Red flags mean should see
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Anonymous
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See a lot of talk on here about how someone married a guy despite red flags galore. What about the flip side? How many of you have guy friends where you were thinking, "what in the world does he see in her'? "If there were any more red flags, she would have a flashing light attached to her head. Why is he getting in deeper"? "Should we kidnap him, throw him in a van and deprogram her out of him?"
How did these situations wind up? |
Anonymous
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Anonymous
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Men are stupid. Red flags are simply a challenge.
It was a red flag when my family told me she was trouble. It was a red flag when my therapist told me she was trouble. It was a red flag when HER therapist told me to get out. Of course, being a man, these were all merely insignificant challenges. I lost. |
Anonymous
| My friend married his borderline girlfriend. He ended up losing custody of his two kids. |
Anonymous
To a prior ex or to the mentally ill wife? |
Anonymous
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Most people seem to marry within 2 years of committed relationships... everything's still foggy and everyone's in love then, it doesn't matter what you tell them they won't listen. It's chemical. People have issues.
I think the answer is to go in with certain criteria... ask your kids, ask your single friends regularly what they want and drill it in. Have deal breakers and talk about them. Red flag situations end in doomsdays. |
Anonymous
You mean, announce an engagement? Getting to an actual wedding within 2 years is relatively fast these days. |
Anonymous
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Man or woman you should research their past. Find out from family, friends, exes how their past relationships were. If they cheated, steer clear. If they were married and there were order's of protection etc. stay away.
Look at their morals and values, that's a big one and what their family dynamics were growing up. Remember the past tends to repeat itself so don't take their word for it. Divorces are in the court record, can't lie about that one. Same with civil suits, criminal, etc. |
Anonymous
| How they are with money and how they treat people- deal breakers. |
Anonymous
I lied to my family about my wife's bipolar diagnosis, but I don't think I've ever met a woman more willing to try to make a relationship work. So red flag, but I kind of knew what I was getting into. |
Anonymous
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Younger people don't have that much past to research.
Hindsight is always 20/20. However, I'd listed to her therapist LOL |
Anonymous
It's not a red flag when the issue is out in the open. If your wife hid the diagnosis but exhibited suspect behaviors, that would be a red flag pointing towards the potential problem. Having this out in the open is more like a challenge. Well, who's perfect anyway. |
Anonymous
Especially how they treat people in lower-status service jobs like waitresses, counter clerks, etc. How people treat those "under" them is quite telling. Also, how they are when they drive. Someone who gets enraged every time they get cut off is going to have anger issues with you, too. |
Anonymous
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Red flags for women:
Spending habits Rent to income ratio Vacations |
Anonymous
| If a woman doesn't masturbate, you're probably going to have mismatched libido problems at some point down the road. |