Petty Holiday Vent thread 2022

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Anonymous wrote:DH doesn't buy or wrap any gifts for our DDs, their significant others or any of our 6 small Grands. All I asked this year was for him to handle his picky Mom's and sweet Dad's gifts. I have bought that woman everything under the sun over the past 35 years and have never seen her use or wear one gift. I do love her so most recently we just give her gift cards to places she likes. I was about to order her one but DH stopped me and said he'd get something...Right before they arrived, he asked me what we'd give them....He grabbed a throw we'd been gifted and threw on a bow

Stop saying “grands” ugh. Just no, Carole.

Omg my MIL (who actually IS a Carol) says this and it’s so cringeworthy!!!

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Anonymous wrote:I got presents for my step brother’s wife and her nieces and nephews and no one got anything for my young son.

Why on earth did you buy them presents?

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Anonymous wrote:My mother in law has spent the last 30 minutes trying to decide on pizza toppings.

I absolutely refuse to take individual orders with my ILs anymore when takeout is involved. No kidding, they spend so much time ordering that we’ve had dinner totally ruined on several occasions (elaborate plan only to find out Restaurant A is closed, and by the time Restaurant B order is ready, now it’s an hour wait and the kids have to go to bed.) Nope, they’ve proven too many times they can’t handle ordering.

Now, I let them choose one of 3 restaurants, but I put a timer on it: “The choices are A, B, and C. Let me know by 5:30, otherwise I’m ordering from Restaurant A at 5:30.” Then I order several, family-style meals and don’t take any input. I know what they like and I order more food than we need, but I’m not putting up with their antics anymore.

Pizza OP here and yes, they’re like this too, and I am 100% gpoing to order family style the next time they visit - THANK YOU for that idea.

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Anonymous wrote:My mom shops almost exclusively at thrift store, Costco and discount stores like TJ Maxx. She picks one thing each year to get all her kids and their spouses. This year it was cozy blankets. Nice thought but mine is 100% acrylic with laundering instructions “spot clean only”. Why is such a blanket even allowed to exist? We all have kids and cats. This is all ending up in a landfill in the next few years. Whyyyyyy

Put them on Buy Nothing so that someone who doesn’t have pets/kids can enjoy.

Or, complete the circle and consider donating to an animal shelter!

Also, ignore the spot clean only suggestion; wash in cold on gentle or quick wash and dry on low. If it’s completely
ruined, donate - but I doubt it.

Nooooo don’t wash it, it will clog up your drain.

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Anonymous wrote:My mother in law has spent the last 30 minutes trying to decide on pizza toppings.

I absolutely refuse to take individual orders with my ILs anymore when takeout is involved. No kidding, they spend so much time ordering that we’ve had dinner totally ruined on several occasions (elaborate plan only to find out Restaurant A is closed, and by the time Restaurant B order is ready, now it’s an hour wait and the kids have to go to bed.) Nope, they’ve proven too many times they can’t handle ordering.

Now, I let them choose one of 3 restaurants, but I put a timer on it: “The choices are A, B, and C. Let me know by 5:30, otherwise I’m ordering from Restaurant A at 5:30.” Then I order several, family-style meals and don’t take any input. I know what they like and I order more food than we need, but I’m not putting up with their antics anymore.

What is with older people and dragging their feet on dinner decisions as if they completely forgot young kids need to eat at a reasonable hour. I will start asking about dinner plans around 4:30/5 only to be told it’s too early to think about. Okay but my kids go to bed at 7:30, so we can’t just start ordering at 7 pm. And don’t beg me to spend my vacation time and money on flights to visit you because you want to see the kids so badly, but also don’t want to even marginally alter your schedule to accommodate them.

My 28 year old (selfish, spoiled) SIL is like this hahaha. She is the only one who is unmarried and without kids. We picked a restaurant while she was taking a 20-30min shower and had our orders ready. She got out of the shower and we were like “hey Susie! We are ordering from XYZ Mexican place, do you want anything special or just partake in what we are already getting for everyone?” She says oh nice that sounds delicious let me look at the menu. 5 min later we are like “ok Susie you know what you want? We are calling now”. She goes “sorry! Give me like 15 minutes so I can get dressed and finish looking at menu options.”

