Is it normal to not feel excited about marrying him?

[Anonymous]

I don't feel excited about marrying my fiance. The whole wedding planning situation makes me stressed out and anxious. I don't daydream about my dress or being his mrs. Is this okay?

[Anonymous]

I don't think it matters if you aren't excited about your dress or the wedding. But you should be excited about marrying him.

[Anonymous]

Are you already living with him? At that point, a wedding is merely a formality.

Also, I find that realizing how fleeting something, or someone is -- and how nothing is guaranteed, makes me appreciate them a bit more.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I don't think it matters if you aren't excited about your dress or the wedding. But you should be excited about marrying him.

+1

I'm not a wedding person so we planned our wedding without much effort. But I was really excited about being married to him.

[Anonymous]

I have read that over 30% of women regret walking down the aisle with their fiance. Please do not be one of them.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I have read that over 30% of women regret walking down the aisle with their fiance. Please do not be one of them.

+1. A very high percentage of divorces occur simply as the result of poor decisions where one or both parties had the warning signs and chose to move forward anyway.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I don't think it matters if you aren't excited about your dress or the wedding. But you should be excited about marrying him.

+1

[Anonymous]

RUN.

Seriously. I convinced myself into dating and marrying a guy, and now only a short while later we are getting a divorce. Not because he's "meh" but because he's actually abusive.

I'm not saying your fiancé is. Tell us, what makes you not excited?

[Anonymous]

Do you look forward to a long life together? Can you picture yourself happy together, doing boring household chores like bathing a baby (or dog!) or difficult challenges like moving cross country?

[Anonymous]

I was not excited. I chalked it up to the stress of wedding planning. I'm now divorced and very happy in a new relationship...approaching the point of getting engaged again, and way way way more excited for all of that stuff with this man. I'd take this as a HUGE warning sign that he is not the one for you.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I have read that over 30% of women regret walking down the aisle with their fiance. Please do not be one of them.

This number is not really all that shocking. Don't 50% of marriage end in divorce?

[Anonymous]

OP, take the "advice" here with a grain of salt. You are reading the grievances of people for whom things did not work out. There are plenty of people who were anxious before a wedding and were happily married. Try to figure out if your lack of excitement is due to being stressed, or if you really just aren't looking forward to being with this guy.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I don't think it matters if you aren't excited about your dress or the wedding. But you should be excited about marrying him.

+1

I'm not a wedding person so we planned our wedding without much effort. But I was really excited about being married to him.

Same here, we had a tiny informal wedding and it was still enough to stress me out. Throughout the whole process, all I could think was "I wish we were just married already so we didn't have to do this wedding junk." I just wanted to be his wife, I never wanted to be a bride, but I never had any doubts about wanting to be married to him.

[Anonymous]

I didn't daydream about a new last name or the wedding much. But I knew I wanted to be married to him. It wasn't really excitement - just a rock solid belief that this was right.

Seven years and two kids later, I am still sure that marrying him was the best possible version of my life.

[Anonymous]

It probably is normal, but so is divorce. I was 100% over the moon excited about spending my life with DH before we got married. The wedding was stressful and I had nervousness about how everything would go. But I never worried about DH or felt less than excited. I would say that we're more in love/ better relationship than any couple I know though, so maybe people just settle.