P*nis + s*x + s*xualization are all now banned from DCUM?

[Anonymous]

What's the deal? Aren't we all adults?

[jsteele]

The advertisers and some work, school, and library environments don't always like such terms or topics. We have an explicit forum which doesn't have advertising exactly for this reason. Feel free to use that forum for all of your adult topics.

[jsteele]

Just to be clear because I didn't exactly understand the subject, the words are not exactly banned. It depends on the context. It is the sexualized use of the words that is the issue.

[Anonymous]

Here's my rule of thumb. I would not write anything on DCUM that I would have a problem with a coworker reading over my shoulder.

[Anonymous]

Ok but if they aren't explicit, they are ok? That is what I thought. Then, why do you keep deleting my posts? For example, when I posted this same question earlier this morning?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Here's my rule of thumb. I would not write anything on DCUM that I would have a problem with a coworker reading over my shoulder.

Ok. I would share all of my deleted posts with my co-worker.

Feeling particularly puritanical this week?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Here's my rule of thumb. I would not write anything on DCUM that I would have a problem with a coworker reading over my shoulder.

My coworker is a stripper too!

[Anonymous]

Really??

[Anonymous]

Total BS.

[Anonymous]

I didn't even include "sexualization" in this one. What's the problem???

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Anonymous wrote:Title says most of it -- I'm a new mom of two and the WRX isn't ideal for kids/carseats. I would like something higher off the ground. But I want the same WRX driving experience -- fast, manual transmission, fun, AWD/4WD for the winter. Is there anything that fits the bill that sits higher off the ground?

First, as a car guy, I find this incredibly hot and I love your attitude. Manual transmissions are getting hard to find. Fast cars are the only way to shop, even if you have a family. Just because its not someone's else's criteria doesn't mean that you cannot actually enjoy driving your car.

So what exactly is your budget?

Do you need a hatchback/wagon or will a sedan work?

Sedans would be:

Current Audi S4 (only car with AWD)
2005-2010 BMW m5
2016 Alfa Romeo Giulia Quadrifoglio
2008-2013 BMW M3 sedan
2013+ BMW M3 sedan

SUVs:

2010ish Porsche Cayenne GTS
<2006 BMW X5

If you can live without manual, but can live with a dual clutch (which is technically a manual transmission, but without the 3rd pedal), some of the cars above also come in that option.

As a car girl, I find this comment gross.

So it's gross that I have a type I am attracted to? I find that an attractive trait because it typical shows that they are down to earth, aren't high maintenance with driving a manual transmission, and that they enjoy the aspects of real driving.

Do you find it gross that some women are attracted to musicians, tattoos, or intelligence? I doubt you are a car girl like you claim. A c class Mercedes doesn't count.

I think it's gross that you can't just talk cars with a woman like she's an actual person. Not just your "type".

I really enjoy driving, have driven a stick since I was 15 (minus 5 years with a family car - sporty little SUV), and I'll smoke you next time we're at a light. I was also the first person on this thread to actually suggest a car that has manual transmission (S4 back on page 1). But I still think your comment was disrespectful.

If you actually read my message, I did speak to OP like an actual person and provided several options that could potentially meet her criteria. No where did I mention her looks in my comment. We can agree to disagree on the disrespectful. I've moved on from that initial comment and even provided additional fun vehicles after getting the OP's budget. It's easy to get to name calling from an innocent comment on an anonymous forum by calling me a man child though.

I'm glad you live your life "a quarter mile" at a time by smoking me at the light, but there are other aspects of driving that include apexes, threshold braking, weight transfer, rev-matching, corner exit speeds etc.

Your initial statement was tough to get past. If you'd like to provide advice in the future (on a "mommy" forum of all places) please drop the sexist crap.

And I didn't call you names. I just called your statement gross and disrespectful.

LOL. And mansplaining driving to me? What a joke.

[Anonymous]

Unless you are cool with some old slimy dude hanging out on mommy forums drooling over any women who can drive a stick??? It's just gross.

