Honestly: is 41 too old to have a baby?

[Anonymous]

Too old.

[Anonymous]

OP, by chance you are pregnant, have the baby and move on. Enjoy the child.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Hi OP, you are not too old.
I was 46 when I gave birth to twins! Had a healthy pregnancy, and all is well. Yes, I am tired, but so are 30 year olds. Women much younger that I were on bed rest. I worked the entire time and had the twins at 38.5 weeks. Oh, and I am a single Mom too. So, don't mind what some of the posters say, do what you think is best.

How are you and the kids now? I feel like folks underestimate how draining kids can be as tweens/teens.

+1 People are thinking short term only when they have kids in their 40s.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP, by chance you are pregnant, have the baby and move on. Enjoy the child.

If she was, the baby is in kindergarten now.

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Anonymous wrote:I’m 40 and I can see myself having a baby but I can’t imagine dealing with tweens and teens in my mid to late 50s.

I’m 59 and doing fine with a 14-year old. It’s different when you haven’t done it before, I think. I’m just so grateful to have the experience. Like a PP, I “did it all” in my 30s, so I don’t feel like I’m missing out on anything. We can just pick the best experiences to re-do with DC.

Same. In our 50s now with kids in middle and high school. You people who think we are sound like my 11 year old who thinks his 20 year old cousin is ancient. Ha!

[Anonymous]

I think too old.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:It would be for me. I'd also be way too nervous about all the possible birth defects.

That's why we have amnio

Even better, CVS at 10-12 weeks. I had one with all of my pregnancies.

[Anonymous]

This thread is 7 years old. Wonder if OP has a six year old?

[Anonymous]

My mum has at 40 42 45. All very smart kids

[Anonymous]

Yes have the last baby out before 36

[Anonymous]

Old thread: but yes too old. Grandparents are getting older college comes at a time when you need retirement. And so on.

[Anonymous]

For me it’s too old.

[Anonymous]

Not too old. You can do this if you want.

But, I definitely noticed a big difference between being pregnant in my 40s vs being pregnant in my 30s. Everything about being pregnant seems to be a bit easier when you're younger. But, I got a late start because I went to graduate school, etc., so wasn't the best option for me when I was young. I'm extremely grateful for my kids, though, and would do it all again.

There's never a good time to have kids; there's never a bad time to have kids.

[Anonymous]

No, and ignore the inevitable DCUM poster who warns that you will be dead or disabled by the time the kid graduates from high school.

[Anonymous]

I just recently had my second at 41. Surprise pregnancy, after dealing with years of infertility and needing IVF for #1, followed by several more years of infertility and failed treatments.
She's an easy baby, so we got very lucky there. Pregnancy and delivery were actually easier this time around than with my first. I had extra monitoring due to age, and there were differences due to the current pandemic (worries, no family help, etc), but so far, so good.
My grandmothers were both in their early 40s when their last children were born. It isn't like "older mom" is some new idea.