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How Did Your Child's School Handle Mother's Day
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Anonymous
| Once again, my son had to pick which mom he would give the mother's day card to. I wish schools would either skip Mother's Day or do Mother's Day in a way that was inclusive. How hard is it to allow a child to make two cards or to suggest to the child that he address the one card he is allowed to make to his "moms" instead of making him choose between the two. |
Anonymous
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Wow. That is horrible. Are you going to speak with the school about it?
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Anonymous
| That's awful These schools claim to be inclusive, & then they do crap like that. Like you said, how much time would it take to do an extra card. My son's daycare is great. The card said "to my mommies", & we got a handmade potted plant. |
Anonymous
| I think the whole concept of schools doing Mother's or Father's day cards is stupid. There are so many kids who don't have both, not just LGBT families, and making cards for these events makes the child feel out of place. Schools need to stop with the whole Mother's/Father's day thing for many reasons. |
Anonymous
| We have discussed this. If they are going to do this, they need to be inclusive. What happens to all the kids who don't have a mother or a father? |
Anonymous
| My kid's school has a Mother's Visiting Day and a Father's Visiting Day. I do think it's a bit archaic in this day and age. |
Anonymous
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The school certainly should have permitted two cards, but to suggest that schools eliminate celebrating Mothers Day and Fathers Day is absurd. Even in this day and age, most children have both--are you really going to be a killjoy over something like this? Our children's school also does Grandparents Day. Well, they have no living grandparents and do feel left out, but would I suggest canceling it? Of course not. The world doesn't revolve around them, and most other kids have grandparents; why would I prevent the overwhelming majority from celebrating in a misguided attempt to protect my own? I wouldn't, and it would be even worse with something like Mothers Day and Fathers Day. Life involves disappointment and feeling left out at times. One doesn't harm others because of that.
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Anonymous
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Amen, PP
OP, get over it.... |
Anonymous
| 18:49 and 21:17, I you are missing the point. What if schools decided to celebrate Parent's Day but only allowed your child to make one card and then required your child to choose which parent to give it to. Don't you think your child would be tortured at having to state his/her choice. And would you want them to be put in a position to say who was the favorite, even if just for the moment? Further, while this post isn't about the parents, don't you think it would be terribly difficult for the non-chosen parent to hear that they weren't chosen to receive the card. Being forced to choose between your parents is a far different issue than being put in a situation where some kids get to celebrate something your child is missing. No child should have to choose between parents and schools should do better. |
Anonymous
| Nope. Mine would cheerfully make a card for her favorite parent, her daddy. |
Anonymous
Um, do you even read the posts before you rant? Here is a direct quote from 18:40: "The school certainly should have permitted two cards..." In fact, that is how that PP's post began, so there is realy no excuse for you ignoring it. |
Anonymous
Why should the school do Grandparent's day card too? Our children don't have Grandparents on either side and it always makes them sad when the school decides to have them do cards for people who don't exists. If they did have Grandparent's, we'd have them do cards at home anyway. Just like we have them do Mother's/Father's day cards at home anyway. It is very insensitive for schools to put any child in a position of feeling left out. If a school had kids do cards for "priest day" and had all kids do it reguardless of their religious background, all parents would be outraged. I see no difference except in this cause it seems to be majority rule. |
Anonymous
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PP, your rhetoric is over the top--you seriously see no difference between Mothers/Fathers Day and "priest" day? That is one of the silliest mistakes of logic I have seen on this board.
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Anonymous
That is horrible. I would speak to the school. I agree that if they can't allow two cards, he should be allowed to address it to the both of you. |
Anonymous
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28:43, it is YOU who is missing the point. (This is 21:17)
We are all in agreement that there should have been two cards allowed, or one card addressed to the two moms. No one is asking any child to choose between two parents on Mother's Day, St. Patrick's Day or any other time. What is ridiculous is the notion that schools should "do away" with Mother's Day, Grandparent's Day or any other special day that the majority of people in this city/ state/ country acknowledge and recognize, just because there might be one child in the class who --- technically--- can't fully participate. As in life, this is a case where "majority rules." Anyone who doesn't have the necessary mother, father, grandparent or whomever alive/ available to be celebrated should not be made to feel bad about it, of course, but is going to have to learn to accept (early) that this is his particular set of circumstances. It's just the way it is. We don't all have everything and there is no such thing as a "perfect" family. (Written by a mother whose 4 year old was the ONLY CHILD IN HIS CLASS who did not have a grandparent visit on a recent Grandparent's Day.) |