Do you think we will see a massive uptick in women choosing to stay home after this?

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I am already a SAHM but this has definitely quashed any thoughts I may have had of returning to work any time soon. My kids are early elementary and DH and I have been very thankful I’m not juggling working at home like he is.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I am already a SAHM but this has definitely quashed any thoughts I may have had of returning to work any time soon. My kids are early elementary and DH and I have been very thankful I’m not juggling working at home like he is.

Of course your DH is happy. He wants you providing unpaid labor for the family so he can keep his daily life as close to normal as possible during this time. He doesn’t want to watch kids and deal with the daily requirements to keep up a house. That kind of work is for his wife. He tries to only perform work he gets paid for.

You’ve been fooled.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I am already a SAHM but this has definitely quashed any thoughts I may have had of returning to work any time soon. My kids are early elementary and DH and I have been very thankful I’m not juggling working at home like he is.

Of course your DH is happy. He wants you providing unpaid labor for the family so he can keep his daily life as close to normal as possible during this time. He doesn’t want to watch kids and deal with the daily requirements to keep up a house. That kind of work is for his wife. He tries to only perform work he gets paid for.

You’ve been fooled.

How so? I like SAH and we don’t need the money. I know many go back when the youngest hits K, but I’m glad I didn’t and don’t plan to for several more years.

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Anonymous wrote:I am already a SAHM but this has definitely quashed any thoughts I may have had of returning to work any time soon. My kids are early elementary and DH and I have been very thankful I’m not juggling working at home like he is.

Of course your DH is happy. He wants you providing unpaid labor for the family so he can keep his daily life as close to normal as possible during this time. He doesn’t want to watch kids and deal with the daily requirements to keep up a house. That kind of work is for his wife. He tries to only perform work he gets paid for.

You’ve been fooled.

Not the PP you're replying to, and I actually work a full-time job, but why do you think every stay at home mom has been fooled? Maybe she and her husband decided to split things the way they did. It wouldn't work for me and my husband, so that's why we didn't do it that way, but anyone who makes a decision together with their spouse and is happy with that decision doesn't sound like a fool to me.

[Anonymous]

Having been at home for over a month, I have enjoyed doing a lot with my girls. We have spent a lot of time together, and I it has been great. That being said, I will be THRILLED when I can go back to work. This period strongly re-affirms my decision to go to work, where I can earn an income, meet other adults, and provide additional contributions to society. Win win.

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Anonymous wrote:I am already a SAHM but this has definitely quashed any thoughts I may have had of returning to work any time soon. My kids are early elementary and DH and I have been very thankful I’m not juggling working at home like he is.

Of course your DH is happy. He wants you providing unpaid labor for the family so he can keep his daily life as close to normal as possible during this time. He doesn’t want to watch kids and deal with the daily requirements to keep up a house. That kind of work is for his wife. He tries to only perform work he gets paid for.

You’ve been fooled.

Are you kidding me, SAHM with kids in school is a very cushy life! There is plenty of leisure time mixed in with the “unpaid labor”. I woulda done it if it weren’t kinda brainless

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I am already a SAHM but this has definitely quashed any thoughts I may have had of returning to work any time soon. My kids are early elementary and DH and I have been very thankful I’m not juggling working at home like he is.

My husband and I both work. When we have “recess” daddy goes out and plays basketball with them and we alternate making lunch etc. When they need help they ask us both - is anyone on call or in a meeting?

In this house we prioritize equality. And I’m raising sons who won’t expect their mom to to make Daddy’s martini. YMMV.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I am already a SAHM but this has definitely quashed any thoughts I may have had of returning to work any time soon. My kids are early elementary and DH and I have been very thankful I’m not juggling working at home like he is.

My husband and I both work. When we have “recess” daddy goes out and plays basketball with them and we alternate making lunch etc. When they need help they ask us both - is anyone on call or in a meeting?

In this house we prioritize equality. And I’m raising sons who won’t expect their mom to to make Daddy’s martini. YMMV.

I’m on board with equality but in this particular pandemic situation, anyone can agree that having a SAH wife/mom makes things 1000x easier. And who knows how long it will last

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I am already a SAHM but this has definitely quashed any thoughts I may have had of returning to work any time soon. My kids are early elementary and DH and I have been very thankful I’m not juggling working at home like he is.

Of course your DH is happy. He wants you providing unpaid labor for the family so he can keep his daily life as close to normal as possible during this time. He doesn’t want to watch kids and deal with the daily requirements to keep up a house. That kind of work is for his wife. He tries to only perform work he gets paid for.

You’ve been fooled.

Are you kidding me, SAHM with kids in school is a very cushy life! There is plenty of leisure time mixed in with the “unpaid labor”. I woulda done it if it weren’t kinda brainless

Np. Wow, you are so rude! Who said being SAHM is “brainless.” You sound dumb yourself. I’m actually a WOHM and would love to stay at home if we could afford it. I have a SN kid who would have benefited from me being at home.