15 minutes. We all have young kids who have bedtimes, we already have the order logged into the system and are waiting to click “place order” before the dinner rush starts. Not to mention we are treating her because she would never dream of offering to pay. I butted in and said “we are placing the order now actually but if you want something different just call them and order!”

She made a big show of not wanting anything that was ordered (we ordered plenty of food, and a wide variety) and asked her mom, my MIL, to drive her to the grocery store to buy her an alternative dinner (because she doesn’t have a car here, she drove down with her parents).

I cackled reading this because it sounds so much like my cousin. I had to run to the grocery store to get oranges to make mulled wine. "I'll go with you, I just need to run upstairs and change." 90 minutes, full makeup, hair styled, and TWO outfit changes later (the first one didn't get enough compliments from her mother) we finally leave. Our entire family has been known to change dinner plans because she wasn't in the mood for something, even though the other 12 people were very much in the mood for it. Family parties have been canceled because she was "exhausted from work" (a desk job).

Yes!!! And I’m assuming she wanted to go to the store with you and put her groceries in with your oranges 😂
This same SIL of mine (I’m PP) came to visit us for a week about a year ago and she wanted different food than what we had in our house (no food allergies or anything like that, not diabetic, not vegan). Mind you we have a selection of very normal foods, both healthy and junky. She asks her brother, my husband, to drive her to the grocery to buy some other food. He was like ok fine, what store are you thinking - Giant? Whole Foods? What’s your budget here (or something along those lines that somehow alluded to the fact that she was buying her own groceries, obviously). She balked and was like “you can’t buy them for me?” He was like “no, we have tons of food here and are already treating you to dinners out, is there something going on we don’t know? Why do I need to purchase you your own individual carton of blueberries when we have fruit here?” She was so irritated she didn’t go to the store after all, ate our food (which she was welcome to!) and had her mother take her to the store later that week where she bought s ton of random stuff that she didn’t even eat a third of, like margarine.

Where do they learn this stuff? Is there an Early Thirties Teen Princess magazine giving out this financial advice? "Get all you can get while the getting's good and there's never any harm in asking!" We drove my cousin and our kids to a takeout place while camping and she insisted she wasn't hungry (because we didn't offer to treat), then 15 minutes later finagled herself a free steak at my uncle's campsite by whining about how hungry she was.

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Anonymous wrote:Wow, I’ve never seen such a group of whiny, elitist Alpha Henrys…ever.

Is that your petty vent? It’s not very funny.

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Anonymous wrote:My in laws got everyone but me Vuori joggers. I didn't know what they were until now, but they look really nice! Browsing online to buy myself a pair but having a hard time justifying spending $100 on sweat pants!

What did you get?

Dying to know the same. And did they offer any explanation for why?

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Anonymous wrote:My mother in law has spent the last 30 minutes trying to decide on pizza toppings.

I absolutely refuse to take individual orders with my ILs anymore when takeout is involved. No kidding, they spend so much time ordering that we’ve had dinner totally ruined on several occasions (elaborate plan only to find out Restaurant A is closed, and by the time Restaurant B order is ready, now it’s an hour wait and the kids have to go to bed.) Nope, they’ve proven too many times they can’t handle ordering.

Now, I let them choose one of 3 restaurants, but I put a timer on it: “The choices are A, B, and C. Let me know by 5:30, otherwise I’m ordering from Restaurant A at 5:30.” Then I order several, family-style meals and don’t take any input. I know what they like and I order more food than we need, but I’m not putting up with their antics anymore.

What is with older people and dragging their feet on dinner decisions as if they completely forgot young kids need to eat at a reasonable hour. I will start asking about dinner plans around 4:30/5 only to be told it’s too early to think about. Okay but my kids go to bed at 7:30, so we can’t just start ordering at 7 pm. And don’t beg me to spend my vacation time and money on flights to visit you because you want to see the kids so badly, but also don’t want to even marginally alter your schedule to accommodate them.