[jsteele]

Anonymous wrote:I didn't even include "sexualization" in this one. What's the problem???

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Anonymous wrote:Title says most of it -- I'm a new mom of two and the WRX isn't ideal for kids/carseats. I would like something higher off the ground. But I want the same WRX driving experience -- fast, manual transmission, fun, AWD/4WD for the winter. Is there anything that fits the bill that sits higher off the ground?

First, as a car guy, I find this incredibly hot and I love your attitude. Manual transmissions are getting hard to find. Fast cars are the only way to shop, even if you have a family. Just because its not someone's else's criteria doesn't mean that you cannot actually enjoy driving your car.

So what exactly is your budget?

Do you need a hatchback/wagon or will a sedan work?

Sedans would be:

Current Audi S4 (only car with AWD)
2005-2010 BMW m5
2016 Alfa Romeo Giulia Quadrifoglio
2008-2013 BMW M3 sedan
2013+ BMW M3 sedan

SUVs:

2010ish Porsche Cayenne GTS
<2006 BMW X5

If you can live without manual, but can live with a dual clutch (which is technically a manual transmission, but without the 3rd pedal), some of the cars above also come in that option.

As a car girl, I find this comment gross.

So it's gross that I have a type I am attracted to? I find that an attractive trait because it typical shows that they are down to earth, aren't high maintenance with driving a manual transmission, and that they enjoy the aspects of real driving.

Do you find it gross that some women are attracted to musicians, tattoos, or intelligence? I doubt you are a car girl like you claim. A c class Mercedes doesn't count.

I think it's gross that you can't just talk cars with a woman like she's an actual person. Not just your "type".

I really enjoy driving, have driven a stick since I was 15 (minus 5 years with a family car - sporty little SUV), and I'll smoke you next time we're at a light. I was also the first person on this thread to actually suggest a car that has manual transmission (S4 back on page 1). But I still think your comment was disrespectful.

If you actually read my message, I did speak to OP like an actual person and provided several options that could potentially meet her criteria. No where did I mention her looks in my comment. We can agree to disagree on the disrespectful. I've moved on from that initial comment and even provided additional fun vehicles after getting the OP's budget. It's easy to get to name calling from an innocent comment on an anonymous forum by calling me a man child though.

I'm glad you live your life "a quarter mile" at a time by smoking me at the light, but there are other aspects of driving that include apexes, threshold braking, weight transfer, rev-matching, corner exit speeds etc.

Your initial statement was tough to get past. If you'd like to provide advice in the future (on a "mommy" forum of all places) please drop the sexist crap.

And I didn't call you names. I just called your statement gross and disrespectful.

LOL. And mansplaining driving to me? What a joke.

The OP of that thread requested advice about cars. A poster supplied such advice and, in the process, include a phrase to which you obviously objected. The OP, however, replied to that post without demonstrating any objection and actually requesting more information. That is exactly the way we want DCUM to work.

On the other hand, a number of posts took issue with the phrase to which you objected and attached the poster for that phrase. The poster, in turn, responded and the thread was turning into a gender war. That is not how we want DCUM to work.

I don't know how many times it needs to be said, but don't hijack threads. If you had helpful advice for the OP, please provide it. If not, move on.

[Anonymous]

Since you are not a woman, let me explain. I'll womansplain. Sometimes a woman just wants to be a person. A person who likes cars. Or football. Or whatever. And it'd be nice if the guys could stop sexualizing this. In particular on a website dominated by women.

So keep deleting, but it just shows how ignorant you are to what women in male-dominated careers/interests/hobbies face every day.

Just let that OP ask a legit question about cars. Don't make it about sex/gender. It's disrespectful to women.

[jsteele]

Anonymous wrote:Unless you are cool with some old slimy dude hanging out on mommy forums drooling over any women who can drive a stick??? It's just gross.

That is not what happened and you are grossly exaggerating. The poster provided helpful advice which the OP appears to have appreciated.

[Anonymous]

As you can see I did post a few suggestions for OP before that dirty old man started.