My daughter made me cry today....

[Anonymous]

And I'm still emotional hours later.....I was driving DD (3) earlier and out of the blue she says to me " Mommy, to.morrow I going away" I say " where are you going baby?" She responds "back to God"......I ask her what made her say that and she mumbled something then said "new baby to love" I have no idea where this came from. She u understands she is adopted and knows that means she didn't grow in our tummies (2 moms) and we have books about waiting for our baby and babies being gifts from God. I told her she's not going anywhere and she will always be our baby etc etc . I'm upset though that in her little 3yo mind she thought she was going back or something.......

[Anonymous]

Which religion do you do, if any?

[Anonymous]

Those little brains come up with the weirdest things. Honestly, don't read too much into it. She'll have forgotten it tomorrow.

[Anonymous]

Dear OP,
She's a sweet 3 year old, that's all.
And you might want to toughen up - otherwise you'll be in tears for the next 15 years.

[Anonymous]

You are overthinking adoption.

[Anonymous]

It sounds like you're stressed, OP; maybe you need to relax a little.

[Anonymous]

This is OP, We are Episcopal.
I don't think im stressed, I am a somewhat emotional person though. It just breaks my heart that she had it in her head for some reason that she would 'go back'
We have had her since she was an infant so she has never lived anywhere else and doesnt know any different.
Hopefully I reassured her.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:This is OP, We are Episcopal.
I don't think im stressed, I am a somewhat emotional person though. It just breaks my heart that she had it in her head for some reason that she would 'go back'
We have had her since she was an infant so she has never lived anywhere else and doesnt know any different.
Hopefully I reassured her.

dont assume when she says "go back" that she means it the way you would. Did dhe seem upset? Sounds to me like you are doing a lot of projecting. We also adopted our kids from birth. Recently my husband found a drawing by 7 year old titled - my real dad- he was practically in tears. I casually asked son and it was a drawing for a story from school, not even about adoption.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:This is OP, We are Episcopal.
I don't think im stressed, I am a somewhat emotional person though. It just breaks my heart that she had it in her head for some reason that she would 'go back'
We have had her since she was an infant so she has never lived anywhere else and doesnt know any different.
Hopefully I reassured her.

dont assume when she says "go back" that she means it the way you would. Did dhe seem upset? Sounds to me like you are doing a lot of projecting. We also adopted our kids from birth. Recently my husband found a drawing by 7 year old titled - my real dad- he was practically in tears. I casually asked son and it was a drawing for a story from school, not even about adoption.

+1 to all this

[Anonymous]

My sister said something very similar when I was born. Neither of us are adopted.

7:36 is right, don't overthink it and don't worry too much.

[Anonymous]

I get being open about adoption but do you think you are over doing it with a 3 year old? Make sure it's age appropriate and not the topic of every discussion

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:It sounds like you're stressed, OP; maybe you need to relax a little.

+1 OP, you're the problem here, not her.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I get being open about adoption but do you think you are over doing it with a 3 year old?

That was dumb.

[Anonymous]

My son was 2 years old when our second baby was born. Starting around 3 years old (so when the baby was 1) he would say things like that. Specifically, that the baby would get bigger and then he would get to be smaller be the baby again, or go back in mommy's belly.

Your daughter is probably saying something similar, just talking about God because that is the way you discussed it with her.

[Anonymous]

She's just trying to process the books you are reading to her. Maybe she's just thinking everyone goes back to the place you started? Have you travelled lately? Do the books say God brought you into our life?

Another important aspect of this is how old was your child when she was adopted? Being old enough to have memories about it is very different than simply processing the stories you are telling her and would have to be addressed differently.