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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I know you're mostly venting here, but do you want to curb this?

If she's visiting from out of town: Next time put her up at a nearby hotel. DH can make it seem like a treat. When a certain time arrives each night, DH drives her to her hotel. If she makes noise about how she'd rather stay with you to spend more time (read: every waking moment) with him or with the kids etc., DH smiles and smiles as he tells her how sweet that is, and how this is all about giving her a break from the kids or whatever. Don't waffle. She can't go through your stuff as freely if she's not in the house as much. Note how DH, not you, is the person who handles her in this scenario. The idea of "put up the in-laws at a hotel when they visit" comes up a LOT here on DCUM and some posters always say "They'll refuse, they'll fuss" etc. but you just have to make it happen and sell it, and not engage in debate about it.

As for going through your stuff, assuming you mean your personal belongings or papers and not just digging around in the linen closet to see the towels: Like a PP said, lock the doors to rooms you don't want her in. Don't have locking doorknobs on those rooms? Easy fix. Home Depot.

Talking during the movie: I'm more forgiving on that one. She might be lonely and trying to cram in as much interaction as she can while she's visiting. Even if it's one-sided where she just chatters, that is how some lonely people fill up the space, frankly. Let her choose the movie or TV show and she might be less likely to talk during it. Or do something where the family actually does interact, like go out to look at holiday lights together, or take her to unusual stores she doesn't have near her home (craft store, quilting store if that's her thing, large bookstore), or do any of the many tourist things around. That way she and you are focused on what you're doing and not on each other so much.

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OP here. This is great advice. I think I may try a few these. Thank you!![/quote]

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