Do you have the ability to make someone fall in love with you?

[Anonymous]

Are you able to make someone fall in love with you? I had a friend who claimed all she had to do was lock her eyes with a guy and they were hers! I have another friend who literally can make anyone she wants fall in love. Her trick is to be very emotionally close, flirty and also uses that eye thing. What is your trick? Is this a skill only select women possess? I feel like if I don't follow all the stupid dating rules, I have better luck too. It has something to do with making myself very vulnerable--but this isn't safe for me in the long run.

[Anonymous]

If there is a trick, I don't have it. Part of the reason is I was always afraid to put myself out there. That being said, I have a husband who in love with me and he's not the only who has ever been.

[Anonymous]

If she's smoking hot then it wouldn't be too hard to hook a guy initially. Eventually, the guy is going to see through the act and if she's not a pleasant person underneath it all, they're going to implode soon enough.

[Anonymous]

You first friend was talking about lust, not love.

Your second friend - I don't think she's being sincere so the guy will figure it out.

For me, love only happens after you really know someone. The person behind the facade your friends are presenting. So those guys are falling in love with them.

[Anonymous]

Why would they need to have so many people fall in love with them if their love lives were satisfying?

I'd think their tricks were more impressive if each got the one guy of her choice to fall in love with her, and then to stay with her for the next 50 years.

[Anonymous]

I think women who have a life of their own, are happy and caring have the easiest time with this. Notice I didn't say women who are hot, smart, rich, skinny, or anything else.

[Anonymous]

I have only been successful with one. Luckily, one is all I need.

[Anonymous]

I don't know. The times when I have been the most successful at this are the times that I haven't been trying at all. Just happy, passionate about my work, my friends, my life.

When I really wanted someone, that's when it seemed not to work out. Go figure!

[Anonymous]

Yes. I realized in my early 20's I could get guys to do things for me but I thought it was immoral to mess with guys so I did not use my powers for evil.

[Anonymous]

I had that power late teens/early 20's. Guys that age are like puppy dogs that follow you around begging..too easy.

[Anonymous]

I do know someone that men follow like the Pied Piper. She is close to 50, singularly unattractive, smokes, drinks to excess, but men seem to find her irresistible. She is a throwback to Haight-Ashbury and dresses like a Hippie.

[Anonymous]

No nor do I believe anyone can do that.

[Anonymous]

I think I have this l power or maybe I'm really good at judging which guys will fall for me. I'm cute and have a good sense of humor. I know some of my friends have been surprised by the guys I've dated in the past. I'm not trying to brag here. I think it's a gift !

[Anonymous]

Yes, love is formulaic. There are some tried and true questions that can make someone fall in love with you!

http://www.nytimes.com/2015/01/11/fashion/modern-love-to-fall-in-love-with-anyone-do-this.html?_r=0

[Anonymous]

It's pheromones.