DW do you initiate sex or does your DH initiate?
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Anonymous
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The low sex drive thread made me wonder about this.
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Anonymous
| Both. I am more sexually attracted to my DH though. |
Anonymous
| I'm a DW and I am the only one to initiate. |
Anonymous
| We both do. Lately I do more because I'm pregnant so he's hesitant since he doesn't want to push or make me feel ubcomfortable. |
Anonymous
| Never...that's the males roles. |
Anonymous
| It's about 80% (DH)/20%. |
Anonymous
| ^^ Should add that DH doesn't care who initiates. As long as the results are the same. |
Anonymous
| I do a lot b/c DH told me I had to after I had an affair. So, now it is about 90% me initiating. |
Anonymous
With your husband? |
Anonymous
| Both but mostly DH does (70%) while I initiate (30%). Also, it has to do with how often we can sneak around the kids, who are still young. Whoever notices that they're asleep first, initiates. |
Anonymous
| I initiate about 4 to 1 compared to DW. But mostly we only actually have sex when she initiates. So, I'm not sure why I bother trying. |
Anonymous
What happens the rest of the time? |
Anonymous
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I'm more comfortable with DH initiating. But before he even proposed to me, he gave me a talk about how he needed to feel like I was really into him and the way he'd know that was if I sometimes initiated.
So I probably initiate once or twice a week. Closer to once than twice.  In 11 years of being together, he's turned me down once.
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Anonymous
She turns me down -- too tired, doesn't feel good, not feeling into it, "no thanks." |
Anonymous
Do you do most of the "work" too? Genuinely curious. I am guessing the initiating partner does most of the thrusting/riding/rocking/etc...... |