WHY do men love to give the silent treatment?

[Anonymous]

Currently on day 3 now. He's driving me crazy.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Currently on day 3 now. He's driving me crazy.

Because you won't have sex with him, so he's giving you the cold shoulder.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Currently on day 3 now. He's driving me crazy.

Because you won't have sex with him, so he's giving you the cold shoulder.

Nope thats not it. Had a small fight- barely even a fight. Now he wont call or return my texts

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Currently on day 3 now. He's driving me crazy.

Because you won't have sex with him, so he's giving you the cold shoulder.

In other words, have sex with him. Problem solved.

[Anonymous]

I'm a DW, and I give DH the silent treatment when I'm pissed at him. Otherwise, I might say something I regret later. Need time to cool off.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Currently on day 3 now. He's driving me crazy.

Because you won't have sex with him, so he's giving you the cold shoulder.

Nope thats not it. Had a small fight- barely even a fight. Now he wont call or return my texts

Small fight to you. Apparently it was a much bigger deal to him. Might want to figure out why that is.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Currently on day 3 now. He's driving me crazy.

Because you won't have sex with him, so he's giving you the cold shoulder.

Nope thats not it. Had a small fight- barely even a fight. Now he wont call or return my texts

Small fight to you. Apparently it was a much bigger deal to him. Might want to figure out why that is.

But how if hes not responding. We dont live together

[Anonymous]

This hasn't ever happened to me. DH doesn't do the silent treatment.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Currently on day 3 now. He's driving me crazy.

Because you won't have sex with him, so he's giving you the cold shoulder.

Nope thats not it. Had a small fight- barely even a fight. Now he wont call or return my texts

Small fight to you. Apparently it was a much bigger deal to him. Might want to figure out why that is.

But how if hes not responding. We dont live together

Call and say, "I'm on my way over."

[Anonymous]

Why? Because he's pissed, he's not a "yeller" and it bothers you! Next question?

[Anonymous]

Because he can't use his big boy words. It's awful. Beware OP, are these the type of conflict resolution skills you want in your life?

[Anonymous]

This is a major red flag to me, OP. The silent treatment is punishment dolled out by a teenager- not an adult male. If he needs some time to cool down before talking about the issue, fine. A few hours or an evening should suffice. But if he's trying to "punish" you while still not dealing with the issues at hand, you've got much bigger problems on your plate.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Currently on day 3 now. He's driving me crazy.

Because you won't have sex with him, so he's giving you the cold shoulder.

Nope thats not it. Had a small fight- barely even a fight. Now he wont call or return my texts

Small fight to you. Apparently it was a much bigger deal to him. Might want to figure out why that is.

But how if hes not responding. We dont live together

Consider this a blessing and move on. He's obviously completely emotionally immature, and that will only get worse if you move in together/get married.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:This is a major red flag to me, OP. The silent treatment is punishment dolled out by a teenager- not an adult male. If he needs some time to cool down before talking about the issue, fine. A few hours or an evening should suffice. But if he's trying to "punish" you while still not dealing with the issues at hand, you've got much bigger problems on your plate.

+1

A mature person would say, "I'm really upset about what you said this morning, and I need some time to cool off and think." An immature person just stops talking to you. I have no patience for that crap. It's not your job to drive over and give him a BJ so he won't be mad anymore.

[Anonymous]

I grew up receiving the silent treatment. It's emotional abuse. The excuse that you don't want to say something you'll regret is utter crapola.

Say you need some time to cool off before talking and go do so. Engage in civil pleasantries as required in the meantime and respond when spoken to or contacted via phone or text.

Also, if you need three days to cool off before you can speak, you have major anger issues and need to seek therapy.

Any person with decent self-esteem will stop giving a shit when someone gives them the silent treatment over time and will just disengage emotionally from the person. So if you are a person who gives the silent treatment to a spouse or child, you will reap what you sow.