Since this is anonymous, why did you REALLY redshirt your kid?

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If you redshirted your kid you did it for a reason and you don’t get to stop the rest of us from being annoyed at not having the same opportunity.,

Just as long as you don't get annoyed at the redshirted kid. It wouldn't be fair to be annoyed with someone for something they had no say in. For all you know, said redshirted kid would have started on time had it been up to them.

I feel bad for the kids and the few we know are poorly behaved and parents don't monitor things and are checked out. We've had to restrict friendships as the behavior was so off the hook on the group chats and other things.

So you only know a few redshirted kids that you look down on but this is somehow a giant problem and redshirted kids have a huge advantage?

I suppose you are another example of the questionable reasoning skills of DCUM antiredshirters. I have low expectations for you folks.

I don't look down on the kids as they don't behave that way with me. I look down on the parents for not monitoring what is going on with their kids. They are smart kids and bored and should be in the grade higher.

I really don't care if others do it. Usually those who do, from what I see, are the uninvolved parents who send their kids to play based preschools so the parents then say the kids aren't ready, when the real issue was the kids didn't get the skills they needed at home or at preschool to be successful. A good preschool will start reading skills at least by age four. A good parent will work with their child 10-15 minutes a few days a week to start working on letter recognition and reading or get a tutor (and there is a difference from parents who can and will not vs. cannot). I feel really bad for the kids when they come into K and many of their peers are reading and other academic skills and here they are the oldest and don't have those skills and have to play catch up.

Your poor kids.

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If you redshirted your kid you did it for a reason and you don’t get to stop the rest of us from being annoyed at not having the same opportunity.,

Just as long as you don't get annoyed at the redshirted kid. It wouldn't be fair to be annoyed with someone for something they had no say in. For all you know, said redshirted kid would have started on time had it been up to them.

I feel bad for the kids and the few we know are poorly behaved and parents don't monitor things and are checked out. We've had to restrict friendships as the behavior was so off the hook on the group chats and other things.

So you only know a few redshirted kids that you look down on but this is somehow a giant problem and redshirted kids have a huge advantage?

I suppose you are another example of the questionable reasoning skills of DCUM antiredshirters. I have low expectations for you folks.

I don't look down on the kids as they don't behave that way with me. I look down on the parents for not monitoring what is going on with their kids. They are smart kids and bored and should be in the grade higher.

I really don't care if others do it. Usually those who do, from what I see, are the uninvolved parents who send their kids to play based preschools so the parents then say the kids aren't ready, when the real issue was the kids didn't get the skills they needed at home or at preschool to be successful. A good preschool will start reading skills at least by age four. A good parent will work with their child 10-15 minutes a few days a week to start working on letter recognition and reading or get a tutor (and there is a difference from parents who can and will not vs. cannot). I feel really bad for the kids when they come into K and many of their peers are reading and other academic skills and here they are the oldest and don't have those skills and have to play catch up.

Your fake concern is really touching. It really shows that you care deeply about these kids. Almost brought a tear to my eye, this sorry tale you told of the poor oldest kids, doomed for life.

Sad from the parent whose checked out and no idea how their kids are behaving. You should really monitor what they are doing online.

Its really sad how parents refuse to work with their kids on academics.

[Anonymous]

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If you redshirted your kid you did it for a reason and you don’t get to stop the rest of us from being annoyed at not having the same opportunity.,

Just as long as you don't get annoyed at the redshirted kid. It wouldn't be fair to be annoyed with someone for something they had no say in. For all you know, said redshirted kid would have started on time had it been up to them.

I feel bad for the kids and the few we know are poorly behaved and parents don't monitor things and are checked out. We've had to restrict friendships as the behavior was so off the hook on the group chats and other things.

So you only know a few redshirted kids that you look down on but this is somehow a giant problem and redshirted kids have a huge advantage?

I suppose you are another example of the questionable reasoning skills of DCUM antiredshirters. I have low expectations for you folks.

I don't look down on the kids as they don't behave that way with me. I look down on the parents for not monitoring what is going on with their kids. They are smart kids and bored and should be in the grade higher.

I really don't care if others do it. Usually those who do, from what I see, are the uninvolved parents who send their kids to play based preschools so the parents then say the kids aren't ready, when the real issue was the kids didn't get the skills they needed at home or at preschool to be successful. A good preschool will start reading skills at least by age four. A good parent will work with their child 10-15 minutes a few days a week to start working on letter recognition and reading or get a tutor (and there is a difference from parents who can and will not vs. cannot). I feel really bad for the kids when they come into K and many of their peers are reading and other academic skills and here they are the oldest and don't have those skills and have to play catch up.

