Second pregnancy after 35

[Anonymous]

My first is a boy, born when I was 34.5 after one year of trying including two miscarriages. Bad joint and hip pain during second and third trimester.

My second will be a girl, will be born at 36.5 (I am 36 weeks along) after 1 month trying.

A side from the extra sonograms I have to undergo on this last month because I crossed what I perceive as some imaginary line into geriatric-y it is a much easier pregnancy than the first.

Every pregnancy will be different and every person will be different. Do not take your informal survey here seriously.

I do love the granny mom discussion going on though.

[Anonymous]

Got pregnant at 27 with my first on the fourth cycle (charting, OPKs, preseed, etc).

Got pregnant at 30 with my second on the fifth cycle (same).

Starting trying for #3 at 34. It's been about 18 months (36 now) and nothing. The first 6-8 months, I charted, used OPKs, preseed, the menstrual cups, etc. It was making me completely crazy so I stopped. Still having sex a few times during my fertile period each month but nothing. I have reasons to believe there could be issues with one or both of us. We still aren't using any protection, but we've sort of taken it as a sign that it's not meant to be and don't really plan to pursue anything in terms of testing.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:35 is a good cut off, anything older is risky, not good on your body and risks birth defects or complications. Do you really want to be 65 years old when your kids graduate college? 90 when you meet your grand kids?

A person would have to have a child at 43 in order to be 65 when the child graduates college. And btw, that doesn't sound that terrible.

A person would have to be 45 and then their child would have to be 45 when they had a child in order to be 90 when they meet their grand kids.

You have given a hysterical and absurd response to the OP's question.

This math is ridiculous. My mom had me at 36 and my younger brother at 38. She just met her first grandkid at 64...

[Anonymous]

I had my first at 34. Pregnant after first month of trying. Really rough pregnancy including severe pre-e and emergency c section at 37 weeks. She is a completely normal toddler. I'm currently pregnant with our second at 36. I had one early miscarriage. So far, an easier pregnancy except for the increased in doctors appointments.

[Anonymous]

Had my first at 33. Relatively easy labor and birth. Now 36 years old and 28 weeks with #2 and feeling the same as the first time. Maybe feel a bit better even, not as many aches really. Will have to wait and see how labor goes.

[Anonymous]

First at 36, took 9 months, easy pregnancy

Second at 38, oops DH didn't want to use a condom, easy pregnancy so far

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:35 is a good cut off, anything older is risky, not good on your body and risks birth defects or complications. Do you really want to be 65 years old when your kids graduate college? 90 when you meet your grand kids?

HA! I had a grandmother who was almost 80 when I was born. She had my Dad at 40 and my Dad had be at 39. I was her youngest grandkid. Of my 4 grandparents, she lived the longest. She saw me almost graduate from college and was 100 years old when she died. She never, in her wildest dreams, thought she'd see me even get to high school, much less almost done with college.

She was also written off by her family as an old maid since she wasn't married by 25 and shipped to America to work and support herself. She met and married my grandfather at age 30. She was considered way damaged goods by then.