Would you choose your career over love?

[Anonymous]

This was a topic on the radio today. Would you choose your career over love, why or why not?

[Anonymous]

Nope. A job is just a job.

My wife is my best friend and partner in life.

[Anonymous]

Never

[Anonymous]

I did when I was younger. At that point it was still education and a few very early career decisions. To me it was more about proving to myself that I could take care of myself independently of anyone else before I settled down. I don't regret it, but I do think there's some irony in life that women, especially, seem to be pushed to prove their independence only to spend the next several decades trying to get less selfish and learn to balance the important people in your life with career. Just can't win...

[Anonymous]

No way.

[Anonymous]

nope. I don't know if men would feel any different. I know my DH wouldn't pick his career over love. To him, it's just a job.

[Anonymous]

Yes no question.

[Anonymous]

Of course not.

[Anonymous]

No

[PaigeKeller]

What kind of love or relationship would demand such a choice?

Seriously! Can someone enlighten me!

[Anonymous]

I can see if I was starting a relationship and I came to see that it was incompatible in the long term with a career I loved (e.g. he was destined to run the family farm in the middle of nowhere while my career requires being in a city) then I wouldn't pursue the relationship even if there was a strong spark.

But, I wouldn't choose a job over my spouse.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I can see if I was starting a relationship and I came to see that it was incompatible in the long term with a career I loved (e.g. he was destined to run the family farm in the middle of nowhere while my career requires being in a city) then I wouldn't pursue the relationship even if there was a strong spark.

But, I wouldn't choose a job over my spouse.

+1.

[Anonymous]

PaigeKeller wrote:What kind of love or relationship would demand such a choice?

Seriously! Can someone enlighten me!

I've seen this with a military family. The wife was miserable, but the husband wouldn't leave the military, so they divorced.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

PaigeKeller wrote:What kind of love or relationship would demand such a choice?

Seriously! Can someone enlighten me!

I've seen this with a military family. The wife was miserable, but the husband wouldn't leave the military, so they divorced.

I have seen this with my own eyes. My mos other than a drill sergeant have the highest divorce rate in military. Just in my group alone 2 got divorced. I swore to myself not to get married while I'm active.

[Anonymous]

Yes, I would. I have a high impact job that really fulfills me in a lot of ways. If I had to choose between one or the other, I can see myself choosing my career. Hopefully I would find someone that would make it work so that I wouldn't have to choose between the two.