Your fake concern is really touching. It really shows that you care deeply about these kids. Almost brought a tear to my eye, this sorry tale you told of the poor oldest kids, doomed for life.

Sad from the parent whose checked out and no idea how their kids are behaving. You should really monitor what they are doing online.

Its really sad how parents refuse to work with their kids on academics.

My kid has straight As and isn’t online, but keep making up lies to make yourself feel better! Parent your own kids so their self esteem isn’t as non existent as
yours. It’s sad how insecure and jealous some parents are when they can’t help their own kids and lash out at others. You can do it mama!

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Anonymous wrote:Can we call out the emperor with no clothes on?

Redshirting is predominately done by white middle class summer born boys.

Parents say they do it to either reduce a disadvantage ( being the youngest ) or gain an advantage ( be the oldest ). Both of this things, in practice, is identical and only a semantic distinction.

No other age groups of kids get this choice. A kid born in November or March can’t just decide that they want to be the oldest in their class to get a higher class rank. The school rules forbid it.

Now when people call out and shine a light on this disadvantage, parents who’s kids had that option and took advantage of it are gaslighting them. Yes, belittling them saying they are unhinged or over reacting is gaslighting.

If you redshirted your kid you did it for a reason and you don’t get to stop the rest of us from being annoyed at not having the same opportunity.,

why don't others have the same opportunity?

Because of the time of year they where born! Nobody outside of Mid summer birthdays in a district with a September cut off has the option to redshirt. So if you didn’t luckily be born in the Fall you have no opportunity to be the oldest in the school year.

You are an idiot. OMG. I don't even know how to respond to this. I feel like I couldn't type an answer that explains admission rules in basic enough terms for you.

Suffice it to say, you don't understand anything.

Do you know anyone born January to March who was redshirted? It is literally isolated to Summer babies outside of the minority of schools that go by the calendar year inside of the traditional September- June academic year.

I am a teacher and yes in fact, I have had Jan-March babies in my class who were redshirted.

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Where they developmentally delay or had a a good reason to be redshirted. Could ANY kid that old also choose to be redshirted without jumping those hoops with doctors or psychologists?

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Anonymous wrote:Where they developmentally delay or had a a good reason to be redshirted. Could ANY kid that old also choose to be redshirted without jumping those hoops with doctors or psychologists?

Well, you'll probably come back with a response that boils down to: "there is no good reason to be redshirted," so.....

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Anonymous wrote:Where they developmentally delay or had a a good reason to be redshirted. Could ANY kid that old also choose to be redshirted without jumping those hoops with doctors or psychologists?

You just don't enroll your child in K and wait a year till they turn six. You don't need a reason. But, if your child is delayed, it would make more sense to send them so they can get the socialization and supports at school, especially if you aren't doing them privately.

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If you redshirted your kid you did it for a reason and you don’t get to stop the rest of us from being annoyed at not having the same opportunity.,

Just as long as you don't get annoyed at the redshirted kid. It wouldn't be fair to be annoyed with someone for something they had no say in. For all you know, said redshirted kid would have started on time had it been up to them.

I feel bad for the kids and the few we know are poorly behaved and parents don't monitor things and are checked out. We've had to restrict friendships as the behavior was so off the hook on the group chats and other things.

So you only know a few redshirted kids that you look down on but this is somehow a giant problem and redshirted kids have a huge advantage?

I suppose you are another example of the questionable reasoning skills of DCUM antiredshirters. I have low expectations for you folks.

I don't look down on the kids as they don't behave that way with me. I look down on the parents for not monitoring what is going on with their kids. They are smart kids and bored and should be in the grade higher.

I really don't care if others do it. Usually those who do, from what I see, are the uninvolved parents who send their kids to play based preschools so the parents then say the kids aren't ready, when the real issue was the kids didn't get the skills they needed at home or at preschool to be successful. A good preschool will start reading skills at least by age four. A good parent will work with their child 10-15 minutes a few days a week to start working on letter recognition and reading or get a tutor (and there is a difference from parents who can and will not vs. cannot). I feel really bad for the kids when they come into K and many of their peers are reading and other academic skills and here they are the oldest and don't have those skills and have to play catch up.

Your fake concern is really touching. It really shows that you care deeply about these kids. Almost brought a tear to my eye, this sorry tale you told of the poor oldest kids, doomed for life.

Sad from the parent whose checked out and no idea how their kids are behaving. You should really monitor what they are doing online.

Its really sad how parents refuse to work with their kids on academics.

My kid has straight As and isn’t online, but keep making up lies to make yourself feel better! Parent your own kids so their self esteem isn’t as non existent as
yours. It’s sad how insecure and jealous some parents are when they can’t help their own kids and lash out at others. You can do it mama!

