Ugh, family and jewelry....

[Anonymous]

So a cousin turned up with a very substantial diamond enegagement ring at Christmas. Everyone was commenting on how beautiful the ring was and cousin mentioned, in front of everyone, that the diamonds were from grandmother's engagement ring. The room went silent and one uncle asked his sister (the cousin's mother) how she got a hold of the ring. Sister got very defefensive, stated the ring was hers and "to shut down this conversation now, I don't have to answer anyone's questions."

(As a backstory, several of grandother's children were under the impression grandmother was buried with the ring. This is a very laid back family, and if the ring was actually passed on to this aunt, I think that (a) she would have said that and (b) no one would have cared if it had ended up on my cousin's finger.)

So....my parents were not there for Christmas this year. Do I bring this up? I think my mom has a right to know that cousin has the ring/diamond and that aunt wouldn't say how she came into the ring.

[Anonymous]

Wait, you guys were going to bury a huge diamond? That is really the most interesting part of the story.

[Anonymous]

Move along

[Anonymous]

Is she the oldest or the oldest female? It was probably in the will for her.

When my grandpa was buried they brought out the jewelry to us after they closed the casket.

[Anonymous]

1) Why would your family bury a woman with jewelry on? In my family, the tradition is to bury without any jewelry and to keep them as mementos.

2) Is this really your problem or are you bored and trying to stir up drama? Why not let somebody else do that and treat yourself to a peaceful New Year?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:1) Why would your family bury a woman with jewelry on? In my family, the tradition is to bury without any jewelry and to keep them as mementos.

2) Is this really your problem or are you bored and trying to stir up drama? Why not let somebody else do that and treat yourself to a peaceful New Year?

+1

Sounds like you're a drama queen, OP.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Wait, you guys were going to bury a huge diamond? That is really the most interesting part of the story.

It was our grandfather's choice at the time. I was only a kid when it happened but I assume, based on what I know now, that he was a mess with grief and not think rationally. He has also since passed.

I also cannot imagine anyone will take that ring back - that would be crazy. I just want to know if I should go ahead and tell my mom so she can talk to sister/mediate the conversation about how the ring came into the aunt's possession.

[Anonymous]

It's so weird to think of a granddaughter wearing a ring. In my family rings go to men to propose with, not to girls so their boyfriends can propose with them.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Wait, you guys were going to bury a huge diamond? That is really the most interesting part of the story.

It was our grandfather's choice at the time. I was only a kid when it happened but I assume, based on what I know now, that he was a mess with grief and not think rationally. He has also since passed.

I also cannot imagine anyone will take that ring back - that would be crazy. I just want to know if I should go ahead and tell my mom so she can talk to sister/mediate the conversation about how the ring came into the aunt's possession.

I mean, I would definitely tell my mom. But I wouldn't sit and pretend that it was because I wanted my mom to have a head's up when it's obvious she's going to find out in the very near future anyone from someone else's big mouth. You want to gossip. Just own it.

[Anonymous]

Sounds like your aunt took that ring! Otherwise she would have explained that her mother wanted her to have it and her father passed it on to her, or whatever the benign story was. The fact that she did not want to explain herself seems very suspicious to me.

I think you should tell your mother because it's possible your uncle will tell her, and if she knows that you knew and didn't say anything would she be upset with you? But I would mention it casually, not as a preface to a big drama.

[Anonymous]

Yes, you should tell her. Who are you protecting by not telling her after all? I can't imagine not mentioning this to my mother. But then it's up to her whether to do anything about it.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Wait, you guys were going to bury a huge diamond? That is really the most interesting part of the story.

It was our grandfather's choice at the time. I was only a kid when it happened but I assume, based on what I know now, that he was a mess with grief and not think rationally. He has also since passed.

I also cannot imagine anyone will take that ring back - that would be crazy. I just want to know if I should go ahead and tell my mom so she can talk to sister/mediate the conversation about how the ring came into the aunt's possession.

I mean, I would definitely tell my mom. But I wouldn't sit and pretend that it was because I wanted my mom to have a head's up when it's obvious she's going to find out in the very near future anyone from someone else's big mouth. You want to gossip. Just own it.

+1. I would tell my mom but it would be so we would gossip and take bets on who is going to flip their lid over the situation first.

[Anonymous]

I am one of six children and my mom left her engagement ring and wedding band to me.

Maybe your grandmother wanted the ring to go to your cousin's mother.

[Anonymous]

Ignore the entire thing. The ring was not yours. It was not your mother's. People need to stop expecting dead people will have left things for them as if they're owed these things.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Ignore the entire thing. The ring was not yours. It was not your mother's. People need to stop expecting dead people will have left things for them as if they're owed these things.

You're an idiot.