Wondering if DW is part of some kind of fight club...

[Anonymous]

Both me and DW each get one night a week to go out while the other talks care of the children after work. Over the past 6 weeks, DH has been coming home with bruises all over her body. I have also noticed her knuckles are perpetually bruised. Last night she came home and her cheekbone was red. She attributes these bruises to taking a triathlon training class. I not an expert in training for sporting events, but something tells me people training for triathlons don't come home looking like they have been jacked up. The other thing is, she leaves around 6p and gets home damn near midnight.

I thought maybe she was going to some kind of martial arts studio and did not want to tell me, so I check our bank account. No payments to any gyms or individuals I am not familiar with. No suspicious cash withdrawals. All our money goes into one bucket, so this is easy to verify.

Am I missing something? I am pretty much about the hire a sitter and secretly follow her. I'm not sure what to think.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Both me and DW each get one night a week to go out while the other talks care of the children after work. Over the past 6 weeks, DH has been coming home with bruises all over her body. I have also noticed her knuckles are perpetually bruised. Last night she came home and her cheekbone was red. She attributes these bruises to taking a triathlon training class. I not an expert in training for sporting events, but something tells me people training for triathlons don't come home looking like they have been jacked up. The other thing is, she leaves around 6p and gets home damn near midnight.

I thought maybe she was going to some kind of martial arts studio and did not want to tell me, so I check our bank account. No payments to any gyms or individuals I am not familiar with. No suspicious cash withdrawals. All our money goes into one bucket, so this is easy to verify.

Am I missing something? I am pretty much about the hire a sitter and secretly follow her. I'm not sure what to think.

Should say "DW." Still learning the lingo on this site.

[Anonymous]

HA! Please hire a sitter and follow her. I really want to know what she is up to.

[Anonymous]

We expect an update. I will keep this in my favorites.

[Anonymous]

is there any reason she might want to hide things like....

boxing?
krav maga?
rock climbing?
dom/sub relationship?

[Anonymous]

Any chance she is into the 50 Shades of Grey series too much?

[Anonymous]

OP here.

The reason I posted was to see if anyone could think of any other plausible reason as to why this would happen. Or maybe confirm that yes triathlon training is that intense.

My mind wonders on this and a small part of me feels it could be rough sex from an affair she is having. If she is, then she's really beating the shit out of whoever the guy is, based on the condition of her hands. Would someone actually enjoy that? I really don't believe this is the case in my gut.

I'm trying to not be overly paranoid about it. But what the hell else could she possibly be doing?

[Anonymous]

She's gone form 6pm to midnight every night? And tells you it is a 'triathalon training class?'

[Anonymous]

I've done triathlons - lots of them, never had anything happy to my hands.

Crossfit type workouts? Maybe?

[Anonymous]

Sounds shady OP. Triatholon training is a pretty lame explanation.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:She's gone form 6pm to midnight every night? And tells you it is a 'triathalon training class?'

One night a week, he said.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:is there any reason she might want to hide things like....

boxing?
krav maga?
rock climbing?
dom/sub relationship?

For the first three- no. I don't care if she is taking martial arts. I normally don't even delve into the things she does on her off night. But shes never come home looking like shes been in a fist fight either.

To the last one- we do not have an open marriage, so I could see that be worthy of hiding. But I really don't think she is doing this, but its a possibility. Sex has been tough lately due to our schedules and our kids are very young (4 under 5). Seems extreme though, and rather sloppy if shes doing this on her only real night out.

[Anonymous]

Hmm. Well, she seems to be lying, since you're right, those bruises don't at all correspond with triathlon training. I'd guess fight club, boxing class, or a very weird and affair. Probably one of the first two. I would follow her - or, rather, hire someone/ask a buddy to do it since she'll probably notice you. Good luck.

[Anonymous]

Yeah, affair just seems too weird given your description of her physical appearance. Perhaps it is some sort of martial art/boxing. I could see wanting to keep that secret from my DH if I was doing something like that (though I would "tell"), because in my case, it might just seem to ridiculous for words that I was attempting to be a "street fighter" or whatever.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I've done triathlons - lots of them, never had anything happy to my hands.

Crossfit type workouts? Maybe?

Cross fit sounds plausible from what I know about it. But she did not say Cross fit. She said triathlon. Unless I misunderstand the terms, those are two totally different sports.