Grandparents insist on taking my kids’ first class seats

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I hope the grandparents decide not to go. Their daughter and her husband have shown them who they are- they should believe them.

They can stay home and pout.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I fascinated by the idea that anyone thinks OP *must* accommodate her parents in this scenario or she is acting badly.

I’d tell my kids everything and leave the choice to them. Do they like grandparents? Do they want them to come? My kids like their grandparents on both sides more than I like any of them and would happily give up their seats for $50. But it would also give them a helpful window into what their grandparents can be like. No bad thing.

No one actually thinks that. There are people who like to fight and people who are not reading the scenario as described. Many of them seem to think that OP bought all 6 tickets together and chose to put kids up front and parents in steerage with the proles. Those people are missing a lot of dynamics. OP made the mistake of responding with some negative depictions of her daughter, and those people took those details to mean that no one respects their elders anymore.

My 13yo would know that $50 is not a respectful tip for the seat change. Add a zero, grandpa, and maybe we can talk about it.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I fascinated by the idea that anyone thinks OP *must* accommodate her parents in this scenario or she is acting badly.

I’d tell my kids everything and leave the choice to them. Do they like grandparents? Do they want them to come? My kids like their grandparents on both sides more than I like any of them and would happily give up their seats for $50. But it would also give them a helpful window into what their grandparents can be like. No bad thing.

No one actually thinks that. There are people who like to fight and people who are not reading the scenario as described. Many of them seem to think that OP bought all 6 tickets together and chose to put kids up front and parents in steerage with the proles. Those people are missing a lot of dynamics. OP made the mistake of responding with some negative depictions of her daughter, and those people took those details to mean that no one respects their elders anymore.

My 13yo would know that $50 is not a respectful tip for the seat change. Add a zero, grandpa, and maybe we can talk about it.

This is vomit worthy. Your 13 is so spoiled that not only do they go on a Greek cruise but they need $500 to be nice and sit a few rows back? Disgusting. The kids didn't work for or earn any part of this trip and certainly don't need to be paid for the privilege. Many people would be happy to go at all.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I fascinated by the idea that anyone thinks OP *must* accommodate her parents in this scenario or she is acting badly.

I’d tell my kids everything and leave the choice to them. Do they like grandparents? Do they want them to come? My kids like their grandparents on both sides more than I like any of them and would happily give up their seats for $50. But it would also give them a helpful window into what their grandparents can be like. No bad thing.

No one actually thinks that. There are people who like to fight and people who are not reading the scenario as described. Many of them seem to think that OP bought all 6 tickets together and chose to put kids up front and parents in steerage with the proles. Those people are missing a lot of dynamics. OP made the mistake of responding with some negative depictions of her daughter, and those people took those details to mean that no one respects their elders anymore.

My 13yo would know that $50 is not a respectful tip for the seat change. Add a zero, grandpa, and maybe we can talk about it.

This is vomit worthy. Your 13 is so spoiled that not only do they go on a Greek cruise but they need $500 to be nice and sit a few rows back? Disgusting. The kids didn't work for or earn any part of this trip and certainly don't need to be paid for the privilege. Many people would be happy to go at all.

The grandparents didn’t either.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I fascinated by the idea that anyone thinks OP *must* accommodate her parents in this scenario or she is acting badly.

I’d tell my kids everything and leave the choice to them. Do they like grandparents? Do they want them to come? My kids like their grandparents on both sides more than I like any of them and would happily give up their seats for $50. But it would also give them a helpful window into what their grandparents can be like. No bad thing.

No one actually thinks that. There are people who like to fight and people who are not reading the scenario as described. Many of them seem to think that OP bought all 6 tickets together and chose to put kids up front and parents in steerage with the proles. Those people are missing a lot of dynamics. OP made the mistake of responding with some negative depictions of her daughter, and those people took those details to mean that no one respects their elders anymore.

My 13yo would know that $50 is not a respectful tip for the seat change. Add a zero, grandpa, and maybe we can talk about it.

This is vomit worthy. Your 13 is so spoiled that not only do they go on a Greek cruise but they need $500 to be nice and sit a few rows back? Disgusting. The kids didn't work for or earn any part of this trip and certainly don't need to be paid for the privilege. Many people would be happy to go at all.

The grandparents didn’t either.

Not true. Its not an all expense paid trip. The kids contributed zilch.

[Anonymous]

Such a microcosm of our society these days. I would love to know the political leanings of responders for team grandparents vs team grandkids/parents. I have some suspicions and wonder how it would play out.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I fascinated by the idea that anyone thinks OP *must* accommodate her parents in this scenario or she is acting badly.

I’d tell my kids everything and leave the choice to them. Do they like grandparents? Do they want them to come? My kids like their grandparents on both sides more than I like any of them and would happily give up their seats for $50. But it would also give them a helpful window into what their grandparents can be like. No bad thing.

