Online dating-have you been stood up?

[Anonymous]

If you do online dating of any kind -how often are you stood up?

[Anonymous]

Stood up meaning what?

Like he leaves you waiting at a bar? Or plans are initiated but not followed through with?

The latter happens all the time, the former never to me.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Stood up meaning what?

Like he leaves you waiting at a bar? Or plans are initiated but not followed through with?

The latter happens all the time, the former never to me.

Yes, I meant waiting at a bar. But to your second point, do people not follow through a lot?

[Anonymous]

I did this one. Drove by the restaurant looking for a parking space. Saw the guy outside waiting- he had clearly misrepresented himself, so I no showed. Not nice, but I was 24. 24 year olds aren't nice.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Stood up meaning what?

Like he leaves you waiting at a bar? Or plans are initiated but not followed through with?

The latter happens all the time, the former never to me.

Agree with this although I was once stood up as in the guy never showed. It was my first ever date resulting from online dating and I didn't think to exchange numbers with him ahead of time so I could contact him. My roommate let me know after the fact that you always want to get their number and confirm via text the day of so it lessens the chance of them standing you up vs. just not showing.

The latter, where you start chatting with a person and discuss making plans to meet but nothing ever really comes of it, happens all the time. My friends and I call them the pen pal guys (and I'm betting there are girls like that as well) that really just want someone to talk to but never want to meet. Best policy is to schedule a date within a week or two of beginning communication and if they resist, cut ties (and also if you don't want to meet up after two weeks, cut ties) - no point in continuing if no one is actually interested in meeting.

[Anonymous]

Once.

[Anonymous]

Yep, I had one person stand me up for a coffee date. I was pretty pissed off about it.

[Anonymous]

Yes. It happened twice. Two different people. It was so inconsiderate. But they're obviously not worth your time.

[Anonymous]

Happened to my once. But it turns out, we were both waiting a different Starbucks (same city, same road, 2 different locations).

[Anonymous]

Woman here, never been stood up. Have had plans that never materialized though.

[Anonymous]

That is my main one fear of online dating.

That I will be waiting for a guy and he will spot me and turn around.

I.e., "Hi, are you John??" "Well it depends. Are you Suzy? Because if you are, then I'm not John!"

[Anonymous]

Yes, I was driving to the location and he thought canceling five minutes prior to our meeting was appropriate

[Anonymous]

Yes, once.

Waited 25 minutes after I Metro'd from Dupont Circle to Bethesda.

Received a message from him saying "I should have warned you I tend to run late so you would have waited."

Obviously no further contact.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:That is my main one fear of online dating.

That I will be waiting for a guy and he will spot me and turn around.

I.e., "Hi, are you John??" "Well it depends. Are you Suzy? Because if you are, then I'm not John!"

LOL!

I still wouldn't worry about that. Someone who does that isn't worth the time.

[Anonymous]

I always insist on a phone conversation first. You can tell a lot from that and can get a sense if they are anything like their profile, how flaky they are, and how serious they are about meeting in person.

I have been on many online dates and have never been stood up.