How do I get my ex to take the hint

[Anonymous]

I'm a 30 year old woman who dated a guy for a little over a month last year. He decided to cut ties with me due to wanting to get back with an ex girlfriend who relocated back to DC. Obviously I was hurt, but after thinking about things, I figured we wouldn't have lasted anyway. So a few weeks ago, he messages me wanting to catch up. He says he has a new girlfriend now and cut things off with his ex and still wants to be friends as he thinks about me often. I'm in a relationship with an amazing guy. I have no reason at all to keep in touch with my "ex". He has messaged me 3x times this week and I got fed up and told him to leave me alone, I have a boyfriend and I'm not interested in being friends with him, especially since he hurt me. He won't take the hint and just invited me to his Superbowl party! I never met any of his friends and that would just be uncomfortable, I still don't want to go. What exactly should I say to him to get him to stop bothering me?

[Anonymous]

If you told him directly, it wasn't a hint LOL Just ignore him.

[Anonymous]

Sorry to hear OP. Sounds like he did you a great favor by breaking up with you. Best approach is to just ignore all attempts at contact. If that doesn't work after a few weeks, start keeping track of his attempts to contact you and consider next stages of calling it harassment, but I think he'll probably go away without this. You told him you don't want any more contact and why, now just stick to it!

[Anonymous]

Do not engage at all. ever.

[Anonymous]

"Thank you for your invitation. I will have to decline as I have plans with my boyfriend. I am glad you have a new girlfriend. I hope things work out for both of you!"

[Anonymous]

Ignore and block. After you tell him the definitive no, don't ever engage again.

[Anonymous]

Why haven't you blocked him? You explicitly told him to stop contacting you. He didn't respect that. Either keep receiving messages and getting mad when he texts, then have to decide every time you receive one if you should ignore, hint to stop, or explicitly tell him to stop again. Or you can block him and be done. Seems like an easy solution.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:"Thank you for your invitation. I will have to decline as I have plans with my boyfriend. I am glad you have a new girlfriend. I hope things work out for both of you!"

And then don't respond ever again.

[Anonymous]

Is someone you dated for a month really an ex??

[Anonymous]

If you "date" a guy for a month, he's not your ex.

[Anonymous]

OP here. I know he's not am ex, but it was easier to type. He has been bothering me longer than I dated him.

[Anonymous]

You like this drama or you would have blocked him and moved on woth life

[Anonymous]

If you've already directly told him you're not interested, then simply ignore everything he sends you.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:"Thank you for your invitation, but I will not be there."

Edited the rest. The bits about having a boyfriend and he having a girlfriend is unnecessary and juvenile. Just say what you mean and mean what you say. And if he persists, don't reply again.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I'm a 30 year old woman who dated a guy for a little over a month last year. He decided to cut ties with me due to wanting to get back with an ex girlfriend who relocated back to DC. Obviously I was hurt, but after thinking about things, I figured we wouldn't have lasted anyway. So a few weeks ago, he messages me wanting to catch up. He says he has a new girlfriend now and cut things off with his ex and still wants to be friends as he thinks about me often. I'm in a relationship with an amazing guy. I have no reason at all to keep in touch with my "ex". He has messaged me 3x times this week and I got fed up and told him to leave me alone, I have a boyfriend and I'm not interested in being friends with him, especially since he hurt me. He won't take the hint and just invited me to his Superbowl party! I never met any of his friends and that would just be uncomfortable, I still don't want to go. What exactly should I say to him to get him to stop bothering me?

You need advice on this? Don't respond, end of story. No one wants to date or keep a relationship with anyone that talks to their ex or continues to see them. Ignore this idiot, he only wants to use you for back up.