My sister overshares on Facebook and it's driving me nuts

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP

You are an idiot.

You go on Facebook and are offended by nonsense trivia? That is what Facebook is.

Some people post too much and if it bothers you too much, hide her posts.

Anyone who has facebook can use the search to find posts and pictures my name is used in. Our surname is also pretty rare, so merely searching our last name can find most of my family tree. It's all very unbecoming, and, unsettling.

Her sister is the idiot

[Anonymous]

OP, go to FB my profile and change your Lastname.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP

You are an idiot.

You go on Facebook and are offended by nonsense trivia? That is what Facebook is.

Some people post too much and if it bothers you too much, hide her posts.

Anyone who has facebook can use the search to find posts and pictures my name is used in. Our surname is also pretty rare, so merely searching our last name can find most of my family tree. It's all very unbecoming, and, unsettling.

Is her profile really set to public? Really???

Yes! I think it's the default - as in my experience about half are open. It's actually somewhat tricky to completely close everything you do - be design, no doubt.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote: She actually sounds pretty nice.....maybe you could learn from her?

She sits on her lazy ass all day watching tv and posting on fb while a cleaning crew cleans the house.

So having a clean house is a priority for her and she has hired an excellent cleaning service - good for her.

You really, REALLY want to find fault with your sister. Why is that?

[Anonymous]

You sound really unhappy with yourself, OP.

You're looking to find fault with your sister as a distraction from yourself. Lay off of her and focus on yourself.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Is she tagging you in her posts? My SIL used to do that in everything she posted (I guess so we would see it?) and I changed my settings so I have to approve any tags. That way at least my friends aren't seeing her posts.

+1. This is what I did in a similar situation. No more tagging for me, thanks!

[Anonymous]

I have an obscure surname and my cousin also posts a lot of pics and trivial crap. It never occurred to me that people are linking the two of us. Why would they? Katie Bogdanovich is having another barbecue! Larla Bogdanovich must be an idiot!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:You sound really unhappy with yourself, OP.

You're looking to find fault with your sister as a distraction from yourself. Lay off of her and focus on yourself.

This. You know what they say about finger pointing. Just tell her not to mention you and your perfect family in her posts.

[Anonymous]

I thought this is what FB was for.

[Anonymous]

Wow, all the critics!! Miserable folks. OP, 1) get savvy with your FB settings, tighten it up. And 2), you obviously love your sister but she is old enough to screw it up herself. Live and let live and keep your distance at a safe distance, whatever that is for you. Lastly, 3) pay attention to who is photographing your kids, even family. Sweet grandmoms can pass photos around and not be aware of where they wind up.

[Anonymous]

OP, I'm sorry people are being so hard on you. I totally sympathize. I choose what I want to post and share on Facebook, and am not okay with other people choosing for me. In the same situation, here are the steps I took:

I added restrictions to where I have to approve a post.
I untagged myself
I contacted said person and asked them to stop talking about me
I deleted said person from my Facebook when they continued.

Good luck!

[Anonymous]

Accept the things you cannot change (your sister) and just keep repeating this mantra, "I am not my sister and people who don't understand that are not worth having as friends."

Sorry you have to deal with this but do remember she is a separate person from you and you are not responsible for her behavior.

[Anonymous]

Her FB, her choice.

[Anonymous]

OP you are mean.

[Anonymous]

OP isn't mean, she just has self-awareness and cares about her online footprint. Some people — especially stay-at-home moms — get drunk on likes, attention, and faint praise. It's low and tacky.