Help on this dilemma - two weddings, one night

[Anonymous]

I'm hoping there is something I'm not thinking of here - any ideas would be helpful!

We have two weddings scheduled for the same night in June. One is DH's (close) cousin, and the other is his close friend from childhood. The cousin's wedding (wedding A) is about 1.5 hours away. The friend's wedding (wedding B) is in FL. We have two young children, ages 4 and 2, and live in the DC area. Cost not a factor.

For wedding A, we'd likely bring the kids and arrange some kind of sitter situation at the hotel where the wedding is. We could also potentially ask a sitter to stay at our house with them overnight. DH's whole family will be there as well - big gathering of family though we do see a lot of them fairly regularly.

For wedding B, we could stay at DH's parents' house (they live in the same town where the wedding is but will obviously not be there since they will be at the other one). We don't have anyone that can stay home with the kids overnight while we travel that far (only ones we could use would be DH's parents and/or sister but they will all be at the other wedding - my parents are deceased), so we'd have to bring them with us and find a family friend or something to stay with them while we are at the wedding.

I think DH would prefer to go to wedding B. Me missing both weddings to stay home with the kids while he goes there seems silly. I guess I could go to wedding A with his family and get a sitter, but in that scenario I'd rather go to B!

WWYD? What am I missing?

[Anonymous]

I'd go to wedding A. A family wedding is slightly more important, especially when it means seeing everyone.

[Anonymous]

OP here - also, not sure if this matters, but friend (wedding B) came to our wedding, cousin (wedding A) did not.

[Anonymous]

I agree close family wedding trumps friend wedding and logistics also push A above B.

[Anonymous]

I would go to wedding B. Bring the kids and hire a sitter/get a family friend to watch the kids.

[Anonymous]

Wedding B. Family will understand, and you obviously want to go to that wedding more.

Just tell family you had already committed to wedding B.

[Anonymous]

Which wedding did you know about first? Did you make any kind of statement to one couple before the other that you would be there for their wedding? Maybe you can say, "Oh, I wish we had known, but we already told Kate and Tim we'd be at their wedding. So sorry!"

[Anonymous]

Wedding B since you see family fairly often, grandparents wouldn't see your kids it seems like, and b/c your DH wants to be there for his friend.

[Anonymous]

I'd let DH choose -- his family, his friend.

If he wants to go to the friend's wedding, I'd consider staying home with the kids, unless I was close to the friend too.

[Anonymous]

Are the kids invited to wedding A? If so, DH goes to wedding B, you take kids to wedding A.

[Anonymous]

What were you invited to first?

[Anonymous]

Any chance you could see family coming to town for Wedding A on Friday. Not go to the rehearsal dinner but maybe see some of them before the rehearsal. Then fly down to Florida Sat am for wedding B? If not go to wedding B and send a great gift to the cousins.

[Anonymous]

I'd make DH decide and suggest consulting with his parents first. If there's fallout from his decision - he has to deal with it.

[Anonymous]

Wedding A. Family trumps friend, especially since you said it was a close cousin. It doesn't matter if they attended yours or not.

[Anonymous]

I think since you see the family often, I'd go with the friend.