Please put on your socks and shoes x 14
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Anonymous
| I realize that lately I've been getting annoyed with my 5 year old too much, but yesterday I counted 14 times over the course of 20 minutes that I asked him to please put on his socks and shoes before I finally snapped with "why can't you just put in your socks and shoes!?!?" He is fully capable of doing it on his own, it took him less than a minute once he got started, he just gets distracted easily and starts doing other things over and over. My older kid was never this way, very disciplined and usually happy to do things like that the first or maybe second time I asked. I really don't know how to parent this one as well, he's a daydreamer and wanderer and I find myself snapping after asking him to do something simple over a dozen times when we have to get out the door. Any strategies for this type of kid? |
Anonymous
| At 5? Take him by the hand, lead him to the shoes, gently sit him down. |
Anonymous
| On his iPad and he doesn't do what he is told, then take the iPad away. Playing with a toy and doesn't do what you say, it goes away also. No need to say anything. Just go over and take it away. He is capable of understanding what he needs to do and when |
Anonymous
| Just leave and sit in the car, make it seem like you will leave without him. I actually drove off one afternoon with my barefoot child screaming and crying. I stopped at the end of the block and turned around. I calmly told him that I asked you to get your shoes on because I need to leave. We have never had a problem again with asking multiple times. |
Anonymous
| Oh my. Op, my kids is the same. Getting shoes she really liked and could fasten easily helped some, but still there are so many distractions in the way. I'll be watching for other tips. |
Anonymous
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Distractions can be as little as a piece of fluff on the floor. I went through this with both my kids, now older ES/MS. Hang in there. It does get better.
I counted, 1,2,3.. if your shoes aren't on by the time I count to 5 you lose x tonight. I hated that I had to use this method for so many things. But, now they know that if I ask them to do something, they'd better do it because I follow through with my threat. |
Anonymous
+1 |
Anonymous
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Why in the world are you asking him that many times?
"Larlo, put your shoes on." Take the time to watch him do it, that way you can stop him if he veers off to something else. That will likely take less time than asking him 14 times in 20 minutes. Give him twice, and then he has to leave barefoot. He can put his stuff on in the car. |
Anonymous
| When my 3 year old is in a distractable mood, I ask her once or twice nicely to do something, then I warn her in a stern voice, "this is the last time I'm asking, do it now or I'm doing it for you." This gets her attention and she will usually hurry up because she knows I will follow through. And she's independent and doesn't want mommy putting on shoes for her. |
Anonymous
| Clearly he gets distracted and clearly you do to. Make a request, watch him go (like PPs say, take away distractions. But remember, just like adults, kids don't like to be interrupted mid-activity. Make sure its a natural stopping point) and wait for him to come back. Don't get distracted by your own activities. After a while you won't need to micromanage but for now you simply have to to help him learn. |
Anonymous
| Say it once. When you repeat it, say you'll take x away if not completed. Don't repeat yourself after that. |
Anonymous
| Maybe bc you aren't ready to go he feels that he can do just 1 more thing before transitioning |
Anonymous
| Maybe bc you aren't ready to go he feels that he can do just 1 more thing before transitioning |
Anonymous
| Don't say please. You're not asking him to do you a favor. Just say "time to put shoes on" one time and after that there's a consequence. |
Anonymous
This. Don't ask to soon. Make sure you have his attention first. And don't ask more than twice. The second time watch until it's completed. This is not a punishable offense. You people are crazy! |