Does 3 year old have to be fully potty trained for PK3 charter school?

[Anonymous]

Our son has several developmental delays and is still resisting potty training at 37 months. He starts PK3 at desired charter school in August and I'm worried he still won't be potty trained at this time. Can a charter school refuse a child because of this? We're working on the problem, but DS is refusing potty the more we push it (no matter the incentive). We were blessed to be matched with one of our top lottery choices and don't want to lose it.

[Anonymous]

No, that would be an IDEA and/or ADA violation. Just to be sure, I'd get the IDP process underway now.

[Anonymous]

It is not a teacher's job to change your kid's diaper. Take care of your own kid.

[Anonymous]

OP, if he has developmental delays, he probably needs an IEP. Potty training can be addressed in an IEP.

However, there's a lot of time between now and the start of school. This sounds like a behavioral issue, so you can address it with ABA or behavioral therapy this summer.

[Anonymous]

Hopefully he had an IFSP or IEP already. If so you need to update it to include this need. Ask for a transition meeting.

If you don't have an IEP get the process going. Ask on the SN board for advice if you need it.

Do get the IEP process going now - things will be easier if you don't spring this on the school the day before school (they will need to find aides etc to help the teacher).

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:It is not a teacher's job to change your kid's diaper. Take care of your own kid.

At some schools it is a para's job, or a member of the special ed team. However, there is no doubt that it is the school's responsibility to figure out whose job it is.

[Anonymous]

I get that you have a spot at a desirable charter, but he does not have to be in school until K. With all the developmental delays, why not just wait? It might be better for him in the long run.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I get that you have a spot at a desirable charter, but he does not have to be in school until K. With all the developmental delays, why not just wait? It might be better for him in the long run.

Preschool is more important for kids with disabilities, not less.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Our son has several developmental delays and is still resisting potty training at 37 months. He starts PK3 at desired charter school in August and I'm worried he still won't be potty trained at this time. Can a charter school refuse a child because of this? We're working on the problem, but DS is refusing potty the more we push it (no matter the incentive). We were blessed to be matched with one of our top lottery choices and don't want to lose it.

Congratulations on your lottery match! Our DD, no delays, was not potty trained when she started PK3 at our charter. She certainly was not alone in her class in this regard. It clicked over winter break, but never did we feel pressure from her teachers about it. And there were still a few kids this spring in pullups. Please don't worry about it. It will happen when it happens.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I get that you have a spot at a desirable charter, but he does not have to be in school until K. With all the developmental delays, why not just wait? It might be better for him in the long run.

Preschool is more important for kids with disabilities, not less.

+1000. This is why DCPS reserves Early Stages PK3 slots for children with disabilities and delays.

OP - Please don't listen to the PPP. Get in touch with your school now and talk about how you can partner on this.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Our son has several developmental delays and is still resisting potty training at 37 months. He starts PK3 at desired charter school in August and I'm worried he still won't be potty trained at this time. Can a charter school refuse a child because of this? We're working on the problem, but DS is refusing potty the more we push it (no matter the incentive). We were blessed to be matched with one of our top lottery choices and don't want to lose it.

Congratulations on your lottery match! Our DD, no delays, was not potty trained when she started PK3 at our charter. She certainly was not alone in her class in this regard. It clicked over winter break, but never did we feel pressure from her teachers about it. And there were still a few kids this spring in pullups. Please don't worry about it. It will happen when it happens.

Wow. What a disservice to your kid to fail to keep her in diapers past her third birthday. Also: disgusting!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I get that you have a spot at a desirable charter, but he does not have to be in school until K. With all the developmental delays, why not just wait? It might be better for him in the long run.

No, you don't get it. It's the law. If the child has developmental delays then it is MANDATED by IDEA (which is civil rights legislation) to accommodate the child.

OP, your child is 100% legally protected. Call University Legal Services if you think you need assistance, but it's only one of many resources. Naturally you want to help him through this transition, the school will too. Good for you for finding a school for him, and for thinking about this in advance.

Also, for future reference post to the "Special Needs" board on DCUM. There are some ignorant and vicious hags on this one (like the PP above). You'll get better advice from people who are actually informed.

[Anonymous]

People, it doesn't matter if the child has special needs or not. Being potty trained is NOT a prerequisite to attend DCPS PK3.

http://dcps.dc.gov/page/my-child-eligible-dcps-early-childhood-programs

Read the last sentence.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Our son has several developmental delays and is still resisting potty training at 37 months. He starts PK3 at desired charter school in August and I'm worried he still won't be potty trained at this time. Can a charter school refuse a child because of this? We're working on the problem, but DS is refusing potty the more we push it (no matter the incentive). We were blessed to be matched with one of our top lottery choices and don't want to lose it.

Congratulations on your lottery match! Our DD, no delays, was not potty trained when she started PK3 at our charter. She certainly was not alone in her class in this regard. It clicked over winter break, but never did we feel pressure from her teachers about it. And there were still a few kids this spring in pullups. Please don't worry about it. It will happen when it happens.

Wow. What a disservice to your kid to fail to keep her in diapers past her third birthday. Also: disgusting!

Wow. What a disservice to humanity to be such a self-righteous prig. Development happens when it happens, nobody ever went off to college in pull-ups. What's disgusting is that you've confused your anus with your mouth: stop sharing the things that come out of it! Seriously, you are grotesque.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Our son has several developmental delays and is still resisting potty training at 37 months. He starts PK3 at desired charter school in August and I'm worried he still won't be potty trained at this time. Can a charter school refuse a child because of this? We're working on the problem, but DS is refusing potty the more we push it (no matter the incentive). We were blessed to be matched with one of our top lottery choices and don't want to lose it.

Congratulations on your lottery match! Our DD, no delays, was not potty trained when she started PK3 at our charter. She certainly was not alone in her class in this regard. It clicked over winter break, but never did we feel pressure from her teachers about it. And there were still a few kids this spring in pullups. Please don't worry about it. It will happen when it happens.

Our charter allowed this last year - and my understanding is going to be a lot stricter this year for children who do not have developmental disabilities.

Since your child has developmental delays, as many others have recommended, connect with the schools director of student services to get your child an assessment and all of the services they need to be successful in the classroom. (I assume there are OT needs as well)