My 28 year old (selfish, spoiled) SIL is like this hahaha. She is the only one who is unmarried and without kids. We picked a restaurant while she was taking a 20-30min shower and had our orders ready. She got out of the shower and we were like “hey Susie! We are ordering from XYZ Mexican place, do you want anything special or just partake in what we are already getting for everyone?” She says oh nice that sounds delicious let me look at the menu. 5 min later we are like “ok Susie you know what you want? We are calling now”. She goes “sorry! Give me like 15 minutes so I can get dressed and finish looking at menu options.”

15 minutes. We all have young kids who have bedtimes, we already have the order logged into the system and are waiting to click “place order” before the dinner rush starts. Not to mention we are treating her because she would never dream of offering to pay. I butted in and said “we are placing the order now actually but if you want something different just call them and order!”

She made a big show of not wanting anything that was ordered (we ordered plenty of food, and a wide variety) and asked her mom, my MIL, to drive her to the grocery store to buy her an alternative dinner (because she doesn’t have a car here, she drove down with her parents).

I cackled reading this because it sounds so much like my cousin. I had to run to the grocery store to get oranges to make mulled wine. "I'll go with you, I just need to run upstairs and change." 90 minutes, full makeup, hair styled, and TWO outfit changes later (the first one didn't get enough compliments from her mother) we finally leave. Our entire family has been known to change dinner plans because she wasn't in the mood for something, even though the other 12 people were very much in the mood for it. Family parties have been canceled because she was "exhausted from work" (a desk job).

Yes!!! And I’m assuming she wanted to go to the store with you and put her groceries in with your oranges 😂
This same SIL of mine (I’m PP) came to visit us for a week about a year ago and she wanted different food than what we had in our house (no food allergies or anything like that, not diabetic, not vegan). Mind you we have a selection of very normal foods, both healthy and junky. She asks her brother, my husband, to drive her to the grocery to buy some other food. He was like ok fine, what store are you thinking - Giant? Whole Foods? What’s your budget here (or something along those lines that somehow alluded to the fact that she was buying her own groceries, obviously). She balked and was like “you can’t buy them for me?” He was like “no, we have tons of food here and are already treating you to dinners out, is there something going on we don’t know? Why do I need to purchase you your own individual carton of blueberries when we have fruit here?” She was so irritated she didn’t go to the store after all, ate our food (which she was welcome to!) and had her mother take her to the store later that week where she bought s ton of random stuff that she didn’t even eat a third of, like margarine.

Who the heck buys margarine?

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Anonymous wrote:DH doesn't buy or wrap any gifts for our DDs, their significant others or any of our 6 small Grands. All I asked this year was for him to handle his picky Mom's and sweet Dad's gifts. I have bought that woman everything under the sun over the past 35 years and have never seen her use or wear one gift. I do love her so most recently we just give her gift cards to places she likes. I was about to order her one but DH stopped me and said he'd get something...Right before they arrived, he asked me what we'd give them....He grabbed a throw we'd been gifted and threw on a bow

Stop saying “grands” ugh. Just no, Carole.

Omg my MIL (who actually IS a Carol) says this and it’s so cringeworthy!!!

My ILs sent a Christmas photocard of “Our Grands”

They got this from my mom, I swear because she has used this term for years!

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Anonymous wrote:My mother in law has spent the last 30 minutes trying to decide on pizza toppings.

I absolutely refuse to take individual orders with my ILs anymore when takeout is involved. No kidding, they spend so much time ordering that we’ve had dinner totally ruined on several occasions (elaborate plan only to find out Restaurant A is closed, and by the time Restaurant B order is ready, now it’s an hour wait and the kids have to go to bed.) Nope, they’ve proven too many times they can’t handle ordering.

Now, I let them choose one of 3 restaurants, but I put a timer on it: “The choices are A, B, and C. Let me know by 5:30, otherwise I’m ordering from Restaurant A at 5:30.” Then I order several, family-style meals and don’t take any input. I know what they like and I order more food than we need, but I’m not putting up with their antics anymore.

