Yea or nay, holiday card for admissions office?

[Anonymous]

We've had several good engagements with our top choice school's admissions office - open house, tour, student visit, etc. We sent a thank you after each one (including hand-written notes from our child after the student visit), but our application is complete now and we would not have any reason to contact the admissions office until decisions are made. We received a holiday card from the school in the mail. Is it appropriate to reciprocate, or does that appear over the top? And if the consensus is that it is appropriate, is it over the top to also include some homemade cookies or something and hand-deliver it? Thanks!

[Anonymous]

Yes, and you should consider cards and gifts to the Development office as well. They probably prefer cash over cookies.

[Anonymous]

My two cents- I think any communication back from the card that they mass-send and you are not yet a parent is over the top.

Maybe sending a nice Happy Holidays email to the admissions staff you've worked with the most closely might be OK

[Anonymous]

I would say no -- smacks a bit of desperation. Plus a lot of those folks are on break and only having a skeleton crew come in this week (if that) to check the mail, and your card will thus make more work! (and the cookies will go uneaten) Once you get in (fingers crossed, good luck), plenty of time for holiday cards and such.

[Anonymous]

I'd go with no.

[Anonymous]

No.

[Anonymous]

Thanks everyone! You've confirmed what my instincts were telling me. They have been very nice and if they do accept my daughter we'll have plenty of time to show our appreciation.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Thanks everyone! You've confirmed what my instincts were telling me. They have been very nice and if they do accept my daughter we'll have plenty of time to show our appreciation.

Wait, you weren't actually serious with the post were you? I assumed this was a joke.

[Anonymous]

We did! And we got a thank you email back from the staff!!

[Anonymous]

No, that's embarrassingly arse-kissy.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:We did! And we got a thank you email back from the staff!!

I'm the poster here. Maybe that's why I got a thank you email back because no one is doing this and the staff liked it!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:We did! And we got a thank you email back from the staff!!

I'm the poster here. Maybe that's why I got a thank you email back because no one is doing this and the staff liked it!

Maybe.OR maybe they just acknowledged it to pre-empt further unnecessary contact.

[Anonymous]

OMG - no way! Such a DON'T. And I say this as a parent with a kid at a "Big 3" in high school and another kid currently applying from a K-8 to the top schools for high school.

Even if I strongly disliked the other parents and didn't want them at the same school as us, I would never, ever EVER tell them this was even slightly a good idea. I promise you, if you do this you will look back one day and cringe at yourself. It would be the equivalent of looking at the polaroid photo of you from childhood where your mom put you in a brown and orange plaid suit with a matching cap. Just wrong.

[Anonymous]

Definitely do this and include some personal details you've unearthed when stalking the admissions committee.

[Anonymous]

Don't. It's too eager. Once your child is in the school then you can do as much as of this as you want and there will be plenty of opportunities to initiate that. Right now you'd be talked about but not in a good way, not the way you want to start the process esp if the decision isn't being made until March.