s/o How do affairs actually begin? Logistics?

[Anonymous]

Excusing the Ashley Madison types, how does the actual first physical touch begin?

Over and over I see it's often co-workers, but at what point do both parties feel comfortable enough to pull the trigger? Make a first move? Does it feel like dating all over again?

I am a 31 year old female, and have always worked around men of all ages...and can't quite see how one actually just "goes for it." Alcohol? Company party? Work events?

[Anonymous]

Wanna grab a drink after work? If person is interested, it could lead to something. If not, you just asked a coworker for a drink, no big deal.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Wanna grab a drink after work? If person is interested, it could lead to something. If not, you just asked a coworker for a drink, no big deal.

Hm. Sounds about right. But what about SAHMs - how do they start affairs?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Wanna grab a drink after work? If person is interested, it could lead to something. If not, you just asked a coworker for a drink, no big deal.

Hm. Sounds about right. But what about SAHMs - how do they start affairs?

There's this thing called the "internet." I hear you can hook up with people that way.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Wanna grab a drink after work? If person is interested, it could lead to something. If not, you just asked a coworker for a drink, no big deal.

Hm. Sounds about right. But what about SAHMs - how do they start affairs?

Depends.

If some random person hits on them, they could just not mention a husband.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Wanna grab a drink after work? If person is interested, it could lead to something. If not, you just asked a coworker for a drink, no big deal.

Hm. Sounds about right. But what about SAHMs - how do they start affairs?

The SAHM that I know started sleeping with her personal trainer. She and her husband had a shitty relationship and he was always traveling (he was probably having an affair also).

[Anonymous]

The art of seduction. Increase light friendly touches and gauge response. Once he puts his hand on the small of your back to greet you or say goodbye, you will be assured of his intent. Happy hunting!

[Anonymous]

It only takes one thing (beyond mutual attraction) and that is

OPPORTUNITY

whatever that might be and however constructed it is, that's all you really need.

[Anonymous]

Well if you are a sahm just invite a sahd for a play date at your house. It's well know that this will end in an affair. It's so common, no one will blame you.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Well if you are a sahm just invite a sahd for a play date at your house. It's well know that this will end in an affair. It's so common, no one will blame you.

Hilarious. Fiction, but hilarious.

[Anonymous]

These days people spend more time with coworkers than spouses, so you develop the emotional connection through personal experiences, and then go on a conference alone together, and boom... I think it is easier to sneak up on you through work connections versus actively seeking it out.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Well if you are a sahm just invite a sahd for a play date at your house. It's well know that this will end in an affair. It's so common, no one will blame you.

Hilarious. Fiction, but hilarious.

I read that book LOL.
happened to me in real life though
The guy wasn't really sahp, that part was temporary as he was going through a divorce and job change. He was hot. It was awesome. Best sex ever. Better than fiction.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:These days people spend more time with coworkers than spouses, so you develop the emotional connection through personal experiences, and then go on a conference alone together, and boom... I think it is easier to sneak up on you through work connections versus actively seeking it out.

Yes, this is true for me. Developed strong emotional connection and friendship (and much flirtation) with coworker via internet chat. Then one day (2 months after it began) we met up because he (sneakily) purchased a small but thoughtful gift for me. He greeted me with a passionate kiss. I never thought I would go down that road.. never thought I would ever kiss another man. For me, this was not planned nor something I was looking for...and is extremely difficult to end.

[Anonymous]

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[Anonymous]

I get a vibe here that you are hoping for a playbook. Just my vibe.