Sending 3 year old on a vacation with grandparent
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Anonymous
| Would you let your parent/inlaw take your 3 year old on a Disney Cruise? |
Anonymous
| Nope. They are all good grandparents, but they are all older and do not have the energy for the constant "ON" it takes with a child that age. Plus on a cruise, there are no "outs," no way to end or shorten the trip if it goes awry. Way too many dangerous situations on a cruise. |
Anonymous
| Depends on their age. It takes a lot of energy to keep up with a 3 year old! Plus I actually think it would be traumatic for the 3 year old to leave their parents and all they know, unless the grandparents regularly care for them. Three is too young! |
Anonymous
| No, I would not. My inlaws and parents are all wonderful caring grandparents. I would leave her with either set for a weekend. But I do not trust them to be able to navigate new situations/locations in addition to caring for her. |
Anonymous
| No, absolutely not, but they're older and I don't think they could run after my crazy 3 year old all day every day for 5 days or however long a cruise is. They'd be exhausted and I don't think anyone would have a good time. |
Anonymous
| PP here - I think my answer would be different if you'd asked about a weekend trip to grandma's house by the way. |
Anonymous
| No. My parents and ILs like to sit around and read their iPad or phones. I could see my kids getting lost or going overboard or drowning. |
Anonymous
+1. Hell No. |
Anonymous
| No. 3 is too young. |
Anonymous
| No, I wouldn't. Too unfamiliar of a place for everyone. |
Anonymous
| Depends on the grandparents. My mom, yes, but she'd never do it. My dad, no way! My husband's mom, no but she has dementia. Another set of relatives, absolutely. |
Anonymous
| No. My in laws are great but I'm not ready for that. |
Anonymous
|
OP. I wouldn't either. My FIL told another relative (who told us) that he was upset because he would have taken our son, but he knew we'd say no. Great! He was right! But, there's a back story. I actually posted about it before, but he's hurt that we don't let ds stay on over nights with him at all, and we're (in his mind) depriving him of time to get to know his grandson. So now, he declines 98% of opportunities to spend time with his grandson (because it isn't that alone time/over night that he wants.) And then he creates these situations which he KNOWS we'd never go for, just so he can play the victim and complain that we keep his grandson from him.
I posted specifically about the cruise because it seemed unlikely to me that most parents would allow it. He went with his girlfriend and her (much older) grandkids. |
Anonymous
| He only wants to spend time with your kid if they're alone together? That would weird me out. |
Anonymous
| Not a chance. |