No one actually thinks that. There are people who like to fight and people who are not reading the scenario as described. Many of them seem to think that OP bought all 6 tickets together and chose to put kids up front and parents in steerage with the proles. Those people are missing a lot of dynamics. OP made the mistake of responding with some negative depictions of her daughter, and those people took those details to mean that no one respects their elders anymore.

My 13yo would know that $50 is not a respectful tip for the seat change. Add a zero, grandpa, and maybe we can talk about it.

This is vomit worthy. Your 13 is so spoiled that not only do they go on a Greek cruise but they need $500 to be nice and sit a few rows back? Disgusting. The kids didn't work for or earn any part of this trip and certainly don't need to be paid for the privilege. Many people would be happy to go at all.

The grandparents didn’t either.

Not true. Its not an all expense paid trip. The kids contributed zilch.

They don’t need to.

[Anonymous]

Why wouldn’t your global services husband offer to upgrade them? I was global services for many years and always used upgrades or miles for my aging parents.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I fascinated by the idea that anyone thinks OP *must* accommodate her parents in this scenario or she is acting badly.

I’d tell my kids everything and leave the choice to them. Do they like grandparents? Do they want them to come? My kids like their grandparents on both sides more than I like any of them and would happily give up their seats for $50. But it would also give them a helpful window into what their grandparents can be like. No bad thing.

No one actually thinks that. There are people who like to fight and people who are not reading the scenario as described. Many of them seem to think that OP bought all 6 tickets together and chose to put kids up front and parents in steerage with the proles. Those people are missing a lot of dynamics. OP made the mistake of responding with some negative depictions of her daughter, and those people took those details to mean that no one respects their elders anymore.

My 13yo would know that $50 is not a respectful tip for the seat change. Add a zero, grandpa, and maybe we can talk about it.

This is vomit worthy. Your 13 is so spoiled that not only do they go on a Greek cruise but they need $500 to be nice and sit a few rows back? Disgusting. The kids didn't work for or earn any part of this trip and certainly don't need to be paid for the privilege. Many people would be happy to go at all.

The kids would be paid by the airline if they were displaced for their seats and if the airline only offered $50, everyone would say it was insulting. My 13yo isn’t going on this vacation bc I’m not the OP. My 13yo does, however, know that first class seats are expensive and that $50 is not a good trade. She wouldn’t any that to her grandpa. I would, though.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Why wouldn’t your global services husband offer to upgrade them? I was global services for many years and always used upgrades or miles for my aging parents.

He’s already covering several hotel nights for them in Europe ..which is not inexpensive. They agreed or offered to pay for their own flight and cruise ticket. They are getting their hotels paid for by OPs family. Now, they’ve decided that they want the kids seats that the husband bought with his miles.

I would say no and tell my parents that they are being insanely rude.

[Anonymous]

Never give in t jerks. It just cements that being a jerk is a great way to get what you want.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Why wouldn’t your global services husband offer to upgrade them? I was global services for many years and always used upgrades or miles for my aging parents.

He’s already covering several hotel nights for them in Europe ..which is not inexpensive. They agreed or offered to pay for their own flight and cruise ticket. They are getting their hotels paid for by OPs family. Now, they’ve decided that they want the kids seats that the husband bought with his miles.

I would say no and tell my parents that they are being insanely rude.

Giving them some of his upgrade points is basically free for a global services member. I think it’s really weird they didn’t offer this in the first place.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I can't believe there are 35 pages for this thread. Can someone give a summary? It looked like things were wrapped up on page 1.

OP bought FC tickets for her family of 4. GP who were invited bought coach tickets. GP are now demanding the kids give them their FC tickets.

Fighting ensued.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Why wouldn’t your global services husband offer to upgrade them? I was global services for many years and always used upgrades or miles for my aging parents.

He’s already covering several hotel nights for them in Europe ..which is not inexpensive. They agreed or offered to pay for their own flight and cruise ticket. They are getting their hotels paid for by OPs family. Now, they’ve decided that they want the kids seats that the husband bought with his miles.

I would say no and tell my parents that they are being insanely rude.

Giving them some of his upgrade points is basically free for a global services member. I think it’s really weird they didn’t offer this in the first place.

They aren’t free. Perhaps he and his wife wanted to use them for other travel, maybe give some to his parents on a future trip as he was already paying for hotel rooms for his in laws, maybe he wants to save them for future trips.

His miles are not for his in laws to rudely demand. Boomers are the worst.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Why wouldn’t your global services husband offer to upgrade them? I was global services for many years and always used upgrades or miles for my aging parents.

He’s already covering several hotel nights for them in Europe ..which is not inexpensive. They agreed or offered to pay for their own flight and cruise ticket. They are getting their hotels paid for by OPs family. Now, they’ve decided that they want the kids seats that the husband bought with his miles.

I would say no and tell my parents that they are being insanely rude.

Giving them some of his upgrade points is basically free for a global services member. I think it’s really weird they didn’t offer this in the first place.

You’d have to wade through 35 pages of this thread, but early on OP said that they booked the business class seats before the GP we’re going on the trip, and the airline wouldn’t let them add two more seats for miles later.