Funny joke, or antagonistic?

[Anonymous]

So I was on a trip and came home last night. On the way out, I flew out of DCA, but for my return flight came into IAD. My husband was supposed to pick me up at IAD. Because he had dropped me off at DCA last week, and it's unusual for me to use different airports like that, I texted him yesterday afternoon reminding him that I was flying into IAD. He replied that he'd be there.

So my flight landed at 9 pm. And almost immediately I got a text saying "I'm in the cell phone lot. I had a lot of trouble getting through Crystal city." So I'm thinking "What? Why would he need to go through crystal city to get to Dulles?" And I realized that if he went through Crystal city, he must have gone to Reagan!!!! I kind of panic and text him "You know I just landed at Dulles, right?" and he replies "Seriously? You are at Dulles?"

And the exchange went on a couple minutes before he texts me that he was just joking and he really is at Dulles.


So my question is--is that a funny joke? Or is it a dick move to make me stress out and panic the minute I land after a flight? I was really pissed, and he thinks I'm over reacting about a joke.

He does this kind of thing frequently--intentionally tries to cause stress or "push buttons."

[Anonymous]

Not funny. Jokes that are intended to stress people out or push buttons are not funny. They are little power plays by the joker.

[Anonymous]

You two sound mismatched as a couple. GL.

[Anonymous]

I think it's the kind of joke that will be much funnier later. I completely understand your panic in the moment.

[Anonymous]

I think it's funny, but my wife and I are sick.

Come to think of it, I need to use that on her the next time I pick her up from the airport.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I think it's funny, but my wife and I are sick.

Come to think of it, I need to use that on her the next time I pick her up from the airport.

+1 I laughed reading this, but DH and I have that kind of humor .

OP, have you ever let your husband know you don't find his jokes funny or do you just laugh along?

[Anonymous]

I think it's slightly funny, but he probably shouldn't do that if you are prone to getting stressed.

[Anonymous]

If you're still harping on it then yes, you're overreacting.

[Anonymous]

I think it's funny. But it probably should't have gone on for more than one exchange.

[Anonymous]

Funny, but this kind of question airways requires more context to freaky answer.

Like had you been fighting and not doing well and he just did it to be mean? When you got to the car did he greet you lovingly while laughing or make fun of you? Jokes are only funny if the person can receive them, but who wants to hang with someone who can't take a joke? It's ask about the context.

[Anonymous]

I think it's funny and DH and I would do that, but that's us . . . If you feel your DH knew, or should have known, that you would not find the joke.funny, that's an issue

[MikeL]

Anonymous wrote:I think it's funny. But it probably should't have gone on for more than one exchange.

Yeah, once it's funny. After that, not so much.

[Anonymous]

Funny!

[Anonymous]

Funny

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:So I was on a trip and came home last night. On the way out, I flew out of DCA, but for my return flight came into IAD. My husband was supposed to pick me up at IAD. Because he had dropped me off at DCA last week, and it's unusual for me to use different airports like that, I texted him yesterday afternoon reminding him that I was flying into IAD. He replied that he'd be there.

So my flight landed at 9 pm. And almost immediately I got a text saying "I'm in the cell phone lot. I had a lot of trouble getting through Crystal city." So I'm thinking "What? Why would he need to go through crystal city to get to Dulles?" And I realized that if he went through Crystal city, he must have gone to Reagan!!!! I kind of panic and text him "You know I just landed at Dulles, right?" and he replies "Seriously? You are at Dulles?"

And the exchange went on a couple minutes before he texts me that he was just joking and he really is at Dulles.


So my question is--is that a funny joke? Or is it a dick move to make me stress out and panic the minute I land after a flight? I was really pissed, and he thinks I'm over reacting about a joke.

He does this kind of thing frequently--intentionally tries to cause stress or "push buttons."

Why would this make you stress and panic? The realistic worst-case scenario is that you either take a cab and meet him at home, or hang out at the airport for an hour and catch up on email while he drives from DCA to IAD. Sure, I'd be irritated if my husband had gone to the wrong airport to pick me up, but it's not like it would mean I was trapped at the airport for the night. Clearly your senses of humor aren't aligned, but I think the bigger issue is your anxiety level.