DH is just like his mother. Please help.

[Anonymous]

DH isn't happy unless he is "piling it on" - for example, if the kids make a ridiculous request, he justifies it, instead of saying no. DH's mother is known for this, she is passive aggressive and difficult. It's her way or the highway, and change is *not* an option. I am getting fed up, because it is really affecting DC, and how they treat me, as well. Is there a good marriage therapist in the Falls Church area? Male preferred, please help.

We have already brought DC to therapy, because it is getting so bad, and interfering with DC's life. DC wants to quit everything to make DH happy, instead of DH helping the situation. (Which is fine, DC can quit whatever they want, but it would not help, it would always be something else, with DH. Nor do I think that is the answer.) DH generally refuses therapy (ideally, his whole family would go - but that won't happen this late in the game, the damage is done.) There has been physical harm (no details, please - but a broken bone) to me by DC, because DH refuses to take a stand. There are issues that won't get better without *regular* therapy. I don't know what to do. Actually, I want out, but I don't know if that is optimum for DC.

[Anonymous]

Don't blame your husband's behavior on your MIL because you hate her. He's grown and responsible for his own behavior.

As for your violent child, you better get him some help before he visits that on someone else.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Don't blame your husband's behavior on your MIL because you hate her. He's grown and responsible for his own behavior.

As for your violent child, you better get him some help before he visits that on someone else.

What if the other guys OP dated did not behave like the DH's MIL?

[Anonymous]

Your post is sort of confusing.

[Anonymous]

I didn't really understand other than you want a family therapist.

[Anonymous]

I have no idea what's going on here--your kid(s) broke your arm, and you blame your MIL?

[Anonymous]

Why in the hell did you marry him and reproduce? Get some help, for all of you, pronto

[Anonymous]

Wow, OP, I'm sorry you've had a broken bone. I'd probably go through your insurance for a counselor, or ask your general practitioner for a referral. This sounds like a very bad situation for you, do people in your life know what's going on?