Help me dissuade my friend from blended family honeymoon at Disney!

[Anonymous]

A friend just got engaged after less than a year of dating.This will be a second marriage for both parties though my friend had a very brief "starter marriage" with no kids and her intended was married basically 15-20 years with kids. She doesn't want a fussy second wedding and plans to go to the Courthouse with a dinner that night. However, she thinks it would be great for her new DH to pull his 3 kids from school for a week and honeymoon in Disney as a family. The idea is to bond because her FSK live in another state and have only alternating major holidays and a month in summer here with their dad. think this is a horrible idea.
1. A honeymoon is supposed to be a romantic time for the newlywed couple to enjoy each other without family or friends intruding.
2. Bonding trips for blended families are almost always stressful. Why bring that vibe into your honeymoon.
3. Although the ES-age FSK might be thrilled by a week off school, the MS and HS siblings might resent it. It could also create a wedge with the XW/mom.

How do I tell my friend all these things nicely and gently?

[Anonymous]

I think it's wonderful that she wants to do this. More power to her!

[Anonymous]

Don't tell your friend any of that. Let her and her future husband do what they want to do.

[Anonymous]

I would MYOB.

[Anonymous]

You don't.

It is rude.

Not to mention all your arguments are off base.

Why are you so emotionally invested in her honeymoon?

The only suggestion you should give her is to reserve a family suite with a separate bedroom so they all have some space.

[Anonymous]

I agree with all the above.

If the kids are living so far away that dad hardly sees them, your friend and her husband will have plenty of time to be romantic and alone.
It is a good thing that your friend wants to start off on such a positive note with her step kids.

[Anonymous]

None of your beeswax.

[Anonymous]

Let's see, this isn't the 1950s and I'm guessing your friend and her fiancé have already had sex. So, a honeymoon is just a vacation, and you need to butt out.

[Anonymous]

I think her heart is really in the right place, but she's not really being sensitive to the fact that the stepkids (especially the teens) might be upset about the remarriage and not really feel like celebrating it. A bonding trip with the stepkids is a great idea; just make it later on, not as part of the wedding festivities. Also, the HS and MS kids might rather go someplace else than Disney.

[Anonymous]

Wait. Chances are that honeymoon is not going to happen...you don't pull your kid out in middle and high school for 5 or more days for a slog to disney. Nor in upper elemntary. The dad and mom will put a stop to it.

5 sick days or unexcused absences? What if they do sports or something?

[Anonymous]

OP, meet Nunya. Nunya Bidness.

[Anonymous]

Why on earth would you think it's okay to tell your friend how he should spend his honeymoon? You do not have any say on what he considers romantic.

[Anonymous]

Why do I think that starting your post with "she got engaged after less than a year of dating" is key to your whole attitude?

[Anonymous]

Mind your own business. As a stepmom, I cannot imagine pulling kids out of school that long. Also, has she even asked mom. Mom may not be supportive of their marriage and not allow them to attend the wedding let alone the honeymoon. Very strange.

[Anonymous]

Are you in love with your friend?