Truth in "guys who make you cry are not worth your tears" ?

[Anonymous]

I was on the verge of tears and later the flood gate opened while talking to my BF. The whole time I kept thinking about that quote. This isn't the first time he's made me cry when I've expressed frustration but the holidays have always been a touchy subject for me. Am I being too sensitive or is he a jerk?
We have talked about a future together but he keeps postponing so it makes me think he's not certain. I have been thinking if I want to continue in this or walk.

[Anonymous]

Why are you crying? Because you want a future together and he keeps postponing it? Is it the uncertainty or is it that you're unsure how he feels about you?

[Anonymous]

Impossible for us to say who is right here, but, OP, if you're not happy then move on. It doesn't sound like he makes you happy.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I was on the verge of tears and later the flood gate opened while talking to my BF. The whole time I kept thinking about that quote. This isn't the first time he's made me cry when I've expressed frustration but the holidays have always been a touchy subject for me. Am I being too sensitive or is he a jerk?
We have talked about a future together but he keeps postponing so it makes me think he's not certain. I have been thinking if I want to continue in this or walk.

He's not into you. Also, maybe you are not into him either. But it's just that you are too focused on him (due to pride, etc.), instead of sorting out what you really want.

[Anonymous]

he won't commit because you have already given him everything that he wants. Think about it, OP.

[Anonymous]

Sometimes I think he doesn't know what he really wants and flip flops back and forth with inconsistency. This isn't the first time I have felt like he's stringing me along.

I cried last night because he said aomething insensitive given its the holidays and all which he should have known or remembered that I'm sensitive this time of the year.

I hate how he makes me feel so alone and belittled for having feelings. Maybe I just don't feel heard by him. Sometimes I think he's not really listening because he doesn't hold strong eye contact. In turn it comes off as he doesn't care about what I have to say. Ironically though he thinks he's a great listener and tells me so!

[Anonymous]

Well for me it was! I married the sweetest guy and he still doesn't make me cry.

[Anonymous]

I don't understand all these posts about boyfriends. If it's just a boyfriend and things are bad, move on. Seriously. It's not going to get better. Grow up and do something good for yourself.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I don't understand all these posts about boyfriends. If it's just a boyfriend and things are bad, move on. Seriously. It's not going to get better. Grow up and do something good for yourself.

So you were born married? Never had a boyfriend?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I don't understand all these posts about boyfriends. If it's just a boyfriend and things are bad, move on. Seriously. It's not going to get better. Grow up and do something good for yourself.

So you were born married? Never had a boyfriend?

Or maybe not married?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Sometimes I think he doesn't know what he really wants and flip flops back and forth with inconsistency. This isn't the first time I have felt like he's stringing me along.

I cried last night because he said aomething insensitive given its the holidays and all which he should have known or remembered that I'm sensitive this time of the year.

I hate how he makes me feel so alone and belittled for having feelings. Maybe I just don't feel heard by him. Sometimes I think he's not really listening because he doesn't hold strong eye contact. In turn it comes off as he doesn't care about what I have to say. Ironically though he thinks he's a great listener and tells me so!

To me it's not as much about the comment as it his his reaction to your reaction. If he always reacts poorly when he has hurt your feelings that is not a good sign at all.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I don't understand all these posts about boyfriends. If it's just a boyfriend and things are bad, move on. Seriously. It's not going to get better. Grow up and do something good for yourself.

So you were born married? Never had a boyfriend?

Or maybe not married?

So because of that you are incapable of understanding people like the OP and others who desire relationships and are going through the process of getting the one they want?

[Anonymous]

Move on. Find a guy who adores you.

[Anonymous]

I want to understand him and work things out but it feels so exhausting to always be the upbeat one. We process things differently. He's a quiet type. I am the one who speaks my mind. Maybe we are not a good match for marriage...but opposites attract too and that's how I always saw us.

I used to date guys who "adored" me showered with gifts and fancy dinners but that for old quick. This guy is frugal to a fault and it seems like I just can't find a happy medium.

I think I keep waiting for "the straw that broke the camels back" to occur but it hasn't happened yet as that's what gives me hope that this guy is worthy of my love and vice versa, but loving someone shouldn't be so hard.

[Anonymous]

This does not sound like the type of relationship I would want to have for the rest of my life. OP, maybe you can't see it but you sound absolutely miserable.