Is this secretive behavior or no big deal?
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Anonymous
| Ok so DH had a 10 year relationship before we met 3 years ago. I don't really know much about it but she was very well received by his family (I just know this bc his sister and her will occasionally get together and I see this on Facebook) and it didn't seem to be a dramatic break up. Anyway she emailed DH a few weeks ago about a storage unit they had. She said that her new place is big enough now and she doesn't really need the storage so does he want to take it over or get rid of it. I had never realized he was splitting a monthly fee with this woman! I guess every decemeber he just sent her 50 percent of the yearly fee. I feel a little betrayed and like its an odd thing to never mention. That said I went with him to the unit to clean it out and it really had nothing secretive or offense or anything worth hiding. Skies, lamps, old car parts, a collection of soccer jerseys, like honestly nothing great. He said he was just delaying cleaning it out and it meant nothing. Im inclined to believe him but its so odd it never once came up!! What do you think? |
Anonymous
| nbd. |
Anonymous
| nothing to worry about. |
Anonymous
| I would be more worried that he spend 10 years with a woman he didn't marry--if you hope to get married, that is. |
Anonymous
DH means "dear HUSBAND" |
Anonymous
| Not a big deal |
Anonymous
| How much was his share of the annual fee? Assuming it didn't make a dent in your budget, I'd say no big deal. Though I'd probably still be pretty pissed in your shoes. But I can get why he never said anything. |
Anonymous
| He probably never thought about it and was hoping the stuff in there would just disappear. Probably more laziness than secretive. |
Anonymous
Uh.... They're married. |
Anonymous
+1 NBD |
Anonymous
|
NBD. I was in the same boat when I split with my ex after 6 years. He was in the military and we had put a bunch of stuff in a storage unit in our hometown when we moved to his duty station. It was 4 years after we split up, he was discharged, then bought a house in our hometown, so he called and asked if I wanted anything out of there. He ended up with a box of little things he thought I might want and that was it. We had an amicable break up and were friendly when crossing paths over the years, so there was no rush to deal with it.
Your DH took you with him to go through the unit so definitely not something to worry about. |
Anonymous
| Yeah, he just didn't want to deal with it. So now he is, NBD. |
Anonymous
| Stop looking for problems where there aren't any. This is a total non-issue. |
Anonymous
| How can you people say its no big deal? He committed financial infidelity! To took money from the marital funds. Its a very big deal! What else is he hiding? |
Anonymous
| No big deal. It's a very minimal amount - he probably didn't even think about it. |