What is with older people and dragging their feet on dinner decisions as if they completely forgot young kids need to eat at a reasonable hour. I will start asking about dinner plans around 4:30/5 only to be told it’s too early to think about. Okay but my kids go to bed at 7:30, so we can’t just start ordering at 7 pm. And don’t beg me to spend my vacation time and money on flights to visit you because you want to see the kids so badly, but also don’t want to even marginally alter your schedule to accommodate them.

My 28 year old (selfish, spoiled) SIL is like this hahaha. She is the only one who is unmarried and without kids. We picked a restaurant while she was taking a 20-30min shower and had our orders ready. She got out of the shower and we were like “hey Susie! We are ordering from XYZ Mexican place, do you want anything special or just partake in what we are already getting for everyone?” She says oh nice that sounds delicious let me look at the menu. 5 min later we are like “ok Susie you know what you want? We are calling now”. She goes “sorry! Give me like 15 minutes so I can get dressed and finish looking at menu options.”

15 minutes. We all have young kids who have bedtimes, we already have the order logged into the system and are waiting to click “place order” before the dinner rush starts. Not to mention we are treating her because she would never dream of offering to pay. I butted in and said “we are placing the order now actually but if you want something different just call them and order!”

She made a big show of not wanting anything that was ordered (we ordered plenty of food, and a wide variety) and asked her mom, my MIL, to drive her to the grocery store to buy her an alternative dinner (because she doesn’t have a car here, she drove down with her parents).

I cackled reading this because it sounds so much like my cousin. I had to run to the grocery store to get oranges to make mulled wine. "I'll go with you, I just need to run upstairs and change." 90 minutes, full makeup, hair styled, and TWO outfit changes later (the first one didn't get enough compliments from her mother) we finally leave. Our entire family has been known to change dinner plans because she wasn't in the mood for something, even though the other 12 people were very much in the mood for it. Family parties have been canceled because she was "exhausted from work" (a desk job).

Yes!!! And I’m assuming she wanted to go to the store with you and put her groceries in with your oranges 😂
This same SIL of mine (I’m PP) came to visit us for a week about a year ago and she wanted different food than what we had in our house (no food allergies or anything like that, not diabetic, not vegan). Mind you we have a selection of very normal foods, both healthy and junky. She asks her brother, my husband, to drive her to the grocery to buy some other food. He was like ok fine, what store are you thinking - Giant? Whole Foods? What’s your budget here (or something along those lines that somehow alluded to the fact that she was buying her own groceries, obviously). She balked and was like “you can’t buy them for me?” He was like “no, we have tons of food here and are already treating you to dinners out, is there something going on we don’t know? Why do I need to purchase you your own individual carton of blueberries when we have fruit here?” She was so irritated she didn’t go to the store after all, ate our food (which she was welcome to!) and had her mother take her to the store later that week where she bought s ton of random stuff that she didn’t even eat a third of, like margarine.

Who the heck buys margarine?

My SIL, apparently! Despite me having both salted and unsalted butter , olive oil, coconut oil, and vegetable oil. And she didn’t even open the margarine.

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Anonymous wrote:My parents keep their house so F#%%cking cold!!!!!!!

Ha ha ha I bet mine keep it colder…. Just checked the thermostat 59 degrees overnight. 🥶

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We are flying this morning after having to delay bc of a stomach virus. The airport is super busy and my tsa pre check wasn’t added to my ticket so I’m standing in the long line with the regulars which is vent #1. # 2 is the mansplaining guy in the pre heck line who told me, before I asked him about it, that if I had to ask what tsa pre heck is, I didn’t have it.

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Anonymous wrote:We are flying this morning after having to delay bc of a stomach virus. The airport is super busy and my tsa pre check wasn’t added to my ticket so I’m standing in the long line with the regulars which is vent #1. # 2 is the mansplaining guy in the pre heck line who told me, before I asked him about it, that if I had to ask what tsa pre heck is, I didn’t have it.

😒

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Another case of the single, childless 30-something aunt thinking she knows more about parenting my kids than I do. Happy to be leaving today!!!

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We are staying with my in-laws, and everything is mostly great, but my MIL cannot be persuaded to buy anything other than Scott tp. It is the worst.