Secret "friends"

[Anonymous]

All these email/ texting threads made me wonder: just how many of you actually have a secret relationship with a member of the opposit sex that you keep hidden from your spouse/SO? 'Fess up. Do you delete messages and/ or sext?

[Anonymous]

No. I have no reason to hide anything and wouldn't want to--my fiancé deserves the utmost loyalty and truthfulness.

[Anonymous]

No. Never. Grow up.

[Anonymous]

No. I can't be bothered keeping secrets from him and my rule is if I wouldn't be comfortable telling DH about something I'm thinking about doing, I shouldn't be doing it anyways.

[Anonymous]

Even if I were so inclined, I don't have anything like that kind of time.

[Anonymous]

This is how it happens, though. As someone married 16 years, I can tell you that it starts out as "no, never." Until you meet someone, almost always a coworker, and the innocent conversations start dancing around that grey line.

Never say never.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:No. I can't be bothered keeping secrets from him and my rule is if I wouldn't be comfortable telling DH about something I'm thinking about doing, I shouldn't be doing it anyways.

This is a good rule. I am the OP of the thread about sending selfies to someone other than your spouse. Life would be much simpler if we all followed your rule. It is the rule I follow.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:All these email/ texting threads made me wonder: just how many of you actually have a secret relationship with a member of the opposit sex that you keep hidden from your spouse/SO? 'Fess up. Do you delete messages and/ or sext?

My husband knows my friend, just doesn't realize the extent of our relationship. We don't sext.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:This is how it happens, though. As someone married 16 years, I can tell you that it starts out as "no, never." Until you meet someone, almost always a coworker, and the innocent conversations start dancing around that grey line.

Never say never.

Woman married 19 years. Agree.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:This is how it happens, though. As someone married 16 years, I can tell you that it starts out as "no, never." Until you meet someone, almost always a coworker, and the innocent conversations start dancing around that grey line.

Never say never.

Woman married 19 years. Agree.

My coworkers a bunch of much older, highly unattractive men with the hygiene habits and fashion sense of 13 year old boys. If I start sexting one of them, it'll be a sign of a severe psychotic episode and an affair would be the least of my worries.

[Anonymous]

I have been friends with male co-workers but I always let me spouse know about them. I also don't contact them outside of work. What would be so important to talk to them about outside of work hours--especially another male when I am married.

[Anonymous]

I don't have a texting/sexting buddy. But I have a fwb that I meet up with occasionally. Does that count? lol

[Anonymous]

I probably have friends my husband doesn't know about. It's not like I hand him a monthly inventory of my friends and acquaintances, and we don't go through each other's phones or email accounts. I'm not banging any of my friends, and I'm pretty certain my husband isn't either.

[Anonymous]

I have a crush on a friend, an interesting and attractive dude. He seems to like me well enough. I make it a point not to flirt, especially by email, because it's not worth the drama.

I had a "special friend" at 19 and refuse to involve DH and current crush in that, no matter how sweet it may feel for a while. I think they would both be pissed at me for stirring up BS like that.

I emailed crush recently for the first time in months to invite him to an event where my DH and friends will be too. I went out of my way to send a non-flirty email, following the rule not to say anything I wouldn't want DH to see. And at the event, I will be glad to see him and want to stay in touch, but will pretty much hide my attraction and just enjoy the good company.

[Anonymous]

Not me. In fact, I just realized today that I have a crush on a guy at work when I thought "Joel's wearing a grandpa cardigan!" and told DH all about him over dinner.