Depression sucks
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Anonymous
| DH is depressed and has been for about a year. He's just now coming around to considering talking to someone and won't consider meds. I've had my bouts with depression as well so I get it. It's a disease. But it's so horrible to watch someone you love sink deeper and deeper and not be able to help or fix. I'm being supportive and understanding but it's just a craptastic illness. |
Anonymous
| It really does suck. |
Anonymous
| I'm sorry. Get him to talk to someone - make the calls for him to help out. Let that person talk to him about meds. I hope you can get him in to see someone soon. Depression really does suck. |
Anonymous
I told him I would make the calls, find the therapist, set up the appt, coordinate any time off work with his secretary, and drive him. But it's taken me 6 months to even begin to consider the possibility of talking to someone. We've been together for 28 years. I know I have to move slowly and gently with him. He needs to decide when he is ready. But the minute he says Go, I will be coordinating everything for him. I hate this disease!!!! |
Anonymous
The paralysis is part of the disease |
Anonymous
| Has he been diagnosed? He may just be unhappy. That happens. Not everyone's life is as rosy as we think it should be. |
Anonymous
| As someone who suffers from bi polar and depression it's rough. You're a good partner. |
Anonymous
Why won't he consider meds? If he had cancer, would he avoid meds? Crazy. No pun intended. |
Anonymous
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I am a successful person with a great family but have spent the past four years with depression. After two years I began seeing a counselor, but nothing really helped until I started medication six months ago.
The positive results happened almost overnight. I know different people experience different results, but I would encourage anyone facing depression to at least speak with a professional about medical options. |
Anonymous
I totally agree with this. I have struggled with depression and anxiety on and off my entire adult life. It wasn't until I was diagnosed with post partem depression and went on Zoloft that things really started to improve. Like PP, I started seeing results almost immediately. I've seen a big improvement in my work performance, and I'm a better mother, wife, sister, friend, etc. My only regret is that I didn't go on meds much, much sooner. The difference is amazing. The stigma against antidepressants is such a shame; they help millions of people and have the potential to help millions more. |
Anonymous
OP here---I'm going to leave that conversation to between him and his therapist. I happen to think he should try medication. But he's an adult and gets to make his own decisions. When I ask him why he won't try medication, he replies that they're not for him. |
Anonymous
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Your DH is a being cautiously wise. No one really knows the long-term effects of these drugs. I was on them for many years and they have left me physically sicker than when I started. I stopped taking them years ago, but I still have problems caused by these drugs. I still have depression and treat it without any drugs at all and I'm feeling better than when I was taking medication. In fact, research all the alternative to medications that have proven to be more effective then harmful drugs.
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=z_XFfdkJXnM https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Ik0RTsIAEBU https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=KMoZcmm-9Ew https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=luKsQaj0hzs |
Anonymous
| Why is he depressed? |
Anonymous
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Depression does suck, ask me or a few of my friends and we could not agree more.
But the good thing is that there is help available out there. Let him know that you support him, but encourage him to consider medications if talk therapy does not work out. Being on meds, no one but him and you have to know about it if he is ashamed at first. After turning to medications, my life has gone from black and white to glorious technicolor. |
Anonymous
| ^^Sounds like your medication is causing mania. You should feel normal, like you do when you don't have a depressed mood, not glorious. |