Why do people want a significant other?

[Anonymous]

Everywhere I look everyone is eager to settle down and have a BF or a Husband. Why?

[Anonymous]

how old are you and do you have one?

if you have no perspective on this, you're either too young to understand or too old.

[Anonymous]

I wouldn't say I'm "eager." I'm too busy to date often, while many of my friends are constantly on Tinder and OK Cupid. But I would like to have a partner. It would be nice to have someone to chill with at night after a long day at work, or take trips with, or try new restaurants with. I do have friends who can do some of that stuff with me, but with a partner, I could do all that stuff AND have sex. Win.

[Anonymous]

It's a normal human desire. The companionship and help in life are some of my reasons. Meeting the guy I want to do everything with is probably the primary motivator. He's my best friend and my lover. I want to be with him all of the time.

[Anonymous]

I didnt want to "settle down" but I wanted a partner to go through life with and I also wanted kids and to raise them in a family. It's so awesome to travel and go to restaurants with my husband and share those experiences and to see what he enjoys and thinks about.
I always knew I wanted that but didn't make it my mission. I enjoyed my twenties a lot, dated different people, went out and traveled with friends and worked and volunteered and was lucky to meet my now husband.

[Anonymous]

One of the clearest findings to emerge from research into
happiness is that we are social creatures.

All of us need other people in order to be well and thrive. We feel better just being around other people. And we need close relationships in order to be happy.

Close relationships create psychological space and safety so that we can explore and learn. When we feel safe and supported, we don’t have to narrow in on survival tasks like responding to danger or finding our next meal. We are able to explore our world, which builds resources for times of stress and adversity.

[Anonymous]

I was just thinking about this the other day. I'm 44, divorced from an ill-considered marriage and happily remarried.

It dawned on me yesterday that as a younger person I always had to be in a relationship because I craved the love and approval I didn't get as a kid.

That's why I married someone who didn't really treat me well.

After my divorce I relished my singleness and found that I am good company for myself. That the wrong relationship is worse than none.

When I remarried it was because this relationship made my life much better.

If something happened to my husband I would stay single and maybe date casually. A partner can be a good thing, but being an actualized human being is the most important thing.

[Anonymous]

For sex and companionship. Single woman here

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:For sex and companionship. Single woman here

Don't friends and family suffice?

[Anonymous]

Because humans are social animals, and because living together is more effective economically. Also, people want children, and children do better in families with two parents.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:For sex and companionship. Single woman here

Don't friends and family suffice?

Only in Kentucky.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:For sex and companionship. Single woman here

Don't friends and family suffice?

NP here. For sex? No, friends and family do not suffice for sex.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:For sex and companionship. Single woman here

Don't friends and family suffice?

NP here. For sex? No, friends and family do not suffice for sex.

Definitely not. I'm the OP of the original statement. Having a SO is a different kind of relationship vs friends and family even if sex weren't included.

[Anonymous]

Depends on who you are.
I was totally happy by myself before I met fiancé. He balances me out, it's nice to be part of a team, sex is wonderful. I don't "need" him, but it's a nice addition to what I had.

Some people have the need to have someone else. It's not wrong, but it's that simple.

[Anonymous]

In short, because it's the best feeling in the world to have someone to share your life with. I dated DW for 2 years, engaged for 1.5 years, and now married almost 10. Sometimes I'll be in another room doing whatever and look over into the kitchen and see her talking to our 4 year old DD and I just get floored about how much I love them. It can actually be overwhelming. I'm not always the best at showing the magnitude of my love for them (I'm a native northeasterner and can come across a little rough) but it is definitely there. So that's why!