Your child never uses a computer, tablet or cell phone? I highly sought it. My kid is doing great.

And, no one calls themselves a mama. Bizarre you'd call another parent a mama, especially of an older child.

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Anonymous wrote:.

If you redshirted your kid you did it for a reason and you don’t get to stop the rest of us from being annoyed at not having the same opportunity.,

Just as long as you don't get annoyed at the redshirted kid. It wouldn't be fair to be annoyed with someone for something they had no say in. For all you know, said redshirted kid would have started on time had it been up to them.

I feel bad for the kids and the few we know are poorly behaved and parents don't monitor things and are checked out. We've had to restrict friendships as the behavior was so off the hook on the group chats and other things.

So you only know a few redshirted kids that you look down on but this is somehow a giant problem and redshirted kids have a huge advantage?

I suppose you are another example of the questionable reasoning skills of DCUM antiredshirters. I have low expectations for you folks.

I don't look down on the kids as they don't behave that way with me. I look down on the parents for not monitoring what is going on with their kids. They are smart kids and bored and should be in the grade higher.

I really don't care if others do it. Usually those who do, from what I see, are the uninvolved parents who send their kids to play based preschools so the parents then say the kids aren't ready, when the real issue was the kids didn't get the skills they needed at home or at preschool to be successful. A good preschool will start reading skills at least by age four. A good parent will work with their child 10-15 minutes a few days a week to start working on letter recognition and reading or get a tutor (and there is a difference from parents who can and will not vs. cannot). I feel really bad for the kids when they come into K and many of their peers are reading and other academic skills and here they are the oldest and don't have those skills and have to play catch up.

Your fake concern is really touching. It really shows that you care deeply about these kids. Almost brought a tear to my eye, this sorry tale you told of the poor oldest kids, doomed for life.

Sad from the parent whose checked out and no idea how their kids are behaving. You should really monitor what they are doing online.

Its really sad how parents refuse to work with their kids on academics.

My kid has straight As and isn’t online, but keep making up lies to make yourself feel better! Parent your own kids so their self esteem isn’t as non existent as
yours. It’s sad how insecure and jealous some parents are when they can’t help their own kids and lash out at others. You can do it mama!

Your child never uses a computer, tablet or cell phone? I highly sought it. My kid is doing great.

And, no one calls themselves a mama. Bizarre you'd call another parent a mama, especially of an older child.

Bizarre you think you know so much about other kids. Maybe try MYOB once in awhile? If your kid is struggling in school, focus on that and not blaming one a few months ago. If your kid is doing great, what is your problem and why are you in here crying about how life is so unfair? Are you just trying to stir up drama because you're bored? I call you mama because you're ridiculous, do you prefer troll?

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Anonymous wrote:.

If you redshirted your kid you did it for a reason and you don’t get to stop the rest of us from being annoyed at not having the same opportunity.,

Just as long as you don't get annoyed at the redshirted kid. It wouldn't be fair to be annoyed with someone for something they had no say in. For all you know, said redshirted kid would have started on time had it been up to them.

I feel bad for the kids and the few we know are poorly behaved and parents don't monitor things and are checked out. We've had to restrict friendships as the behavior was so off the hook on the group chats and other things.

So you only know a few redshirted kids that you look down on but this is somehow a giant problem and redshirted kids have a huge advantage?

I suppose you are another example of the questionable reasoning skills of DCUM antiredshirters. I have low expectations for you folks.

I don't look down on the kids as they don't behave that way with me. I look down on the parents for not monitoring what is going on with their kids. They are smart kids and bored and should be in the grade higher.

I really don't care if others do it. Usually those who do, from what I see, are the uninvolved parents who send their kids to play based preschools so the parents then say the kids aren't ready, when the real issue was the kids didn't get the skills they needed at home or at preschool to be successful. A good preschool will start reading skills at least by age four. A good parent will work with their child 10-15 minutes a few days a week to start working on letter recognition and reading or get a tutor (and there is a difference from parents who can and will not vs. cannot). I feel really bad for the kids when they come into K and many of their peers are reading and other academic skills and here they are the oldest and don't have those skills and have to play catch up.

Your fake concern is really touching. It really shows that you care deeply about these kids. Almost brought a tear to my eye, this sorry tale you told of the poor oldest kids, doomed for life.

Sad from the parent whose checked out and no idea how their kids are behaving. You should really monitor what they are doing online.

Its really sad how parents refuse to work with their kids on academics.

My kid has straight As and isn’t online, but keep making up lies to make yourself feel better! Parent your own kids so their self esteem isn’t as non existent as
yours. It’s sad how insecure and jealous some parents are when they can’t help their own kids and lash out at others. You can do it mama!

