Did you ever marry someone KNOWING it wouldn't work?

[Anonymous]

What happened? Are you happy now? Why didn't you get out?

[Anonymous]

I think very people people get married KNOWING it won't work. More common is choosing to overlook or minimize obvious problems and concerns because you want to BELEIVE it will work. I bet more than half of the marriages that fail do so simply because of the poor decision making that led to getting married in the first place.

[Anonymous]

No as well as I had hoped!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I think very people people get married KNOWING it won't work. More common is choosing to overlook or minimize obvious problems and concerns because you want to BELEIVE it will work. I bet more than half of the marriages that fail do so simply because of the poor decision making that led to getting married in the first place.

Yup this. Every divorced or miserably married couple I know can now say they should have known but none will say they did know.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I think very people people get married KNOWING it won't work. More common is choosing to overlook or minimize obvious problems and concerns because you want to BELEIVE it will work. I bet more than half of the marriages that fail do so simply because of the poor decision making that led to getting married in the first place.

Guilty. I got married to my first wife knowing there were issues but believing that we would be able to work them out.

I was wrong.

[Anonymous]

My marriage didn't work out and yes, with hindsight I can see lots of red flags that I didn't pay enough attention to at the time. I don't regret it though, if it was a poor decision, I still came out ahead with an awesome kid who I wouldn't have otherwise.

[Anonymous]

Yep. Knew the night before the wedding but my mother shamed me. Was divorced 4 years later. I was young and stupid.

[Anonymous]

I married my husband knowing I wasn't in love with him. Does that count? We're still married and have been together a long time.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I married my husband knowing I wasn't in love with him. Does that count? We're still married and have been together a long time.

Me too! I was young and pregnant, so I figured I might as well give it a shot. Not the love of my life, but we don't fight. So it's working so far (7 years).

[Anonymous]

No, I didn't know. To be fair, I didn't give it much thought, because living for today has always been and still is my thing. It is working now. I don't know if or how it will or won't work in the future.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I married my husband knowing I wasn't in love with him. Does that count? We're still married and have been together a long time.

Me too! I was young and pregnant, so I figured I might as well give it a shot. Not the love of my life, but we don't fight. So it's working so far (7 years).

Are you in love now?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I married my husband knowing I wasn't in love with him. Does that count? We're still married and have been together a long time.

Me too! I was young and pregnant, so I figured I might as well give it a shot. Not the love of my life, but we don't fight. So it's working so far (7 years).

Arranged marriages aren't so bad.

[Anonymous]

I married my wife knowing that I would be plenty miserable. She shows all the signs of being bipolar (but has refused to be evaluated), when she having a good day there is no one I rather be with. Her smile lights up the room. She is definitely my better half. When the other side comes out, she is down right scary - belittling anyone in her path, and at times wanton destruction. The kids and I just try to weather the storm.
We've been married for getting close to 20 years. I love her dearly, and could not imagine life without her. But there are times where I have wished I wasn't married to her. I got really close to moving out about a year ago, but made the decision that I loved her, and being with her, more than I hated those times when the evil side came out. When those times come, I just think about all she means to me and the happiness I have when I'm with her - even when she is being mean to me

She is the most beautiful woman in the world to me. She gave me several wonderful - at times - children. So yes, I knew what I was getting into, and don't regret it at all.

[Anonymous]

Guilty. I totally knew my first marriage would end in a divorce but did it anyway.
SUCH A MISTAKE. I was young and stubborn-boy do I regret it.
Separated 2.5 years after the wedding and then divorced.

[Anonymous]

I went into marriage knowing he loved me more than I loved him, but I was OK with that. Sexual chemistry wasn't there, but the sex was good. I was ready to be married. 20 years later I'm less OK with it.