Teacher called my 2nd grader annoying

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Maybe your kid was annoying...

Not OP, but a teacher should not call kids annoying. Teachers should be better at expressing themselves.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:"Please stop making that sound. It's really annoying." "Please stop poking Larla. You're annoying her." "I'm annoyed that you keep following me around to ask questions instead of raising your hand."

You make a good point here but at the same time they need to explain in detail the word annoying give some examples in a positive way.

No, not really. Everything isn't positive.

OP since your daughter can't remember, ask the teacher. Your daughter remembers being called annoying but doesn't remember why? I doubt the teacher just blurted out "You're annoying!" for no reason.

[Anonymous]

I'm surprised no one has asked yet- but how old is your child? That factors in a bit. My own child interpreted a teacher asking her to talk to her directly about issues and not just his parents to "don't tell your parents" - he was kindergarten. Thankfully the counselor also attended and could easily understand how a child that age could think that was what was said.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP - say to the teacher "I'd like re-enforce good behavior at home as well as in the class. Can you let me know what DD did that was annoying so I can address it at home as well?"

I'm also a teacher and a parent to a child the same age as yours. Personally, I'd let it go. If you have to say something this is the way to do it.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I'm surprised no one has asked yet- but how old is your child? That factors in a bit. My own child interpreted a teacher asking her to talk to her directly about issues and not just his parents to "don't tell your parents" - he was kindergarten. Thankfully the counselor also attended and could easily understand how a child that age could think that was what was said.

It's annoying when people post without reading the title of the thread.

[Anonymous]

What have we come to if we're worried aboutour kids' ' self esteem' being destroyed if somebody calls them annoying?
The kid's going to hear a lot worse in life.

[Anonymous]

Have you ever told your child that she's annoying?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:If the child was being annoying it is entirely appropriate for the teacher to tell her such. Good grief, we need to stop bubble wrapping our kids and allow them to face reality.

+1000

You reinforce what you allow.

[Anonymous]

OP, you'd become "that parent" if you go with this complaint. She didn't call her stupid or a crybaby, she called her "annoying". Yes, chatterboxes are annoying. My DS is a chatterbox. And he can be annoying.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Maybe your kid was annoying...

Not OP, but a teacher should not call kids annoying. Teachers should be better at expressing themselves.

I'm a teacher and I agree 100%. So I only call my students nettlesome, vexatious, and galling.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Maybe your kid was annoying...

she is annoying, i will admit, but the teacher shouldn't had told her she is annoying point blank, if this is how it went, i'm not for sure, i will ask my child again for the 5th time

You believe every word that comes out of your kid's mouth? You don't know what happened, and asking your kid again won't help you learn.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Maybe your kid was annoying...

she is annoying, i will admit, but the teacher shouldn't had told her she is annoying point blank, if this is how it went, i'm not for sure, i will ask my child again for the 5th time

Or you could just let it go!

[Anonymous]

Don't kids need to know when their behavior is annoying to others?

[Anonymous]

I was a teacher in another life. I spent five minutes one day talking to one of my students about how I would take care of what another student did. That it was my responsibility--not his. (He was quite a "tattletale") I was careful to pick my words and I tried to be tactful. At the end of the conversation, he told me not to tell him to "mind his own business"! I had never said to "mind his own business". In all honesty, that is what I meant, but I chose my words carefully. But, it made him mad, anyway--because he got the point.

The teacher may not have even used the term "annoying"........that may have been your DD's interpretation--maybe, because she was annoying.

[Anonymous]

You have to go to covert war with the teacher, to show the rest of them that they better treat your kid right or they are going to catch it.

Go to a "spy equipment" site and pick a body camera (with audio). Make sure the setup will work well with how your daughter operates in the classroom. If a brooch works, go with that. If it's better to have her keep a supply box on her desk, or a stuffed comfort animal or something, then go that way.

The point is, get the teacher on video and audio. Then edit the footage so that it makes the teacher look really bad.

That will do the trick in this class, and it will put the absolute fear of God in the rest of the teachers moving forward. The end result is that your daughter will get Oxford-style education, where the teacher is a de facto personal tutor, for the duration of her time in the elementary school.