Question about affairs and STIs

[Anonymous]

When do you ask about being tested? Should that be a cut and dry mandatory question? Have you ever not asked?

[Anonymous]

Are you foreign? In America we call em STDs, here hahhhhh 'murica

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Are you foreign? In America we call em STDs, here hahhhhh 'murica

No. Not all infections become diseases.

[Anonymous]

My friends works in obgyn office and I suspect nobody asks or cares.

So many women getting sti's from H's.

[Anonymous]

When do you ask your affair partner? Why would you consider having unprotected sex with an affair partner?

[Anonymous]

Sti is the new term used. Kids learn this in sex Ed at school. Std is the old term.

[Anonymous]

I asked ap about his status before we had sex. He and I had both been tested because of infertility issues. And both faithful to spouse (except with each other). That plus condoms and we were fine. Dh and I have since birth been tested (clean) and ap told his wife we always used condoms. So probably no testing there.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I asked ap about his status before we had sex. He and I had both been tested because of infertility issues. And both faithful to spouse (except with each other). That plus condoms and we were fine. Dh and I have since birth been tested (clean) and ap told his wife we always used condoms. So probably no testing there.

The dangerous part there is trusting an AP. If it were me I'd get tested together. There are plenty of places where you can pay cash. Condoms won't always protect against herpes or HPV.

[Anonymous]

Sadly, this is why in DC it's mandatory to get tested for STIs multiple times during a pregnancy.

[Anonymous]

DH had an affair, AP was also married. They told each other they were "clean" and had sex without condoms on two occasions. After I found out, I made DH get tested. Positive for herpes. Idiots. Just because you're well-educated, rich, smart, whatever doesn't mean you can't get STDs people.

[Anonymous]

You should both be tested when entering any relationship.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:DH had an affair, AP was also married. They told each other they were "clean" and had sex without condoms on two occasions. After I found out, I made DH get tested. Positive for herpes. Idiots. Just because you're well-educated, rich, smart, whatever doesn't mean you can't get STDs people.

And cervical cancer.
If be so angry if I married someone this stupid and selfish...

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I asked ap about his status before we had sex. He and I had both been tested because of infertility issues. And both faithful to spouse (except with each other). That plus condoms and we were fine. Dh and I have since birth been tested (clean) and ap told his wife we always used condoms. So probably no testing there.

The dangerous part there is trusting an AP. If it were me I'd get tested together. There are plenty of places where you can pay cash. Condoms won't always protect against herpes or HPV.

I understand that trusting him was a mistake. But he trusted me, too. Turns out I wasn't lying, either. I understand liars lie. Cheaters lie. But I wasnt thinking about us as liars and cheaters at that point.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:My friends works in obgyn office and I suspect nobody asks or cares.

So many women getting sti's from H's.

I'd like to know more. What about HPV?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:My friends works in obgyn office and I suspect nobody asks or cares.

So many women getting sti's from H's.

I'd like to know more. What about HPV?

PP again...and correct me if I'm wrong but there is no test for HPV infections in men. Is this correct?