[Anonymous]

I hope not. What a waste.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I am already a SAHM but this has definitely quashed any thoughts I may have had of returning to work any time soon. My kids are early elementary and DH and I have been very thankful I’m not juggling working at home like he is.

My husband and I both work. When we have “recess” daddy goes out and plays basketball with them and we alternate making lunch etc. When they need help they ask us both - is anyone on call or in a meeting?

In this house we prioritize equality. And I’m raising sons who won’t expect their mom to to make Daddy’s martini. YMMV.

SAHM here. In our house, too!

[Anonymous]

I'm saddened by the fact that I may have to go back to being a SAHM.

I stayed home for several years and was finally able to get back into the workforce. I'm doing well and promotions in the future have already been discussed with my boss. Now I'm the only one solely teleworking. Others in the office either don't have kids or have SAH wives taking care of their kids.

Boss keeps asking when I'll be back in the office. I can do a decent amount with telework but certainly not a full schedule. I work in an industry where most stuff needs to be done at the location.

Once restrictions are eased in a couple of weeks, I will no longer be able to stay home, but I have no one to stay with my kids. They're both in upper elementary, so not terribly young but really not at an age where they should be left for hours each day plus I often have to help with their school day.

DH is a doctor. There is no flexibility in his schedule, so I'm always the default. I like to work outside the home, but don't really see any other way to make this work until camps or school starts and even then, I have one kid with a health issue and I would feel so guilty sending him to a camp now.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I am already a SAHM but this has definitely quashed any thoughts I may have had of returning to work any time soon. My kids are early elementary and DH and I have been very thankful I’m not juggling working at home like he is.

Of course your DH is happy. He wants you providing unpaid labor for the family so he can keep his daily life as close to normal as possible during this time. He doesn’t want to watch kids and deal with the daily requirements to keep up a house. That kind of work is for his wife. He tries to only perform work he gets paid for.

You’ve been fooled.

Are you kidding me, SAHM with kids in school is a very cushy life! There is plenty of leisure time mixed in with the “unpaid labor”. I woulda done it if it weren’t kinda brainless

Np. Wow, you are so rude! Who said being SAHM is “brainless.” You sound dumb yourself. I’m actually a WOHM and would love to stay at home if we could afford it. I have a SN kid who would have benefited from me being at home.

SN kid is different, need some skills and expertise for that... but SAH with average NT kids is brainless.

If my kid were SN I’d SAH unless it meant we would literally be on the street.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I am already a SAHM but this has definitely quashed any thoughts I may have had of returning to work any time soon. My kids are early elementary and DH and I have been very thankful I’m not juggling working at home like he is.

Of course your DH is happy. He wants you providing unpaid labor for the family so he can keep his daily life as close to normal as possible during this time. He doesn’t want to watch kids and deal with the daily requirements to keep up a house. That kind of work is for his wife. He tries to only perform work he gets paid for.

You’ve been fooled.

Are you kidding me, SAHM with kids in school is a very cushy life! There is plenty of leisure time mixed in with the “unpaid labor”. I woulda done it if it weren’t kinda brainless

Np. Wow, you are so rude! Who said being SAHM is “brainless.” You sound dumb yourself. I’m actually a WOHM and would love to stay at home if we could afford it. I have a SN kid who would have benefited from me being at home.

SN kid is different, need some skills and expertise for that... but SAH with average NT kids is brainless.

If my kid were SN I’d SAH unless it meant we would literally be on the street.

Well, that would be stupid and short sighted. I work to provide my SN child a trust, therapy, and school that would never be covered by insurance or the state.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I am already a SAHM but this has definitely quashed any thoughts I may have had of returning to work any time soon. My kids are early elementary and DH and I have been very thankful I’m not juggling working at home like he is.

Of course your DH is happy. He wants you providing unpaid labor for the family so he can keep his daily life as close to normal as possible during this time. He doesn’t want to watch kids and deal with the daily requirements to keep up a house. That kind of work is for his wife. He tries to only perform work he gets paid for.

You’ve been fooled.

Are you kidding me, SAHM with kids in school is a very cushy life! There is plenty of leisure time mixed in with the “unpaid labor”. I woulda done it if it weren’t kinda brainless

Np. Wow, you are so rude! Who said being SAHM is “brainless.” You sound dumb yourself. I’m actually a WOHM and would love to stay at home if we could afford it. I have a SN kid who would have benefited from me being at home.

SN kid is different, need some skills and expertise for that... but SAH with average NT kids is brainless.

If my kid were SN I’d SAH unless it meant we would literally be on the street.

Well, that would be stupid and short sighted. I work to provide my SN child a trust, therapy, and school that would never be covered by insurance or the state.

I meant during the early years, 0-5 when all of the neural connections are being formed and the one-on-one attention makes the most difference.