A vent - Disney dad annoys me
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Anonymous
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My kid is back from summer at dads. He ate (according to dad) m&m yogurt every day for lunch at camp, and popcorn chicken and fries for dinner every day. He only drinks juice and soda at dads too. This is out of my control. I get it.
But I'm really annoyed because now he's home and I don't have the same policy. So my kid hasn't eaten dinner in THREE DAYS because he now hates tacos, chicken thighs, and whatever we had 3 nights ago. He's not eating his school lunch because it's not full of sugar and candy. So he's hungry. And I have to listen to the tantrums and screaming while he readjusts to the real world. IT SUCKS. And my child's dentist was worried about him being deficient in something, so the pediatrician was worried about the child's diet. Guess what ex??? You're so damned worried about deficiencies and yet you don't feed him healthy food!! THERE IS A CONNECTION! Ok I'm done. I'm going to go give a screaming hungry child a shower now. This sucks. |
Anonymous
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Maybe your son needs to ease into things. Give him fried chicken but make him take the fried skin off. Today fries, tomorrow half fries and half baked potato.
Today yogurt with 10 m&ms, tomorrow yogurt with 5, etc. Ease him back. It's hard. |
Anonymous
| Fear of this exact situation is what keeps me in my crappy marriage. |
Anonymous
Yup. |
Anonymous
Sadly, we do this every single year. The only thing that works is just going cold turkey and making him be hungry a few days. He'll be eating just fine by Sunday. The yogurt idea won't work because he doesn't eat the yogurt. He eats the m&ms. |
Anonymous
Yeah. I get it. We weren't married, and my ex was abusive. So, we live several hundred miles from each other now (which is heaven 90% of the time), but the week kiddo comes home from summer is hell. |
Anonymous
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He may not show it now, but he will appreciate the stability and the grown up parenting when he's older.
Hang in there, OP. |
Anonymous
| Dad only gets a week. He isn't parenting as that is visitation, not parenting time. Dad doesn't live near you and you probably do not communicate much to him to know your routine, diet, etc. Nothing wrong with M&M Yogurt. Hell, I'd be thrilled if my kid ate that. Just say you want the child support and no visits and be honest and tell dad. |
Anonymous
OP here. Umm? Where did you get all that information? We have a court ordered visitation schedule that includes MUCH more than a week per summer, and I'm obligated to provide the child during the court ordered times. I communicate plenty, including the child's favorite foods (which dad ignores because of his own limited diet), bedtimes, etc. all of it is ignored because ex thinks I'm a terrible parent. He's wrong, but I'm still annoyed at how difficult the transitions are. It was a vent. My kid will go back to eating normally in a few days. It just takes time. |
Anonymous
| Yikes. You two need to grow up and become better coparents for your child's sake. |
Anonymous
| Your child is making a choice. This has nothing to do with your ex. Blame your child. |
Anonymous
| It is so hard to deal with the kid freakouts-you have all my sympathy. But, you are almost there-by the time his first week is over he will reset. |
Anonymous
| How old is the kid? |
Anonymous
I agree. |
Anonymous
Ohhh, gotcha. Okay then. Well, I'll hope the next couple of days pass quickly for you in that case. |