My husband is addicted to his computer

[Anonymous]

My husband is on his desktop every possible second of the day and sometimes night.. he's doing his PhD so I understand he has to study and will stop to look at facebook in the middle of studying . He eats all his meals at the computer . He thinks going to target is considered spending time together. I've tried to explain how frustrating it is for me !!! He never watches tv with me or hangs out in the living room. He's Asian and I am Caucasian / American. I don't know what to do. He blows up on me when I try to talk about thing's. And btw I'm pregnant to make thing's worse. I wish I could leave right now but it's hard for me to move around because I have hip painful.

[Anonymous]

He's not constantly studying btw. I've asked him to spend time with me instead of Facebook or YouTube videos. He watches movies online and doesn't include me. Sometimes I think I married a robot!

[Anonymous]

Let the man work.

[Anonymous]

And he will jump back to studying if I notice he's on Facebook or watching movie's.

[Anonymous]

I hate to say this but you made a bad choice for a husband. It's not you. It's not the PhD. He'll never change. This is your life, unless he decided to change or you decide to leave.

[Anonymous]

So's mine, but he spends money online shopping like the world is gonna end tomorrow...

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I hate to say this but you made a bad choice for a husband. It's not you. It's not the PhD. He'll never change. This is your life, unless he decided to change or you decide to leave.

+1
Sorry OP. How was he before the Ph.D. program?

[Anonymous]

You need to raise your game. You are competing against a huge universe of entertainment. It is only going to get worse with VR porn.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:You need to raise your game. You are competing against a huge universe of entertainment. It is only going to get worse with VR porn.

Oh thanks. This is exactly what I need to hear considering I'm 36 weeks pregnant and the size of a whale right now.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:You need to raise your game. You are competing against a huge universe of entertainment. It is only going to get worse with VR porn.

Oh thanks. This is exactly what I need to hear considering I'm 36 weeks pregnant and the size of a whale right now.

You're having a baby with this guy?!? OMG. I hate to tell you this but it's about to get so very much worse.

I hope this is a troll thread, otherwise it makes me really sad

[Anonymous]

Could it be that he's anxious about the baby coming and trying to escape that reality?
Did you guys make a plan for how your maternity leave will go and who will take care of what? Hell really need to be there to take care of everything else while you concentrate on the baby.
Can you set aside some time and ask him to as well to have a conversation about this? You can put it on his schedule and fit it into his studying. I think it's silly to pander to him in your state but you have to do what you have to do to love forward.
These are the last quiet months you'll have to yourselves for a long long time.
Good luck.

[Anonymous]

I agree with your frustration, but you misspelled "wife" and "iPad."

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Could it be that he's anxious about the baby coming and trying to escape that reality?
Did you guys make a plan for how your maternity leave will go and who will take care of what? Hell really need to be there to take care of everything else while you concentrate on the baby.
Can you set aside some time and ask him to as well to have a conversation about this? You can put it on his schedule and fit it into his studying. I think it's silly to pander to him in your state but you have to do what you have to do to love forward.
These are the last quiet months you'll have to yourselves for a long long time.
Good luck.

Honestly I think he's just a computer nerd. I know he's super excited about the baby . I'm trying not to upset him too much because he's very close to finishing his PhD.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I agree with your frustration, but you misspelled "wife" and "iPad."

ha I have no idea what you mean. We don't have an iPad.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Could it be that he's anxious about the baby coming and trying to escape that reality?
Did you guys make a plan for how your maternity leave will go and who will take care of what? Hell really need to be there to take care of everything else while you concentrate on the baby.
Can you set aside some time and ask him to as well to have a conversation about this? You can put it on his schedule and fit it into his studying. I think it's silly to pander to him in your state but you have to do what you have to do to love forward.
These are the last quiet months you'll have to yourselves for a long long time.
Good luck.

Honestly I think he's just a computer nerd. I know he's super excited about the baby . I'm trying not to upset him too much because he's very close to finishing his PhD.

A computer nerd who blows up at you when you try to talk about things?