Second pregnancy after 35

[Anonymous]

If you got pregnant and carried to term easily before 35, what was your experience TTC at age 35 or 36? Did you have a similarly easy time, or was it harder?

I know there have been several recent threads on pregnancy after 35, but I am interested in this specific question and would really like to hear people's experiences. TIA.

[Anonymous]

I got pregnant easily at 35.5 (took 2 months). Had an easy pregnancy and delivery and have a happy and healthy toddler.

Now trying for #2 at 38. It's been 8 months and no pregnancy. My Day 3 bloodwork is bad--very low AMH and borderline high FSH. I was told that our chances of conceiving naturally or with IVF are low. I'm giving it 5 more months of TTC naturally before we start with donor eggs. I'm not going to do traditional IVF. If my eggs are that crappy I don't want to waste my time and take all those meds when chances of success are so low.

[Anonymous]

35 is a good cut off, anything older is risky, not good on your body and risks birth defects or complications. Do you really want to be 65 years old when your kids graduate college? 90 when you meet your grand kids?

[Anonymous]

I had my first 2 before 35 - conceived without interventions and vaginal delivery. Pregnancy was normal. I'm 36 with my third - conceived easily and hoping for a vaginal delivery. Pregnancies 1 and 2 were pretty similar. It is clear with my third that things are much stretchier. I think that has more to do with the # adn not my age.

[Anonymous]

I'm now 36 weeks pregnant with my second child. I was 35 when I conceived (we tried for two months), and am now 36. Easy pregnancy, all has been fine, everything looks good.

I had my first when I was 33.

If we had had difficulty TTC for this one, I think we would have done up to a year of trying naturally, but then would not have pursued IVF or other measures. We would probably have considered adoption.

Good luck!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:35 is a good cut off, anything older is risky, not good on your body and risks birth defects or complications. Do you really want to be 65 years old when your kids graduate college? 90 when you meet your grand kids?

I'm all for not being a granny mom, but how on earth could you expect to be 90 at the time of meeting your grandkids when you have a child at say, 37? That would mean your kid would have to become a parent at 53, which is highly unlikely. Could you be 70? Sure. But let's not exaggerate.

[Anonymous]

I dealt with IF with #1 and #2, so I can't speak to whether age made a difference.

In terms of pregnancies, things are very similar with #1 and #2, but I am more stretched out and stiffer the second time... not sure how much of that has to do with age v. not working out as much or eating as health, having a toddler, being in a more demanding job, having a longer commute...

[Anonymous]

I got pregnant after a year of trying with my first at age 32. Not the best pregnancy - I swelled up like a balloon and put on a ton of weight. Deal with carpal tunnel and was ultimately induced due to preeclampsia.

Fast forward to my second pregnancy at 35. Conceived on the first try. Pregnancy was a breeze. No issues at all, and I went 40+ weeks.

(Both of the children are boys, so there's no gender differences there.)

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:35 is a good cut off, anything older is risky, not good on your body and risks birth defects or complications. Do you really want to be 65 years old when your kids graduate college? 90 when you meet your grand kids?

Don't fear monger.

OP, I don't have two. Yet. I had my son at 36 and he is healthy and happy and awesome. My pregnancy was fairly complication-free. The complications that I did have were run of the mill complications that could happen at any age. Easy enough delivery, recovery, etc.

I'm TTC, hoping to have #2 when I'm 39.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:35 is a good cut off, anything older is risky, not good on your body and risks birth defects or complications. Do you really want to be 65 years old when your kids graduate college? 90 when you meet your grand kids?

A person would have to have a child at 43 in order to be 65 when the child graduates college. And btw, that doesn't sound that terrible.

A person would have to be 45 and then their child would have to be 45 when they had a child in order to be 90 when they meet their grand kids.

You have given a hysterical and absurd response to the OP's question.

[Anonymous]

No difference at all in how long it took to conceive and how the pregnancy was for my 2nd at 36 than my first at 33, except I had morning sickness with #2 but not #1.

[Anonymous]

First at 33, 1st month, easy pregnancy

Second at 36, 3rd month, awful pregnancy

Both healthy babies.

[Anonymous]

First conceived at 34, 1st month trying, monitoring required for some minor issues with the baby but overall easy pregnancy (no morning sickness), delivered a month before turning 35.

Second pregnancy at 37 and 1 month, 2nd month trying, blighted ovum diagnosed at 7 weeks. D&C at 9 weeks.

Third pregnancy at 37 and 6 months, 1st month trying, currently 24 weeks pregnant. With the exception of morning sickness that persists even now, this pregnancy has been very boring and the baby looks great so far.

[Anonymous]

Similarly easy. Conceived the first month of trying at 34, 36, and 38 (17 weeks into this pregnancy).

[Anonymous]

First conceived at 32, took six months of very careful timing, charting, and using OPKs. Normal pregnancy til sudden pre-eclampsia at the end, but child ended up fine.

Second conceived at 36 on first cycle off the pill. Totally shocked. Still in second tri, but so far so good.