Teacher called my 2nd grader annoying

[Anonymous]

What would you do? She just told me her wonderful nice teacher called her annoying. I need a good way of handling this, i know my daughter is a chatter box and can be annoying, but i don't want the teacher to call her annoying, this can definitely destroy her self-esteem.

[Anonymous]

First of all, I would not assume that's exactly what happened. Kids are not reliable narrators. I would ask the teacher for his or her side of the story.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:First of all, I would not assume that's exactly what happened. Kids are not reliable narrators. I would ask the teacher for his or her side of the story.

+1

"You're annoying your classmate with your behavior."

It could've been something like this.

[Anonymous]

I would definitely not jump to conclusions before speaking to the teacher. Call or email the teacher.

[Anonymous]

Sometimes I say to my kids "stop annoying your sister or brother" or "please stop what you're doing..it's annoying" or "what you are doing is annoying". That's different to me than "you are annoying'. Hard to tell. Sometimes kids don't say it exactly the way it was said.

I would ask, what were you doing when she said that? And maybe explain to her that the teacher may have meant that what she was doing was annoying, and not really that she herself is annoying. I think by second grade, you can teach them the difference.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:First of all, I would not assume that's exactly what happened. Kids are not reliable narrators. I would ask the teacher for his or her side of the story.

+1

"You're annoying your classmate with your behavior."

It could've been something like this.

Or...

"Touching other kids/interrupting/always playing with your classmate's hair/etc is very annoying to others and you need to stop.

OP, my first question would be to ask my kid what they were doing in the lead up to being "called annoying". If she was indeed doing something that is annoying I would then talk to uer about boundaries. Very likely your kid is not relaying an accurate or complete story to you.

[Anonymous]

"Please stop making that sound. It's really annoying." "Please stop poking Larla. You're annoying her." "I'm annoyed that you keep following me around to ask questions instead of raising your hand."

[Anonymous]

Maybe your kid was annoying...

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:"Please stop making that sound. It's really annoying." "Please stop poking Larla. You're annoying her." "I'm annoyed that you keep following me around to ask questions instead of raising your hand."

You make a good point here but at the same time they need to explain in detail the word annoying give some examples in a positive way.

[Anonymous]

Definitely ask your kid what she was doing when her teacher said she was annoying.
If she was doing something distracting or disruptive, THAT is what you should deal with - not what the teacher said.
If your daughter doesn’t know (or won’t tell you), ask the teacher.
But, ask it in such a way as to indicate that you are supporting the teacher and not accusing her of something.
We need to stop making excuses for our children’s poor behavior by criticizing the teacher for calling them out on it.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:First of all, I would not assume that's exactly what happened. Kids are not reliable narrators. I would ask the teacher for his or her side of the story.

+1

"You're annoying your classmate with your behavior."

It could've been something like this.

Or...

"Touching other kids/interrupting/always playing with your classmate's hair/etc is very annoying to others and you need to stop.

OP, my first question would be to ask my kid what they were doing in the lead up to being "called annoying". If she was indeed doing something that is annoying I would then talk to uer about boundaries. Very likely your kid is not relaying an accurate or complete story to you.

I asked her 3 times why her teach said that, she couldn't remember, i will ask her again. Her teacher is super sweet so it's hard to see her say that, but i was thinking maybe she got frustrated with her and said it. I will further investigate by asking my daughter what really happen again

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Maybe your kid was annoying...

OP even said as much, so...

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:First of all, I would not assume that's exactly what happened. Kids are not reliable narrators. I would ask the teacher for his or her side of the story.

+1

"You're annoying your classmate with your behavior."

It could've been something like this.

Or...

"Touching other kids/interrupting/always playing with your classmate's hair/etc is very annoying to others and you need to stop.

OP, my first question would be to ask my kid what they were doing in the lead up to being "called annoying". If she was indeed doing something that is annoying I would then talk to uer about boundaries. Very likely your kid is not relaying an accurate or complete story to you.

I asked her 3 times why her teach said that, she couldn't remember, i will ask her again. Her teacher is super sweet so it's hard to see her say that, but i was thinking maybe she got frustrated with her and said it. I will further investigate by asking my daughter what really happen again

Um yeah, your daughter KNOWS exactly what happened and it's not like she told you originally. I think your DD may be annoying

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Maybe your kid was annoying...

she is annoying, i will admit, but the teacher shouldn't had told her she is annoying point blank, if this is how it went, i'm not for sure, i will ask my child again for the 5th time

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:First of all, I would not assume that's exactly what happened. Kids are not reliable narrators. I would ask the teacher for his or her side of the story.

+1

"You're annoying your classmate with your behavior."

It could've been something like this.

Or...

"Touching other kids/interrupting/always playing with your classmate's hair/etc is very annoying to others and you need to stop.

OP, my first question would be to ask my kid what they were doing in the lead up to being "called annoying". If she was indeed doing something that is annoying I would then talk to uer about boundaries. Very likely your kid is not relaying an accurate or complete story to you.

I asked her 3 times why her teach said that, she couldn't remember, i will ask her again. Her teacher is super sweet so it's hard to see her say that, but i was thinking maybe she got frustrated with her and said it. I will further investigate by asking my daughter what really happen again

Chances are - she won’t remember. Or, she is choosing not to tell you.
Talk to the teacher if this bothers you. The teacher will be able to tell you.