13 was terrible. 14 is great. Will it get bad again?
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Anonymous
My daughter has always been so close to her family. She was always the "ideal" child (although we would never put her up on that pedestal) but of course she had a tough age at 13 and went thru the normal transitioning to teenager crap. Normal stuff but it was tough for all. She is now a freshman and is doing so well. Emotionally, physically, academics, sports. Very close with me and even her Dad. So nice to her little sisters. I am too scared to think it will fall apart. Does it usually? I am guessing another bad time will come when she starts driving, dating or possibly drinking? I don't know. She is kinda a home body and a goodie-goodie. More than I ever was. She prefers going to the movies or mall with a few friends. Working hard in school and plays 2 sports a lot. One year round. Moms with older ones, tell me what to prepare for so I am ready! 
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The rough part was over for all my kids by 15, so you may be in the clear. I had a mix of homebodies and ones who went out more, but they were all behaving pretty civilly at 15 and older. Two of them are adults now and are good people who are pleasant to be around.
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Anonymous
| For our family, the worst time for us girls growing up was 15-17 for some reason. I think we were all slow developers (emotionally). |
Anonymous
| My DD had a REALLY hard time at 15. 11th grade is a bitch, and so was she that year. I let a lot of eye-rolling and dramatic sighing slide. |
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| Yes, it will. |
Anonymous
11th is 16 going on 17. |
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13 was definitely the worst, but 17 had its moments between having a driver's license, the stress of applying for college and boyfriends. But everyone is different, so maybe you'll have smooth sailing.
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Anonymous
This is us too. Mine seemed to really turn the corner at 15 and stay great. |
Anonymous
You are both very lucky families!!! |
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| My mom had three daughters. She always said that 13 and 15 were the worst ages for all three of us. |
Anonymous
Probably a combination of good luck in terms of getting the kids they got and good parenting in terms of how parented their particular kids. |
Anonymous
Haha, and 14 is some strange nice year sandwiched so you don't go completely insane! |
Anonymous
+1! That's when the "in crowd" of 10 girls "excludes" the rest of the female population, but they're too young to look around and figure out how numerous they really are. Hold on, it's gonna be a very bumpy ride! |
Anonymous
| You're probably through the worst of it, but there's still a few twists and turns before the roller coaster ride is over. At least this was the case with our 3, the youngest of whom is a senior in high school. They're awful in 8th, stabilizing in 9th, really hitting their stride in 10th and 11th (as long as you don't add to the stress of junior year by expecting perfection), then fall of senior year is very stressful until college applications are in. After that, things get better until just before they leave for college. Then they're awful, which is heartbreaking because you know they'll be walking out the door soon -- and you can hardly wait because they're such assholes. Then they come home at Thanksgiving and say "Wow, I really missed you guys." After that, they're pretty terrific. |
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I'm 45 now and still remember 13 as being my hardest year.
The rest of my teenage years were great. My DD is turning 14 in a few weeks. Keeping my fingers crossed. |