Guys who are golddiggers. Why so many now?
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Anonymous
| So on this forum I see that a LOT of guys make a laundry list of requirements for a woman and 1 of those is for her is to earn well above 80k a year. Also online the guys who wrote me because i am young and attractive (though not rich) said they actively look for rich women to date. So are younger guys just getting lazier, more materialistic, or more superficial and fake? because you know well that your grandparents who have been together 30 plus years did not have equal incomes and women and minority women especially earn much less than their white and asian counterparts. |
Anonymous
| Men have the right to choose partners who will contribute to the family budget in a meaningful way. There is nothing wrong with that. I'm sure you'd prefer a man who makes upward of 80K, right? So what's your problem with guys having the same preferences? |
Anonymous
| Perhaps they are making sure the women aren't gold diggers. |
Anonymous
| What forum have you been reading. I ask because DCUMs is quite full of women that make long lists including income requirements for men. Haven't seen the men doing this as much. Anyway, if its good for the woman its good for the man. |
Anonymous
| Wut? |
Anonymous
| Equal rights. |
Anonymous
| Men aren't making enough to support families. The best they can hope for is to make 50% of the family income so they're looking for a woman who makes a similar or still good income. |
Anonymous
| I'm a woman, and when I was dating, one of my requirements was that a guy have a salary comparable to mine. I have more in common with them. |
Anonymous
| There are more women earning real money, compared to our grandparents' generation, so we have more selection to choose from. I hit the jackpot: a wife who makes $100k working p/t from home. Minimal daycare costs, home cooking, all the school business attended to... |
Anonymous
Yet your average american marriage usually ends in divorce after a few years and never outlasts our parents or grandparents and dc has a high divorce rate. You sound like a true golddigger. Good luck with your most likely short marriage. |
Anonymous
No it doesn't? Divorce rates have decreased. More people are marrying for love and companionship. Our grandparents married because they should and for stability. |
Anonymous
I still earn more than DW. Your statistics are flawed. The divorce rate among college-educated spouses on their first marriage is extremely low, in fact. The overall average, however, is skewed by people who are serial divorcers. |
Anonymous
NP here. Seriously, go away and take your bitterness with you. |
Anonymous
| I don't care about salary but I judge a woman's schooling/education level - which my dad thinks is weird. |
Anonymous
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I know blue collar level guys who are doing this; my friend (who lives in a blue collar area) has supported 3 of guys over the past few years while they were dating. DH has pointedly asked me--"do any guys in your home area work or do they just live off women?" With that said, it is harder for the guys to find work that pays what their Dad's were paid; most of it is service industry work, and the blue collar trades are harder to get into (and full of guys.)
Not sure about the men on this forum. Maybe the need for 2 incomes in the DC area makes them not want to date anyone who does not earn as much as they do? 80K seems rather high though--they will probably eliminate many younger attractive college graduates getting their state in the DC metro, many federal employees, and non-profit employees. Maybe it is just equal opportunity to be a gold digger, like a certain subset of women? |