My sister overshares on Facebook and it's driving me nuts

[Anonymous]

I've tried to tell her it's unbecoming and she just won't quit. Nobody cares about your 9yearold daughter's swim "tournaments" - which are literally every single weekend. Her marriage is rocky but she posts like it's perfect. And maybe worst of all is her teenage son is a such an ungrateful jerk to her (I've heard him call her a "B", punch walls) yet she posts things to make him look like an angel. I know this is something a lot of people do, but it just drives me mad because it's my sister and we have a lot of mutual friends — and she includes my family in her posts — so it's embarrassment by association.

[Anonymous]

Unfollow.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Unfollow.

Doesn't remove the issue - merely hides it from me.

[Anonymous]

Tell her she does not have permission to post your family. Also tell her she is opening up her kids to problems. But most of all, confront her grave denial. Nobody fixes a marriage who is in denial. Time for an intervention.

[Anonymous]

Most people do this too. I think you're redirecting your anger at her life onto this FB issue.

[Anonymous]

OP, you're an older sister, right?

MYOB. I don't like oversharers who post every.single.thing, and of course there's always more to the presentation of perfect and "so cool because I'm always busy," but ignore and myob. It's not about you so don't make it about you.

[Anonymous]

Stop allowing her taking pictures of you and your children. If she doesn't like it explain why.

[Anonymous]

Its only embarassing to you because its your sister. Trust me--when I look at the over-sharers in my newsfeed, all I do is roll my eyes. I don't immediately cast aspersions on their entire family.

[Anonymous]

She's not oversharing, she's covering up. She's making her life look better than it is, which is the essence of Facebook.

[Anonymous]

Maybe this is what she does to keep her sanity.

I don't post dirty laundry on my fb. I post nice things about my kids even though I have a SN child who makes life extremely difficult. It makes me feel better to focus on the good things.

For me, oversharing is when someone posts about terrible things a spouse or ex-spouse has done. Or something about one's physical body that seems a little too private (too much flatulence for example). Or when my own sister posts things about her work that make me think she could lose her job over it if someone saw it.

You can ask her not to post about you or your family. But nothing you can do about her talking about her own.

[Anonymous]

How is this oversharing?

Oversharing would be posting that her son is a shit who calls her a bitch and she has a terrible marriage. Is that what you want?????

[Anonymous]

Yes, I've been in a similar situation with family (though I hate to call my BIL's girlfriend "family").

It's hard to unfollow because you want to see what's happening in your family.

OP, I say live and let live.

[Anonymous]

OP you're a control freak. Go fix your own "perfect" family and let others worry about theirs

[Anonymous]

This is why I'm not on Facebook. It would drive me batty to see people post photos of their glamorous vacations and lovey-dovey photos of their spouses when I knew they were hanging only a thread and were asking the family for "loans". My BIL and SIL posted "love you forever" posts on each other's timeline on their anniversary while my SIL was asking DH for divorce lawyer recommendations!! I couldn't take it anymore so I got off Facebook. Honestly? Best decision ever. No more feelings of envy, no more frustration when you'd see blatant lying and hypocrisy, and lots of time back. If only I could learn to stop checking DCUM....

[Anonymous]

OP, most people use FB for posting about things like kids' swim tournaments. My friends are not posting about splitting the atom. And I hate to break it to you, but most adolescents are jerks, and none of us talk about the rocky side of our marriages.

You really sound like a nightmare. Please go find a new hobby other than tormenting people.