked with her. I've just left everything that SHOULD be addressed by DH be addressed by DH. It's really made a difference.

Ok that's good

I feel like if we're going to let bygones by bygones and stuck with each other, it wouldn't hurt to have a relationship with her.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:You're to easily engaged. Sill will bait you and you'll fall for it.

I haven't for the past 4 months.

You want to get into fb drama again. I think you thrive on this crap

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Raise above the bickering with your SIL. You weren't wrong to take care of your child. Just don't involve. Not all inlaw relationships need to be warm and cuddly. Sometimes cordial is enough.

We're going to be in each other's lives permanently, so I would like a relationship.

You don't know that. If you get divorced, you probably wouldn't ever have to see them. I'm not saying you're going to get divorced, I'm saying never say never, or in this case, never say 'permanently.' It may not be so.

My two cents- disengage. your husband can take your daughter to see them, or not. I wouldn't involve with those people, and certainly wouldn't see them.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:You're to easily engaged. Sill will bait you and you'll fall for it.

I haven't for the past 4 months.

You want to get into fb drama again. I think you thrive on this crap

There was never Facebook drama. I posted a cigarette question on a mommy group and BIL posted a hateful status about me which I texted him about. Move on.