Your child never uses a computer, tablet or cell phone? I highly sought it. My kid is doing great.

And, no one calls themselves a mama. Bizarre you'd call another parent a mama, especially of an older child.

what an odd stance to take

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Anonymous wrote:Where they developmentally delay or had a a good reason to be redshirted. Could ANY kid that old also choose to be redshirted without jumping those hoops with doctors or psychologists?

I'm the PP whose kid's friend was a February-born redshirted kid. I have no idea why he was redshirted; it wasn't my business and I didn't care anyhow. I actually didn't know he was redshirted for years. He didn't seem delayed to me. He was widely regarded as one of the nicest kids in the class.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Where they developmentally delay or had a a good reason to be redshirted. Could ANY kid that old also choose to be redshirted without jumping those hoops with doctors or psychologists?

I'm the PP whose kid's friend was a February-born redshirted kid. I have no idea why he was redshirted; it wasn't my business and I didn't care anyhow. I actually didn't know he was redshirted for years. He didn't seem delayed to me. He was widely regarded as one of the nicest kids in the class.

NP. I also know one exactly February-born redshirted kid. He had significant medical issues and missed a lot of school when he was little; I assume that’s why he was redshirted, although I’ve never ask his parents because it’s none of my business. Great kid, bright and kind, happy to have him in the class.

Redshirted summer birthdays are much much much more common.

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Anonymous wrote:Where they developmentally delay or had a a good reason to be redshirted. Could ANY kid that old also choose to be redshirted without jumping those hoops with doctors or psychologists?

I'm the PP whose kid's friend was a February-born redshirted kid. I have no idea why he was redshirted; it wasn't my business and I didn't care anyhow. I actually didn't know he was redshirted for years. He didn't seem delayed to me. He was widely regarded as one of the nicest kids in the class.

Great kid, bright and kind, happy to have him in the class.

Redshirted summer birthdays are much much much more common.

When you say he's bright, I assume you mean "bright" relative to the rest of his classmates. Of course he is! He's 11 months older than the 2nd-oldest student in your class and 22 months older than the youngest. I'd be worried about his IQ if he wasn't outperforming everyone. And the older a child gets, the more empathy they develop, so of course he's also kinder than his classmates. And redshirted summer birthdays are not "much much much more common". It's only kids with fall birthdays who are considered for redshirting and even most of those kids still start on time.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Where they developmentally delay or had a a good reason to be redshirted. Could ANY kid that old also choose to be redshirted without jumping those hoops with doctors or psychologists?

I'm the PP whose kid's friend was a February-born redshirted kid. I have no idea why he was redshirted; it wasn't my business and I didn't care anyhow. I actually didn't know he was redshirted for years. He didn't seem delayed to me. He was widely regarded as one of the nicest kids in the class.

Great kid, bright and kind, happy to have him in the class.

Redshirted summer birthdays are much much much more common.

When you say he's bright, I assume you mean "bright" relative to the rest of his classmates. Of course he is! He's 11 months older than the 2nd-oldest student in your class and 22 months older than the youngest. I'd be worried about his IQ if he wasn't outperforming everyone. And the older a child gets, the more empathy they develop, so of course he's also kinder than his classmates. And redshirted summer birthdays are not "much much much more common". It's only kids with fall birthdays who are considered for redshirting and even most of those kids still start on time.

You realize the vast majority of school districts have move to 9/1 or 9/30 cutoffs, right? So for all those places, summer birthday are more commonly redshirted. So they are "much much much more common" in all those places.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Where they developmentally delay or had a a good reason to be redshirted. Could ANY kid that old also choose to be redshirted without jumping those hoops with doctors or psychologists?

I'm the PP whose kid's friend was a February-born redshirted kid. I have no idea why he was redshirted; it wasn't my business and I didn't care anyhow. I actually didn't know he was redshirted for years. He didn't seem delayed to me. He was widely regarded as one of the nicest kids in the class.

Great kid, bright and kind, happy to have him in the class.

Redshirted summer birthdays are much much much more common.

When you say he's bright, I assume you mean "bright" relative to the rest of his classmates. Of course he is! He's 11 months older than the 2nd-oldest student in your class and 22 months older than the youngest. I'd be worried about his IQ if he wasn't outperforming everyone. And the older a child gets, the more empathy they develop, so of course he's also kinder than his classmates. And redshirted summer birthdays are not "much much much more common". It's only kids with fall birthdays who are considered for redshirting and even most of those kids still start on time.

Fall Kids are generally not redshirted as the cut off is usually 9/1 or 9/30 in this area.