s/o How do affairs actually begin? Logistics?

[Anonymous]

My neighbor just knocked on my door to ask how I was doing. He is the one in a relationship, but his girlfriend lives elsewhere.
No worries, nothing happened and I moved finally, but he had no business being over at my place.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I get a vibe here that you are hoping for a playbook. Just my vibe.

Nope. OP here.
I am essentially a bored SAHM now and stumbled across this forum and can not stop reading with fascination....

[Anonymous]

I'm also curious about this. The sort of contextual scenarios mentioned here -- development of emotional connection, opportunity through social isolation, etc. -- make sense to me.

But what I can't really imagine for myself is the moment (and I suppose the moments leading up to it) where you go in for a kiss or some other act which you can't plausibly deny as just being friendly.

[Anonymous]

In my case he said something along the lines of, "If I'm not mistaken you feel the same way I do." Total plausible deniability, which was essential because I was a work subordinate. But I am sure people go for the messy kiss all the time. That's why the drunk holiday party hookup is such a cliche.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Wanna grab a drink after work? If person is interested, it could lead to something. If not, you just asked a coworker for a drink, no big deal.

Hm. Sounds about right. But what about SAHMs - how do they start affairs?

I'm not quite SAHM, but close enough. It was somebody I was in close contact with for a few months, and eventually I just told him I had a crush on him. I was pretty sure he felt the same. Ahem. He did. We kind of floundered forward.