Did I Screw Up? Said Some Things To Her While Drunk

[Anonymous]

I'm a fairly young guy and could use some mature advice.

So I met this girl a few months ago and everything was going well but I could really use some advice.

Well I’m not sure if I screwed up or not.

I was with her the other night and got pretty drunk. I saw that another guy was calling her and made a joke at first about her having a ‘roster and said “oh I see your ‘number 1’ is calling”, “f”ck him. I say that I have a number one as well but then retract it and said that I was just kidding because I don’t have a number 1. I tell her that she’s number 1 and only 1. Then I asked her if I’m really not her number one. So she turns her head away from and that’s when I said “seriously? am I not?”. She started laughing and said you are but then I said that i thought she was lying (because she was laughing). She said that she wouldn’t lie to me. After that I said that I’m going to call her my baby because she’s my baby. Also, that whatever she’s doing for her birthday (it’s coming up) that I want to be there. After that we were kissing and I stop and pulls us apart and said, “can we just stop playing games it’s just you and me okay?” and she said ok. She then asked if I’m usually this touchy feely and I said no, only when I really like someone and I like you a lot. I’m going to call you my baby because you’re my baby.”

The next morning we didn’t really talk about it. I woke up making a joke about me saying f*ck that other guy and she just asked if I remembered what I said. I said yea the gist of it. I contacted her two days in a row after just to chit chat and she seemed fine.

My question is, the fact that she didn’t really ask about what I said while drunk, especially the very next day was that her avoiding it? Not on the same page?

I just figured she would want to talk about it…

Did she seem not that into what I was saying to her? Would you believe what I was saying while drunk?

Thanks.

[Anonymous]

Grow up, simple.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Grow up, simple.

+1.
How do so many young, clueless people find aboard that is supposedly about parenting/relationships?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Grow up, simple.

I'm sure OP would appreciate something more than just a simple "grow up".

[Anonymous]

OP, you are young and got too drunk and said a few weird things. I actually don't even think what you said was that off the wall. To me you came across a bit jealous, which can actually be endearing. I think she probably assumed your comments were made because you really like her. It's natural to want to be number one! My boyfriend is 48 and still gets a little jealous and says similar things. I assume you just wanted some reassurance that you are a priority to her. I think she did not want to talk about it because there really is not much to talk about.

[Anonymous]

Stop getting drunk. Problem solved.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP, you are young and got too drunk and said a few weird things. I actually don't even think what you said was that off the wall. To me you came across a bit jealous, which can actually be endearing. I think she probably assumed your comments were made because you really like her. It's natural to want to be number one! My boyfriend is 48 and still gets a little jealous and says similar things. I assume you just wanted some reassurance that you are a priority to her. I think she did not want to talk about it because there really is not much to talk about.

Thanks. Her laughing to just threw me off. I just took that as a bad sign.
Should I just tell her that I was "just kidding" or does that come off like I'm only taking it back out of fear for what she might say?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Stop getting drunk. Problem solved.

That's all people have to say?
I'm all grown up & middle aged and I would have liked this interaction fine. These are not bad things to say while drunk, it's kind of endearing stuff - as long as you meant it.
I'd want to get you drunk more often, really.

[Anonymous]

When I was 20 I told my then-girlfriend, when I was drunk, "F&&& off, get out of my life." She asked me about it the next day and I denied it was how I really felt. But it was. We broke up soon after that.

Ok, but to OP. If she is your one and only one, and baby (barf), then why is is such a big deal that you "contacted her two days in a row". I would expect you to be speaking with her everyday.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Stop getting drunk. Problem solved.

That's all people have to say?
I'm all grown up & middle aged and I would have liked this interaction fine. These are not bad things to say while drunk, it's kind of endearing stuff - as long as you meant it.
I'd want to get you drunk more often, really.

+1. I'm not sure if you agree or not PP, but if I were her I would believe you. If you had just said one of those lines I would take what you said with a grain of salt, but you said a lot (not necessarily a bad thing). Because you just kept spilling your feelings it seems like you really do like her and a lot actually.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:When I was 20 I told my then-girlfriend, when I was drunk, "F&&& off, get out of my life." She asked me about it the next day and I denied it was how I really felt. But it was. We broke up soon after that.

Ok, but to OP. If she is your one and only one, and baby (barf), then why is is such a big deal that you "contacted her two days in a row". I would expect you to be speaking with her everyday.

Why deny it?

It's not that I had a problem reaching out to her two days in a row but the issue is the next day (in person) and those two days when we were talking she still hadn't addressed what I said. Coupling this with her laughing I just can't help but think she's avoiding talking about it.

[Anonymous]

DH did something similar when we started dating. He had planned to do the whole "I love you let's be exclusive" convo when we went away on a romantic weekend. Instead we got completely drunk while celebrating a friends bday and he ended up babbling about loving me and me being his gf. I pretty much teased him saying he wouldn't remember it. Next morning after he was functioning again I teased him some more saying "ok I'm going to change my relationship status now". He remembered the whole conversation but was embarrassed that wbat he had planned on being a romantic talk ended up being a drunken slur of words.

I found hysterical . Nothing you did was all that bad. She might not have wanted to bring it up because she's either nervous you aren't going to remember/didn't mean it or she doesn't feel the same way and is hoping not to bring it up. You need to talk to her

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Grow up, simple.

+1.
How do so many young, clueless people find aboard that is supposedly about parenting/relationships?

This is a question about relationships. Not all relationships involve parenting. Non-parents are allowed to post here.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:DH did something similar when we started dating. He had planned to do the whole "I love you let's be exclusive" convo when we went away on a romantic weekend. Instead we got completely drunk while celebrating a friends bday and he ended up babbling about loving me and me being his gf. I pretty much teased him saying he wouldn't remember it. Next morning after he was functioning again I teased him some more saying "ok I'm going to change my relationship status now". He remembered the whole conversation but was embarrassed that wbat he had planned on being a romantic talk ended up being a drunken slur of words.

I found hysterical . Nothing you did was all that bad. She might not have wanted to bring it up because she's either nervous you aren't going to remember/didn't mean it or she doesn't feel the same way and is hoping not to bring it up. You need to talk to her

Well this makes me feel a little better. It is pretty embarrassing to spill your feelings like that. Would you believe what I said if you were her?

Either way I guess I just need to talk to her.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:DH did something similar when we started dating. He had planned to do the whole "I love you let's be exclusive" convo when we went away on a romantic weekend. Instead we got completely drunk while celebrating a friends bday and he ended up babbling about loving me and me being his gf. I pretty much teased him saying he wouldn't remember it. Next morning after he was functioning again I teased him some more saying "ok I'm going to change my relationship status now". He remembered the whole conversation but was embarrassed that wbat he had planned on being a romantic talk ended up being a drunken slur of words.

I found hysterical . Nothing you did was all that bad. She might not have wanted to bring it up because she's either nervous you aren't going to remember/didn't mean it or she doesn't feel the same way and is hoping not to bring it up. You need to talk to her

Well this makes me feel a little better. It is pretty embarrassing to spill your feelings like that. Would you believe what I said if you were her?

Either way I guess I just need to talk to her.

Completely depends (sorry!). When DH said all of this, I pretty much already knew how he felt by his actions and words. So even though he was incredibly drunk, I believed him. Yes, just talk to her.