MIL will not stop!!

[Anonymous]

My MIL will NOT STOP TALKING!! we are trying to watch a movie and she will not shut up!!! I also can't say a word to my DH without her adding her two cents!!! Even if I whisper it! So annoying!! She's in all of my business and goes through my stuff.

Thank you for the vent.

[Anonymous]

We have one of those. We only watch movies that we either have seen or didn't care to watch in the first place. Also haven't been above putting on the captions so I can read the dialogue. Good luck!

[Anonymous]

Hope she goes home soon OP. Sometimes I text my husband when his parents are visiting to avoid the same thing. A quick walk around the block or run to the store works too.

[Anonymous]

Do they ever OP?

[Anonymous]

Mine just left after 5 days and she had to fill every small silence with chatter. She lives alone and I try to be understanding since she enjoys having constant company, but it's pretty exhausting for me since I'm an introvert and just need some silent time.

[Anonymous]

I would shush her until she stopped.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:My MIL will NOT STOP TALKING!! we are trying to watch a movie and she will not shut up!!! I also can't say a word to my DH without her adding her two cents!!! Even if I whisper it! So annoying!! She's in all of my business and goes through my stuff.

Thank you for the vent.

Leave some sex toys or adult magazines on top .
Or start locking your room.

[Anonymous]

OP here. I feel like I have to sneak around my own home. She comments on what you eat and how much. Then she tells us about how much her other DILs, sons and grand kids eat and what they. She also will talk about what she finds around their houses. It's annoying and weird.

[Anonymous]

I know you're mostly venting here, but do you want to curb this?

If she's visiting from out of town: Next time put her up at a nearby hotel. DH can make it seem like a treat. When a certain time arrives each night, DH drives her to her hotel. If she makes noise about how she'd rather stay with you to spend more time (read: every waking moment) with him or with the kids etc., DH smiles and smiles as he tells her how sweet that is, and how this is all about giving her a break from the kids or whatever. Don't waffle. She can't go through your stuff as freely if she's not in the house as much. Note how DH, not you, is the person who handles her in this scenario. The idea of "put up the in-laws at a hotel when they visit" comes up a LOT here on DCUM and some posters always say "They'll refuse, they'll fuss" etc. but you just have to make it happen and sell it, and not engage in debate about it.

As for going through your stuff, assuming you mean your personal belongings or papers and not just digging around in the linen closet to see the towels: Like a PP said, lock the doors to rooms you don't want her in. Don't have locking doorknobs on those rooms? Easy fix. Home Depot.

Talking during the movie: I'm more forgiving on that one. She might be lonely and trying to cram in as much interaction as she can while she's visiting. Even if it's one-sided where she just chatters, that is how some lonely people fill up the space, frankly. Let her choose the movie or TV show and she might be less likely to talk during it. Or do something where the family actually does interact, like go out to look at holiday lights together, or take her to unusual stores she doesn't have near her home (craft store, quilting store if that's her thing, large bookstore), or do any of the many tourist things around. That way she and you are focused on what you're doing and not on each other so much.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP here. I feel like I have to sneak around my own home. She comments on what you eat and how much. Then she tells us about how much her other DILs, sons and grand kids eat and what they. She also will talk about what she finds around their houses. It's annoying and weird.

My ex's mother was the WORST. I'm talking calling everyone "piggish," measuring out food to the ounce, locking up the chips and making fun of anyone who touched them, saying things "people who like to cook are usually very heavy," bragging about how she always weighed 98 pounds, etc.

[Anonymous]

OP - is your MIL getting up in years? My people become more garrulous and talkative as they get older (or the opposite). My own mother talks too much and is now losing boundary sensitivities so says bizarre, inappropriate things to people.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP - is your MIL getting up in years? My people become more garrulous and talkative as they get older (or the opposite). My own mother talks too much and is now losing boundary sensitivities so says bizarre, inappropriate things to people.

Yes, they have no filters!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I know you're mostly venting here, but do you want to curb this?

If she's visiting from out of town: Next time put her up at a nearby hotel. DH can make it seem like a treat. When a certain time arrives each night, DH drives her to her hotel. If she makes noise about how she'd rather stay with you to spend more time (read: every waking moment) with him or with the kids etc., DH smiles and smiles as he tells her how sweet that is, and how this is all about giving her a break from the kids or whatever. Don't waffle. She can't go through your stuff as freely if she's not in the house as much. Note how DH, not you, is the person who handles her in this scenario. The idea of "put up the in-laws at a hotel when they visit" comes up a LOT here on DCUM and some posters always say "They'll refuse, they'll fuss" etc. but you just have to make it happen and sell it, and not engage in debate about it.

As for going through your stuff, assuming you mean your personal belongings or papers and not just digging around in the linen closet to see the towels: Like a PP said, lock the doors to rooms you don't want her in. Don't have locking doorknobs on those rooms? Easy fix. Home Depot.

Talking during the movie: I'm more forgiving on that one. She might be lonely and trying to cram in as much interaction as she can while she's visiting. Even if it's one-sided where she just chatters, that is how some lonely people fill up the space, frankly. Let her choose the movie or TV show and she might be less likely to talk during it. Or do something where the family actually does interact, like go out to look at holiday lights together, or take her to unusual stores she doesn't have near her home (craft store, quilting store if that's her thing, large bookstore), or do any of the many tourist things around. That way she and you are focused on what you're doing and not on each other so much.

OP here. This is great advice. I think I may try a few these. Thank you!!

[Anonymous]

Put notes in personal spaces: "Frances, why are you in here?" "If you need something, please ask."

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:My MIL will NOT STOP TALKING!! we are trying to watch a movie and she will not shut up!!! I also can't say a word to my DH without her adding her two cents!!! Even if I whisper it! So annoying!! She's in all of my business and goes through my stuff.

Thank you for the vent.

Ha, my aunt is a BIG talker. She talks pretty much all the time. I don't try to watch anything I want to concentrate on with her. She has 3 daughters--and one is exactly the same way. Some people are just chronically chatty.