Dad buying DD bras and underwear question

[Anonymous]

DD is 13 and needs stuff that her mother is not getting her. My rule has always been that I won't buy DD anything unless I see it first. How do I do this with bras and underwear. She spent the summer with her grandparents and oddly came home with only 5 pairs of underwear. I asked DD if she wanted a female friend of mine (not a girlfriend) to come with us tor to take DD just the two of them but she said no.

Based on how DD will get wrong pants and shirts fitting I have no confidence in her getting these right on fit without adult input.

[Anonymous]

Would she feel comfortable choosing items online & placing in the online shopping cart for you to glance at before inputting credit card info?

(Signed, single mom who will be facing this with guy stuff in a few years ... kudos to you)

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Would she feel comfortable choosing items online & placing in the online shopping cart for you to glance at before inputting credit card info?

(Signed, single mom who will be facing this with guy stuff in a few years ... kudos to you)

I'm not comfortable with that because there's no way to check fit.

[Anonymous]

Eww. Creeper. No your 13 year old DD is not your own personal underwear model. Gross. (And if you really are that clueless and not a creeper, and store that sells women's underwear will have a female sales associate who does professional fittings).

[Anonymous]

Make an appointment for her at Nordstrom. Someone will help her find the right things.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Make an appointment for her at Nordstrom. Someone will help her find the right things.

+1 It's strange to think that salespeople offer this service, but they do.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Eww. Creeper. No your 13 year old DD is not your own personal underwear model. Gross. (And if you really are that clueless and not a creeper, and store that sells women's underwear will have a female sales associate who does professional fittings).

Are you always an idiot. That's exactly why he's posting. Because he CANT check the fit to make sure she's getting the right stuff. I know you're just trying to be an unoriginal troll, but really, you just make yourself look stupid. Now go back to your sad existence of a life. You can't have much going for you if this is how yiu get your rocks off

[Anonymous]

When my daughter was this age, she had a friend with a single dad. He discreetly asked me if I could help her out with buying bras. It was not a big deal. He sent money with her. My daughter, her friend and I went, had a sales associate help with sizing. It seemed like a good start and less awkward for her dad.

[Anonymous]

It's almost comical you think you know how a bra is supposed to fit.

Go to Nordstrom or victoria's secret and let the professionals deal with it.

[Anonymous]

I really think you need to trust your teenager daughter to buy the right size underwater. Bra she may need a fitting, higher-end department store, Victoria's Secret, or bra store can help.

[Anonymous]

Your 13 yo is old enough to determine for herself if her underwear fits. The fact that she's purchased the wrong size pants in the past is not relevant here. There's no appropriate way for you to check.

Make it clear that you're not going to be checking (obviously!) so you're leaving her to determine whether the garments fit and she will have to deal with ill-fitting items for the remainder of the year if she picks the wrong size (baring a growth spurt) then take her to a department store where an attendant can measure her and help her pick out appropriate items *while you wait outside the dressing room with your head down in a book.*

Sorry to sound so strict but this is one of the most embarrassing situations your daughter can be in and you respecting her privacy, maintaining appropriate boundaries, and showing a bit of faith in her ability to learn from past mistakes is more important than maybe buying the wrong size that she will have to wear and live with for a few months.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:It's almost comical you think you know how a bra is supposed to fit.

Go to Nordstrom or victoria's secret and let the professionals deal with it.

I'm a straight guy. I've taken off many bras, and gone shopping with women for bras. I know what looks right or wrong.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:When my daughter was this age, she had a friend with a single dad. He discreetly asked me if I could help her out with buying bras. It was not a big deal. He sent money with her. My daughter, her friend and I went, had a sales associate help with sizing. It seemed like a good start and less awkward for her dad.

I asked if I could take her to Nordstrom or VS Pink and let a salesgirl help her, which she rejected. I'm going to try this - she's got a couple of friends whose moms I think could talk her into this.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:It's almost comical you think you know how a bra is supposed to fit.

Go to Nordstrom or victoria's secret and let the professionals deal with it.

I'm a straight guy. I've taken off many bras, and gone shopping with women for bras. I know what looks right or wrong.

You are an idiot. Women have sales women help the get the right fit. But you a man that has never worn one... "Knows what looks right".

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:It's almost comical you think you know how a bra is supposed to fit.

Go to Nordstrom or victoria's secret and let the professionals deal with it.

I'm a straight guy. I've taken off many bras, and gone shopping with women for bras. I know what looks right or wrong.

great, you have had sex with a woman, now you are qualified to give your daughter her first pelvic exam.

Why is her mother not dealing with this?